Is it normal to never have wanted friends?

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As the title suggests, I want to know if it's normal to never have wanted any friends in your life. I have never had friends and I've always felt defective for it; I've never even wanted any. I'm fine like this and it doesn't make me sad. I've never been lonely because of my lack of friendship.

I'm not saying I've never talked to anyone (I barely talk though). If people approach me and talk to me I can enjoy talking to them. I don't hate people, in fact, I have a lot of empathy. I love brainstorming and talking about introspective topics a lot with people! I just will not miss them. Ever.

I'm introverted, meaning I lose energy during social interaction, but that doesn't explain this. I can only take around an hour talking with someone at a time. But, I feel like I'm broken in some way. I don't want to bring this up to anyone around me since then they will bother me about it; so I'm asking here.

I don't have anything like autism, Asperger's, antisocial personality disorders, or anything of the like. I have been screened for these several times throughout my life because of things that have happened to me. So, don't tell me I have a mental illness, please. This is something I'm genuinely asking so don't be rude and answer seriously.

Is anyone here like this?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    "I lose energy during social interaction" is just about the most interesting statement I've read in 2+ years on IIN. Thank you.
    I can relate, as I also find it tedious and energy draining to be around certain people. However, I've found many more stimulate and energize me than don't, so it's not a burdensome problem for me.

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  • notrea11y
    8 years ago

    I am like this, and so my mother before me. My son is like this too.

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