Is it normal to have nothing to do and stay at home all day, everyday?

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So I just started living on my own in a new state, I don't know anybody or have any friends. I did college for a semester already and didn't really find new friends. And next semester I wont even see these people again so even if I did make friends it wouldn't matter. So anyways, during the summer, the only time I really leave the house is to do errands or chores and occasionally to visit my parents who live in another state. I feel like i'm way too young for this to already be happening to me. But I don't understand what I am supposed to do by myself? Go to restaurants, the movies, the beach? These things make no sense to go to by yourself. And I know I should try to meet people, but that's also a problem...where do I meet people? Its not so easy at 21 to make all new friends that you actually go out with and talk about personal things with, they're more like people you have small talk with and that's it.

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  • anti-hero
    10 years ago

    Get a job.

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  • howaminotmyself
    10 years ago

    I love sitting in a coffee shop by myself and reading. Sitting at the beach and doing the same sounds delightful.

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    • lisac1919
      10 years ago

      I think its kind of dangerous to be on the beach alone...unless its crowded and daytime, in which case it becomes pretty awkward to be alone...

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      • Shackleford96
        10 years ago

        Why is it dangerous to be on the beach alone?

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  • Danit
    10 years ago

    Getting a job is a good idea. Will keep you busy, hopefully will stimulate your mind, bring income and help meet people too.
    As for making friends; Try find special activities where you may meet people, but also enjoy the activity. I'm not sure what you like to do but things like;
    Dance class, Book club, Volunteer at the local library, Art classes, or other. You can probably find local activities in your neighborhood online.

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  • volvonut84
    10 years ago

    I'm in the same boat. What I did was started using my webcam and make extra money. Now I have a schedule to live by. The commute from the living room to the bedroom is a breeze and the boss is really cool! Plus...I've met a lot of creepy old men w/ $$$$.

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  • 3rdXsTheCharm
    10 years ago

    I'm practically in the exact same boat. Getting a job seems like the only answer.

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  • Darkoil
    10 years ago

    A job or the gym. If you are slightly outgoing both are easy places to meet new friends. Some of my best mates I met at various jobs and the gym.

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    You're right, it's becomes more and more difficult to make friends as you grow older. Staying all day long home and doing practically nothing is what I do when I have vacation leave.

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  • howaminotmyself
    10 years ago

    Why do you think that? Unless you're afraid of sneaker waves...just never turn your back on the ocean.

    And why would it be awkward to be alone on a crowded beach? Do you think people will notice? And so what if they do?

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    • lisac1919
      10 years ago

      no I mean of someone robbing, raping, hurting, or murdering me? And before you say I sound paranoid, turn on your news. It happens all the time. I was taught that as a girl I shouldn't be going out alone at all. But I realize that's a little too extreme so that's why im asking.

      And I guess it wouldn't be awkward if it is one of those tanning/swimming beaches, but I live near a beach that no one tans or swims in, its more like you just walk there during sunset fully clothed and socialize. Otherwise its relatively empty. I would feel a bit awkward there...

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        I've gone out by myself all the time but I understand your fears. If I'm lone wolfing it I deliberately don't wear anything sexy or much makeup. I like to be kinda tom boyish sometimes; it makes me feel strong and secure.

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      • howaminotmyself
        10 years ago

        Just because it's on the news doesn't mean it happens to everyone. The news isnt an accurate portrayal of real life.

        I was never taught to be afraid of being alone in public. Cautious yes, but not afraid. I was taught to be a strong and capable woman. But I'm also stubbornly independent.

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