Is it normal to have your fiance perform a sexual act before marrriage

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So were getting married, and yes i have had sex with her before we've been together for 6 years. But I've always been a spiritual and religious person(I was a catholic) but I have never been able to overcome no sex in a relationship until marriage. So we have joined a great Christian church with an outstanding Pastor and we went through the marriage counseling sessions (that did help) but I realize how powerful sex is according to Christianity . Sex bonds people a deep bond. So we realize this and stop having sex until marriage.(I realize make up sex is bad when your not married its a false feeling that makes you think your relationship is okay) Having sex when your virgins is basically a contract of love and faith. But my question is can she jerk me off, or give me head is that okay or is every sexual act off limits. Cause I'm going nuts here(her too) and were both doing this for God acknowledging are wrong ways and sin. Hoping and praying God blesses our marriage. (No offense to people who are not religious).

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  • babe7575
    12 years ago

    I always thought that religion aside, it should be about what you both want and are comfortable with. I agree that sex creates a powerful bond and in matters of the heart you must take precautions even though you think that "nothing will happen"...it is best to be safe and try your best to avoid performing sexual acts but if you cannot help yourself, and I absolutely mean... CANNOT... then in Gods eyes, he may be able to forgive you if you can forgive yourself.

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  • me1
    12 years ago

    I'm in the same boat as you. For myself, I don't believe in sex before marriage. I do fool around with my fiancé a lot, and while not ideal, I think it will make our marriage more special having saved that for our honeymoon :)

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    You both are not virgins so I think that ship has sailed. Why care about it now? That's not fair for her to just jerk you off or give you a bj. You better be doing something for her too!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Hahah. Fuck christianity, sex is great. I think doing this it's not really necessary, you both love eachother and have a great time together, why do this? You guys are going to end up having sex anyways. And yeah, she should still jerk you off and give you head.

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