Is it normal to have the urge to hit my boyfriend?

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I 24f have a boyfriend 23m that I have the urge to hit. I don't act on it but it's starting to bother me with how much I think about it. Whenever he upsets me I try to remove myself mentally from the situation because I can feel the urge to want to put my hands on him. We have gotten physical with each other in the past (when we were in our teens) where either I or he initiated it. I've left him with scratches and he's left me with bruises and a black eye before. We decided together to never hit each other again. But I still feel the violent rage wanting to boil over whenever I'm upset with him. I hate this feeling. Does anyone have any insight?

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  • jethro
    1 year ago

    This just a homicide waiting to happen. Split up and never see each other again.

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  • Tinybird
    1 year ago

    Fucking gross

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  • trexagireve
    1 year ago

    You are just a sadistc dominatrix and you need to abuse him, if he loves you he will accept it

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  • RoseIsabella
    1 year ago

    Ya'll need to break up.

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  • uou
    1 year ago

    It's generally much more accepted for a woman to hit a man because the man could easily fold her most of the time. If he's fine with hitting you then i advise you definitely don't hit him in case he loses control and decides to hit you back. Also, that's called being a violent person, especially if the person you want to hit is a significant other.

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  • Prettyelvisfan
    1 year ago

    You have anger issues please seek help or therapy

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  • spotato
    1 year ago

    Therapy for yourself or couples therapy can potentially help you figure out urges

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  • ImConfusedSendHelp
    1 year ago

    Thank you I'll look into this

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  • kikilizzo
    1 year ago

    That's an abusive relationship and you need to leave it, but maybe you love drama and abuse. You both clearly have issues.

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    • ImConfusedSendHelp
      1 year ago

      Thanks for giving no solid advice and judging me. you really are a waste of space! :)

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      • whatthemonkey
        1 year ago

        that is solid advice except for the second part. i would try to leave him but if you cant of course try talking to someone you trust

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