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Every woman has turned me down within one or two dates. The furtherst I've ever gotten is a kiss on the cheek. I've never had a kiss on the lips or sex. Not once. I desperately want a real relationship and to get married, but I can't get anywhere with women. Now I'm 41 and am feeling old.
Stop saying it's too late! It's not. What I'd suggest doing is gaining some confidence. Get it through your brain that it's not too late. You're only 41 for God's sake! You're acting like your 90 or something. Of course with that confidence no woman will want you. Change the way you see things. Gain confidence that's the first step.
Also, I don't believe in the word "ugly". You can fix your appearence. Remember looks also come from confidence! Work out. Just force yourself to go to the gym! Create a schedule for it and stick to it. Get a nice haircut. Buy new clothes that make you good looking. You can do SO MANY things to change your appearence! Of course this takes time, and patiennce, but you have to ask yourself how badly do you want a woman in your life? Or do you want to die alone?
When you've finally fixed yourself, you can go out and date. There are alot of singles at this age. You just have to change your view on things. Good luck!
I'm 20 years old and I've never been on a date or even asked a girl out in my entire life. Never had a kiss on the cheek either. Try online dating services, they may help break the ice.
The worst im suspecting here is that that kiss on the cheek was because they felt sorry for you. Im sorry but if so many women are turning you down is because there is something wrong with YOU.
Lets talk natural selection human nature here. Physically. Are you naturally(genetically) disgustingly skinny or thin.? most women want someone who will "protect them" and you just wont do. OR, are you morbidly obese.? gross thats a turn off. Is there something wrong with your face.? is it grotesque (crooked teeth, gigantic nose or ears) come on theres gotta be something...
You must have some vices or bad habits that turn women off. alot of men are immature. Hmmm, hard to say.
One things for sure though, NO its not normal, and there is somethng wrong with you
There's something wrong with me. Overweight but not morbidly and poor social skills. May as well slam my head against the wall. Too late at 41. The creep factor has got to be off the charts.
dude, go to the gym.! seriously. when you LOOK good, you FEEL good. A toned fit body is just that. attractive. The way muscles work, its never too late. they WILL respond if you lift weights:)
and no ur wrong there are some hot cassanovas out there who are old but still attract women. its all about confidence and stop worrying all the time...geez im getting mildly depressed just reading about you lol
Im suspecting that you have your comfort zone established and automatically reject or put down any other offer besides that. (im suspecting that you've already put up an excuse to NOT go to the gym lol)
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Forget it. Gyms are full of unfriendly people. I've been treated badly one too many times in gyms.
sighh allright i tried to lend a hand with some advice but you left me with no choice
Grow some ba11s and MAN UP.....pus$y.
Females already have a puSSy they dont need another one(YOU)
There's your problem. Who gives a shit about the people in the gym. Your there for your own sake not theirs.
Are you a creep? I mean, you said it yourself. Something is up sexually is what I'm starting to wonder..
I'm having a hard time with this one. I want to believe you but... I just cant.
Apparently djpatties is in the same situation. You guys can go be butt buddies.
Haha, all I needed to do was read your profile. Situations that would break a civilian.
Thats classic. I better shut up though only the toughest tough guys brag about it online.
Thanks for the laugh.
Your talking to a veteran.
Good idea to shut up, your brighter than I thought.
But what if I dont want to shut up?
And what if I dont care if you are a veteran or not?
Did you enjoy being a whipping boy for politicians who started a war because of oil?
I enjoyed every bit of it. Like you read, ive been in situations you would obviously be crushed under. Bullets through their eyes was like a breathe of fresh air.
So you enjoy being used by your government? In all honesty it makes sense, you dont seem intelligent anyway, what else would you be able to do after all? You seem to like being used, I enjoy using you for a laugh.
Bullets through their eyes was like a breath of fresh air.
Hahaha
Google the "mystery method" or even download the book. I dont buy into all of it but it will help you with the basic psychology of women in general.
Whats the reason why this is so important to you anyway? Yet you wont do anything about it? Is it the pressure of society that makes you think you are inferior for not being in a relationship? Cant you just ignore or not care about that or realize it just exists in your head?
How many people are in marriages/relationships that they regret very much but cant escape because of kids or some other outside pressure? They would probably trade places with you in a heartbeat.
If your life is that difficult and nugatory you can always kill yourself. Not that I recommend it, but once you hit a certain age (early to mid 30s which you have passed) life gets to be pretty pointless anyway. At 41 you should have realized this long ago.
After reading all of this I realized your just a fucking dick. Get off of this self pitty bull shit or have fun with your hand the rest of your life. Your probably the master in masturbation. Obviously you don't want help. so there is no use in saying anything nice. You propably jack off to little boys anyways.
I am 47 and have been in one sort of relationship that lasted a 2-3 years but that was it, so i know how you feel....i havent been on a date in 25 years....i too lack confidence because of the many rejections i have had..i just don't feel it is worth it..i would give up but i am horny constantly ..i am not afraid of women per se it is just that i fel i will be rejected...i look for women to shpw some interest ime and they never seem too.it hurts like hell not to mention the frustration of being horny all the time
You need to grow a pair of balls and start dominating the women you are trying to date. Once you get someone's # you need to be calling them constantly to remind them of their inferiority to you because they are women. Women also like being pursued, so this really kills 2 birds with one stone.
This should help with the ice breaking, and get you in. Once you are in try sending lewd and graphic pictures of yourself in compromising poses, in women's underwear, with animals, etc. Women love a man who is confident enough to do what he wants to do and doesnt give a shit what anyone including the law thinks about it. Remember good girls like bad guys.
This is a good start right here.
This is actually my fear... No offense. I have Social anxiety and server low self esteem so I can't get myself to go sexually active. It's scary for me. I've had an opportunity once so far and I should of said yes but I was scared to death and avoided it. I don't know how long it'll be until I can get the courage. I just got my first kiss last month. I'm 18 btw.... The farthest I've gotten with a girl is making out. I don't know how it happened and I'm shocked that it did.
When I was a kid I developed great sense of humor because I was so skinny and crappy looking. I'm sure you've developed some parts of your brain because of this problem too.
How tall are you? How much do you weigh? Where d'you live? What color are you (mostly needed if you live in the US lol)? Have you had any psychological problems (my bro hasn't been with too many girls as far as I know and he's 35...and that's cause he's schizophrenic)? What d'you do for a living?
I'd love to help if I can, but need the above to do so...
If you have no physical deformities, it must be your social skills.
Women like to talk so all you have to do is keep asking questions and keep listening to the answers.
There's someone for everyone, just find someone nice and not so glamorous.
It's worse than cheating without remorse and of the 28% accrording to you all. It's probably more like 5% among the women.
I'll be a 51 year old with no relationships in 10 years. Failure breeds failure and there's no way out.
Very few women want to be a man's first even at 31, let alone 41. A woman swould take a serial cheater over me.
Try online dating like the diet commenter suggested and talk to them for awhile b4 meeting them. It may help
We need more love, more sex and fewer babies in this place!
I have some ideas on this topic, please ask me about them.
Here's the problems associated with dating, etc.
We all go through cycles in trying to find sex.
Online dating doesn't work all that well because you join when you're horny and by the time you meet someone ( if you're lucky ) , you have progressed into another part of the cycle.
The Bar Scene is something else entirely and can promote dangerous sexual behaviour.
The solution is: is to have a system set up that promotes instantaneous and safe sexual behaviour.
I have carefully thought this out, it is not too complex, but it would be lengthy to explain it all here. Should you be interested, please get back to me.