Is it normal to live at your parents house through college?

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People put pressure on me to "grow up" and "get a job" but college is really hard and stressful especially full time. I'm only 21 and people keep giving me crap about it and call me a leach? Is this just my parents and brothers or does most of society consider it "leachy" to do this? I have had jobs here and there, and I also struggle with depression, ADHD, and social anxiety and things have been tough with me because I've made a lot of friends and girlfriends who seemed like nice people and pretended to be for a long time and then I found out some of were using me and some of them were just bad people to there core. It's been really difficult for me to move on because I had a good childhood with lots of nice friends and a lot of them are too busy to visit or have moved away? Shouldn't people understand (especially my parents) why I'm not as energetic and don't want a job on top of school?!?! It really makes me sad because I don't know what do about it because my parents and brothers are basically the only people I can still talk to and I still trust. Does anyone know what to do in this situation?

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  • BurnaBaby27
    11 years ago

    College freaking sucks. It is stressful, extremely. The economy is bad, added bonus. "Go get a job", it's not that fucking easy!

    Don't let them stress you out anymore. Just believe in your heart that you're doing the right thing cuz once you're done, you'll graduate and get a good paying job in no time!

    Good luck!

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  • dolan_ftw
    11 years ago

    don't listen to those people. I'm 24, going to college, working part-time and still live with my family. so what??
    don't let them stress you. even though college sucks most of the time you should try to have a good time. I can relate to your situation, but honestly: just don't give a f. :)

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Sounds normal.
    I wish I didn't have to work. College is stressful. Working through college is more stressful.

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  • thrasher777
    11 years ago

    yes, i am 23. I get annoyed by living at home sometimes. But i do realize that it helps out a lot since i'm still in college. Still, i can't wait til i get my own place someday. Or will i?

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  • CheyChey
    11 years ago

    I'm at university also 20 and live with my parents i wouldn't have it any other way, uni itself is hard & as for getting a job i plan on getting one after i graduate. i know i could never go to work at the same time and try to balance it with uni never mind moving out. If your parents love having you at home then you're sorted don't listen to what people say only you as an individual know what you can handle & can't. you didn't come into this world with these people you came alone so why should you consider their lame ass opinions. goodluck!

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  • justsomekidfromcanada
    11 years ago

    I'm going to university and my parents want me to stay home. I do sort of feel like a leech but they said they thinks it's best that way. Different situation for you but I would consider both options normal. Living by yourself is tough when you're going through school.

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    college used to be the shit, now it's just a pile of financial misery, struggling with future perspectives and trying to deadl with pretentious idiots around you. I sometimes wish I would still live at home to leave that shit behind.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    tell them to fuck off

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  • mattsmail100
    11 years ago

    Thanks Shackleford, your totally right about it not being high school anymore and I shouldn't worry so much. One thing one of my brothers got right the other day is that I do worry too much like you said. Thanks for the support man.

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    • Shackleford96
      11 years ago

      You are very welcome.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    I get that impression as well. I think it has to do with many people not having a choice about the matter; for whatever reason, they have to have a job because they have nobody to depend on. Of course they would say mean or bad things about or to you, because they feel like it's not fair that they didn't/don't have the same opportunity that you are being afforded--depending on your parents to help you through school.

    I say that you are doing a great job as it is right now, even depending on your parents/living in their house. I know what it's like too, as I'm currently in college as well, and depending on/living with my dad. Just do the best you can, and get a job and move out when you get the chance. Don't worry too much about what other people think too. This isn't high school anymore, haha :)

    The bottom line is that they are just being haters.

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