Is it normal to have nothing and noone at 30

You don't have to feel like a wierdo brcause society would, society isn't a human being by the way, you know your well rounded as a person just trust yourself and don't pity yourself. Because you wrote this out and you've acknowledged you feel this way you rebound to change.

When I read ur story it was so weird how much we have in common. Rite now I'm 19,out of work,live with my mother,and I have to walk everywhere cuz my mom yells at me if I ask for a ride. Idk if I can offer advice cuz I need sum myself but I will say keep ur head up. Things will get better for you. One thing i tell myself everyday is that it can't possibly get any worse.

Ignore that idiot that commented above me.Hey I am 33 years old.I lost my job and I don't have a car.I live with my boyfriends parents and my boyfriend.I truly thought my life was going to be a lot different.I too live in a place with no transportation and I feel like a burden to my boyfriend.I may not have advice but I kind of understand how you feel.I have friends but I only see them once in a blue moon.The sad thing is they act like 30 min is so far away but driving to LA and partying it up is less expensive then seeing me.I see what they do because they flash it on Facebook.I feel like a question mark all the time with where my future is going.There are other people out there that feel stuck and don't know what to do.All I can really say is that the only thing that calms me and makes me feel a little at peace with myself is my art,my dog and sometimes my boyfriend if we are getting along.You got to hold on and try to make yourself happy even if things aren't the way you like it.I know it sounds easier said then done.Some days you will fail at keeping yourself happy and you have to remember not to beat yourself up about it.The hardest job in the world is taking care of yourself.I hope I made you feel a little better.

Keep trying things will get better, many people have difficulties in their life, the only one who can change your situation is yourself.

Society really does a number on people ! So sad ..

have you thought about being a nanny in europe , give you some time yo think

Yeah, you're stuck in a bit of a rut there. When you don't have a car or license, and there is no public transportation; your only options are walking or bicycling. I did it for a couple of years. 10 mile round trip at one point. It sucked, but it's good exercise. Applying online has never worked for me either. Your chances are better if they see your face in there all the time. I don't know what kind of jobs you're applying for, but with the flood of qualified applicants that higher paying positions get these days, you may have to lower your standards. That seems especially true for smaller communities. Larger towns and cities obviously have more opportunities. When you find a job, maybe you can catch a ride to and from work with a coworker if you kick them some gas money. I used to do that too. Once you've got your license situation squared away and have saved enough money to move, start putting that college degree to good use again and find a job far from the little town you're in.

There are plenty of folks around 30 that don't have friends, a significant other, or children. I'm not sure if anyone can tell you exactly how to fulfill those needs, but what sometimes works is to be the one to initiate things. You make the first move on everything. Don't wait for others to seek out friendship, or ask you on a date. You be the one to start that ball rolling. A lot of people like that. Makes them feel good. I don't know if that applies to you or not. Wish you luck in all of your endeavors.

I agree with Layla32, Also you've made the first step to acknowledge you don't want to be in that situation anymore. Next step is finding someway of getting around, if you can scrape some money together a lot of car lots have junker cars in the back of their lots (they usually don't list so you'll have to ask) they'll sale for dirt cheap; I bought a running drivable camaro for $300 or you can check http://www.craigslist.org. Next would be applying for jobs, you said you've applied online, I've had better luck going in and applying in person online applications almost never work in my experience, go to the workforce commission where people get unemployment and ask them if they know if anyone is hiring. You could always go back to college and work on a bridge or accelerated program and get another degree to be able to work in a different field. I feel for you, times are really tough in this economy and I pray for you and really hope you find something. Good luck.

BTW: Two really good job websites are http://www.indeed.com http://www.simplyhired.com

I cannot tell when this was written, but I see myself in your situation so well. I am 33, never really had that settle down relationship- while being up for the serious, I seem to meet people who want to start off by being very- casual and undesirable when comes to dating. I tell myself, I deserve someone special and not just give in for sake of having a relationship with just anyone. However in the mean time, I know i have issues with my ovaries (which they won't give me much info or many tests until i am TRYING actively to have a child..) meantime my clock is ticking. I dreamed of having 3 kids by time I was age I am now, settled and married and in a good job. I went through school and uni struggling but pushed and pushed myself (while my difficulties where overlooked) experienced difficulties in jobs market nomatter how hard i tried (thought i was just thick) ...and eventually having to put so much energy into finding a job, keeping a job, and getting through uni with then no use for it as i achieved it late and didn't have the experience..i was diagnosed with dyspraxia and a joint coordination problem at grand old age of 30 going on 31...in last 2 years, i have been told there is no support in my area for either of my conditions...thin on work placements, there is volunteering but all from home and i basically been left. i have moved around, barely see a soul...try to make friends by intiating contact online and aiming to meet up only for people to treat it as a pass the time of day kinda thing. all the groups involve meetups like bike riding up hills, (can't due to my health), bible studies (not religious), extra curricular outdoor activities and sports i need to avoid..oh and meet up groups for mums with kids (the kids i do not have) ..i spend my days studying online, pushing myself outdoors to exercise and walk around just to keep some level of fitness! come home, do chores, go to bed alone..wake up alone and stand at bus stops with OAPS and attend medical appointments for my condition. And nobody seems to care...so i have planned to move...FAR in 3 months and leave what little family i have, so i am no burden...(not saying that is what u need to do)...i am saying..i TOTALLY GET ur experience. i put so much effort into everything my entire life..i have never travelled, gone on many proper dates, just been young and happy...and now i just look older than i am and feel the struggle has taken a toll physically on my entire health and mind..but SOMEHOW...i keep going...and i for one, understand.

Just want to let you know that I understand exactly how you feel. Difference is that instead of a sister its my mom. Im 30 and have been living with my mother for going on 6 years now its a very elaborate ordeal that I wont be divulging. Anyways I really hate the situation, puts a damper on my life a bit. Im not very social except at work, i move around a bunch because I feel like I havent found my place in life. I guess I could say I feel lost. Im hoping one day i'll find what I'm looking for at least I hope I do. This post is quite old but I still felt the need to say something because it hit me the words felt like I wrote them.

Focus your energy on finding a job. With money comes the car, the apartment, etc. You will also find it harder to find someone to date if you have no job, let's face it, being unemployed is not as desirable.

Urgh, just go travelling or something.

Just marry a rich sugar daddy, don't matter if he's 60 and then divorce him and you'll have enough money that you won't ever need a real job

Start fucking with your sister's man
murder your sister.
BAM whole new life just for you
=D

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