Is it normal to not be gay anymore but still have gay tendencies ?

I have known poeple who use to be gay for a x amount of years will sometimes choose to be streight or that they do not want to be gay anymore and usually at this piont want to be only considered streight . However I noticed alot of poeple who do this still have very gay tendencies. That they dont really change is it possible becuase they spun those habits from thier gay expiereinces I knew a chick who was super gay trys look like a man and would run around saying " Im getting a sex change " and I believe strapped her boobs I dont know she seemed to be getting flatter and less shapley everyday . However she still says stuff like she gay and want to only date women but have a boyfreind . I have also seen this were a man or women will become streight but still have slightly gay tendicys which looked normal when they were gay but they still had them when they go streight again . Im not stereotyping I just noticed .

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  • zchristian

    Probadly because you cant really change who you are if you are gay you are gay you cant just choose not to be...

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  • nickii

    I personally think ALL humans are bi, but you just prefer a certain sex so its perfectly normal.

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    • BrendioEEE

      umm no

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    • Cheese123

      Lol Idiotroid

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  • khajiit10

    answer. Bisexuality

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  • Lynxikat

    ...Dude.

    You don't "choose" to be gay. When you say that you're friend was "gay for a number of years then went straight", you're sure you don't mean they were bi, and switched from preferring their own gender to the opposite gender?

    God, this is so hard to read....

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    • Allistalla

      she was oppisite gender than siad she liked both till she could choose than chose chicks her girlfriend ranout with a boy and than she went for only guys now ? So I do not know it was odd .

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    • Allistalla

      no I am sure they were bi but they siad becuase they could not decide if they were strieght or gay than they were full gay for a year than girlfreind streight up left them becuase she siad never mind I decided chicks are not for me and left to boy and than the other got a boyfreind too and I see things happen all the time .

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  • dalmationUntoyourSoul

    everyone is ripping this girl a new one. i wonder if her second asshole will be gay or straight?

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  • wasteman

    i think its alright because im gay and i jerk of over my boyfriend XXXXXXX

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    • dalmationUntoyourSoul

      that's a gay tendency.

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      • wasteman

        well you are a fucking neek who jerks of over the maths teacher whos is a man

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        • dalmationUntoyourSoul

          but the math teacher is hot.

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  • Justsomejerk

    I before E except after C. Or th I think.

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    • Allistalla

      Thats a spelling rule what does it have to do with Gays?

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      • Justsomejerk

        Sorry, I didn't realise it was your post. It has everything to do with gays. I don't want to stereotype but gays are often great spellers and I don't think they get the credit for it that they deserve. I don't think people just stop being gay, they may stop having gay sex but I think once you're gay, you're gay.

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        • Allistalla

          Are you telling me you are gay ? LOL . I really did not care but it has nothing to do with the question at all lol . So you dont think they are X gay ? I was shocked when our one freind got a boyfreind but her boyfreind looks super gay too so its just wierd becuase she says she loves him . We questioned her and she says if anything it makes me even gayer I dont understand how poeple can be so extremely gay and than all the sudden say never mind I gave it up .

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          • Justsomejerk

            That is a little bit gay.

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            • spazatikal

              You must be right, I'm hybrid gay (LOL, nah, I just wanna touch everyone!) and I spell correctly, use the correct punctuation marks, etc. I love it, but everyone hates it and they call me the "Grammar Nazi." *sigh*

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  • I Regret the day I posted this. For the love of god no one can give a semi reasonable answer Except Ales and a few others. Everyone is so sensitive and takes insult to even asking a simple question about gays. This was not my choice and I am not going to push and say you have to be gay because I saw you with a women last week! that is not my life choice it is theirs. The fact everyone has to turn into a bitch over a simple question is sad. you can all go to hell not because your gay because your a bunch of rude assholes. Thank you for the people who did not cuss out each other or the original post and are not saying kill gays, or kill religion thank you to the semi sane people. You are the only ones who give any justice to your respectable causes and Parties.

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    • I guess if this is how most of the gays act to this question they do not want to be excepted do they? Atleast Aless gave a polite logical answer without screaming kill gays or kill religion. I mean If I was part of some idiotic community I would try to explain rather than say kill all that are not like me! I mean gays did not like that treatment from the Christians did they? Should you treat everyone else the same? I mean that’s just rude.

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  • Loh

    It just mean you are still gay.

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  • Geldsmaggen

    Why is Change and Choice lumped together? What if someone has a gene that forces them to change at a certain point in development?

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    • Allistalla

      Change from gay to Striaght? intresting idea?

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  • zackattack

    You can't turn gay or choose to be gay. You are either born gay or straight. Think of it why would anyone try to be gay, and then get help to fix it. The people you know have always been gay, they just claim their straight now, but they are really lying to themselves.

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    • BlueAlice

      I assume that would go with being bi as well?

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      • zackattack

        Of course!

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  • aminormal321

    You can't decide your sexuality. If you're gay you're gay. You can't change it.

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  • That "girl" isn't "gay" dumbass! Educate yourself; she's transgender... And I believe would therefore be called a "he". How you act is because of your personality not your sexuality, anyway.

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    • jucedaguy

      Alistalla wont educate itself. It claims one can even get preggers from bum sex. It is one of the worst efforts in trolliery i have seen since the internoodle began.

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    • Allistalla

      She is not she never had the sex change and she decided not to at one piont so she is staying a women and staying with her boyfreind.

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    • Allistalla

      than if how you act is not your sexuality she is still a gay female not a streight man ?

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    • Allistalla

      who is trasgender ?

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      • Avant-Garde

        http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT

        http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender

        transgender |tranzˈjendər, trans-|(also transgendered )
        adjective
        identified with a gender other than the biological one: a transgender activist and author.

        gay |gā|
        adjective ( gayer , gayest )
        1 (of a person, esp. a man) homosexual: that friend of yours, is he gay?
        • relating to or used by homosexuals: feminist, black, and gay perspectives.
        2 lighthearted and carefree: Nan had a gay disposition and a very pretty face.
        • brightly colored; showy; brilliant: a gay profusion of purple and pink sweet peas.
        3 informal foolish; stupid: making students wait for the light is kind of a gay rule.
        noun
        a homosexual, esp. a man.
        DERIVATIVES
        gayness noun
        ORIGIN Middle English ( sense 2 of the adjective): from Old French gai, of unknown origin.
        usage: Gay meaning ‘homosexual,’ dating back to the 1930s (if not earlier), became established in the 1960s as the term preferred by homosexual men to describe themselves. It is now the standard accepted term throughout the English-speaking world. As a result, the centuries-old other senses of gay meaning either ‘carefree’ or ‘bright and showy,’ once common in speech and literature, are much less frequent. The word gay cannot be readily used today in these older senses without sounding old-fashioned or arousing a sense of double entendre, despite concerted attempts by some to keep them alive. Gay in its modern sense typically refers to men ( lesbian being the standard term for homosexual women), but in some contexts it can be used of both men and women.
        Gay, John |gā|

        Can you detect the differences?!

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  • it makes me sick when people pretend to be something they are not i watched a tv show not to long ago where a guy tried had a fall and then tried to prove he was straight before the fall, i turned the program off.

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  • Aless

    I as a gay young man who is with a once bisexual young man
    believe that it is perfectly normal to remain with such tendencies or perhaps outlooks and perspectives
    one cannot change entirely
    it is in our nature to even refuse change because one becomes too comfortable with the common or routine

    but as for the cases explained on the question some of the people you have encountered sound a bit confused NOW before ANYONE says anything im not saying nor insinuating that bis or gays are confused just simply that by the way i understood the explanation on the question it sounds like some of those people maybe confused i mean there is a difference from once being with some one with the same gender and then switching to the norm of being with the opposite one and retaining some routines like checking out members of the same gender than being with some one of the oppiste gender and wanting to be with the same gender that sounds like a personal conflict ..just saying.. :)

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  • dongwhan

    I have read alot of the stuff about being gay on this site and I dont understand what gay is. Apparently it is completely normal for a straight guy to put another mans dick in his ass as long as he is only doing it to massage his prostate.I guess it doesn't have anything to do with the fact that that is gay.

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    • Allistalla

      If a man put it in his butt I think he wants to have sex with man he is not massaging his protest thats complte bull krap . Thats like a chick letting a guy finger her saying I just was letting him massage your vagina . Unlikely .

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      • jucedaguy

        FOR FUCKS SAKE LEARN TO SPELL!

        Ooops sorry ill rewrite that so you can understand it.

        Fer fix seke larn too speel!

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      • dongwhan

        So if I have some man's dick in my ass massaging my prostate that means I'm gay and then I can't put my finger in a womans vagina for a massage at the same time? Another words I'm either supposed to receive dick and be gay OR give dick and be staight?

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        • dongwhan

          Very cornfusing!

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          • Allistalla

            You really do not know what gay is " ? DId you try wikepedia.

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        • dalmationUntoyourSoul

          what are you going to give dick? i'll bet he'd love a puppy.

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        • Allistalla

          Yeah .

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          • dongwhan

            I looked it up,gay means:merry,cheerful,jolly,
            joyful,blithe,and mirthful. I didnt see anything that said I had to put a dick in my ass

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            • Allistalla

              I am sorry if you do not realize that words have diffrent meanings and thier meanings can change . I am sorry if you are not smart enough to get how a dictionary works .

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            • Seustewart

              adjective gay·er, gay·est,
              1. homosexual.
              2. of, indicating, or supporting homosexual interests or issues: a gay organization.
              3. having or showing a merry, lively mood: gay spirits; gay music.

              I dont know which dictionary you used but this definition is from dictionary.com

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            • Allistalla

              It does now . It has multiple meanings like the word fag which meant a " pile of sticks " than at one piont meant a " Old hag " words change overtime .

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      • shade_ilmaendu

        Let me give you a quick biology lesson honey. There are these places on people called erogoneous zones, (don't know how to fucking spell that shit, haha)

        They include your ears, lips, neck, chest (men can enjoy a nipple tweak too :P), genetalia and prostate. The prostate is an erogoneous zone unique to men, which enables them to enjoy anal sex. Men can enjoy penetration without being attracted to men, just as men can be attracted to men without enjoying penetration (Some gay guys don't like to be on the receiving end)

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      • dalmationUntoyourSoul

        are you missing the part of your brain that thinks?

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        • dalmationUntoyourSoul

          or just the part relating to sarcasm, irony, wit, and figurative language?

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        • jucedaguy

          What... You mean the whole brain? Yes I think you're right but I also think she is a he and a troll. Check her other questions.

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          • Avant-Garde

            It's a possibility and others have voiced this "concern", but would a troll sink this low to write and carry on like Cunt? Imagine how time consuming that would be. Surely, someone who would do that wouldn't have much of a life, would they? However, one can only hope that this "concern" is actually true or I pity what humanity has evolved into.

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    • Allistalla

      Gay is liking dude and having sex with dudes , gay for chicks is having sex with other chicks . If someone does it once and decides they dont like the oppisaite sex than they are not gay . However thier is women that claim thier gay when thier dating a man and men who think thier strieght when having sex with men thats called metrosexuel . I dont get it either I find all sexuality annoying truthfully .

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      • Avant-Garde

        IT'S NOT CALLED METROSEXUAL!!!!!!!!!!!

        THE TERM IS BISEXUAL!!!!!!!

        bisexual |bīˈsekSHo͞oəl|
        adjective
        sexually attracted to both men and women.
        • Biology having characteristics of both sexes.
        noun
        a person who is sexually attracted to both men and women.
        DERIVATIVES
        bisexuality |ˌbīsekSHo͞oˈalitē|noun

        metrosexual |ˌmetrōˈsekSHo͞oəl|
        noun
        a young, urban, heterosexual male with liberal political views, an interest in fashion, and a refined sense of taste.
        DERIVATIVES
        metrosexuality |-ˌsekSHo͞oˈalitē|noun
        ORIGIN from metro- + (homo)sexual .

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        • Allistalla

          Do not try and lecture me idiot I looked it up incase you are stupid . It is called metro sexuel when a guy sleeps with men but still considers himself streight incase your that stupid I know every single meaning . So do not tell me things I already know about thier is also pansexuel which sex does not matter only the person . than thier is Bi attracted to both sexes . Thier is streight liking oppisite sex and thier is Homo which likes the same sex . So stop being a idiot and start spreading miss imformation to someone who knows better . Also I know ALOT of gay poeple and they all know this aswell Im so glad you are so stupid as to run your mouth about something you know nothing about thankyou for being such a idiot . Go away I hate it when poeple talk about stuff they know nothing about and you know nothing .

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          • Avant-Garde

            Don't get started with me. I'm not a idiot and we clearly don't see eye to eye. You will not be well liked on this site if you go around acting like a bitch. You get so upset when we try to correct your horrendous grammar and your behavior suggests that you aren't Mature enough to be on this site.

            *Your conversation partner has disconnected.

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        • QuigleyQuagmire

          Bi=always into either sex. Metro=A changing sexual attraction.

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        • Allistalla

          How ever metro sexuel has many diffrent meanings and one of the meanings is Having sex with men being a man and considering yourself streight it is not called bi when they refuse to aknolledge they are into men . It is called Metrosexuel .

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          • shade_ilmaendu

            Metrosexual has always been a term more related to fashion than anything else, if you've read somewhere it means something else I'd like to see the source for that

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  • A lot of people ignore their sexuality when the desire to have kids comes about because well lets face it its a lot easier and quicker and cheaper to do it the normal way rather than adopting, plus not all gay people desire children so you wouldn't want to be in a same sex relationship where your partner has no intentions of adopting

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  • wistfulmaiden

    I didn't know one could become "un-gay".

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  • Nokiot9

    They're lying to themselves, if you are truly homosexual, you just don't suddenly become straight.

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  • quentari

    you don't really "not be gay" anymore, except in the rare cases where someone genuinely thought they might be gay but then after some experience realised they were wrong, although i think this is more a case of taking curiosity and going very extreme with it...

    Point is, they still act gay because they are still gay? you don't really stop being gay. If you're bi you can chose to be with the opposite gender instead of the same, but that doesn't make you not bi anymore...

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  • I am confuse why is there all these supposed god followers running with the Gay movement?Not to mention none of which agree about what Gay is? I mean I know gay teens yet you want to exclude them from the party? I find that rude.

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    • BlueAlice

      WOT

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  • ghettomex92

    Fuck that dude either your gay or your not, you cant just be like into chicks and then go to dudes and then back to chicks then say your not gay! Fucking queers I hate them!! The way they are all in your face about it and everything! I personally dont like gay people but if they chose to be gay or whatever its on them they know where they are going just like I know where Im going. Feel free to leave your hate comments you fucking queers! I know I'm an asshole and I embrace it, I admit it. Unlike all the assholes that get mad when you call them out for being assholes I laugh and say "Yes I am!"

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    • BlueAlice

      I love you, man *high five*

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      • ghettomex92

        :D I speak the truth :)

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  • pdfort37

    Whetr to act act

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  • BlackSheepOutcast

    its in human nature to have some attraction to the same sex.

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    • quentari

      no... not really... My female friend kissed me once. It cemented the fact that i NEVER want to do ANYTHING with another female.
      Does this mean I'm broken? or are you just wrong?

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  • Avant-Garde

    This was so hard to read....

    Your friend sounds like she's transgendered which makes her a he.

    As for others! 1. Some people are born gay and there's nothing you can do to change it.
    2. People can be BISEXUAL! Sexuality isn't black and white!!!!

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    • Allistalla

      oh you mean the chick ? I thought transgender was getting a sex change she hasnt gotten one yet just says she wants to .

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      • Avant-Garde

        "She" not a "CHICK" if "she" wants to get a sex change. "She" is a MALE!!!! Calling him a "she" is disrespectful.

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        • Allistalla

          so if you pertend you are a man it means you are a man ? I am so confused so if I pertend I am the oppisite gender it means I am ? I am really lost no one had a sex change yet so it is not so " .

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          • BlueAlice

            You don't have to have a sex change to feel like you were born the wrong gender! In fact, some transgendered people keep the genitals of whichever sex they were born as.

            Some transgendered people stay the gender they were born as but have some traits of both genders.
            You get some tomboyish girls that paint their nails, wear make-up and wear girly clothes; men with a feminine personality who look typically masculine i.e. they don't look stereotypically gay; some girly girls who dress boyishly; male and female crossdressers; women who deliberately make themselves up to fool people into thinking they're drag queens and some who don't feel like they belong in either gender.

            Gender and sexuality are not black+white, boy+girl... they're far more complicated than that. I should know! In fact, there is one example on here known as Rachelle in High Heels (If, however, Rachelle is biologically female or prefers being known as a man, apologies to her/him)

            EXAMPLES: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buck_Angel
            http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrej_Pejic
            http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_transgender_people (You've almost certainly heard of at least one of these people)

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            • Allistalla

              Ok what is your piont I heard of all this before ? just becuase you dress like man does not make you one just becuase you dress like a women does not make you one ? whats your piont I already know there is gay poeple ? I do not really care I heard , read , listened to seen all this before so what is your piont you are trying to make ? never siad it was simple ? Im just stating that if someone thinks they were born in the wrong skin it does not change who they are period . If someone says I should have been born a women! Oh well the fact is they are still a MAN ! if someone says I wanted to be born a man but Im a women ! oh well I guess you are a women . That is the sad fact we can not change we dont get to pick our gender however we can technicly change it thanks to MEDICAL SCIENCE !

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        • Allistalla

          so you are saying if I pertend to be a lawyer that means I have the right to take cases in court ? Oh that is so fun to know . Ill keep that in mind .

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    • Allistalla

      what the hell are you talking about ?
      she is not a he as a he has a dick they do not ?
      I have no idea how you think someone imagining they
      are the other gender makes it so ? "

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      • Avant-Garde

        What the Flying Fuck are YOU talking about?! You're stating things I never said in my comment! Your sarcasm or lack of isn't needed at all! Also, what part of "Your conversation partner has disconnected" don't you understand?!

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  • Finding_Peace_In_A_Mad_World

    You can't just "not be gay anymore". Maybe that's why, they are trying to be straight, but it's not something that you can change at will so they still show signs of being gay is all.

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    • Allistalla

      I do not know I see alot of gays do this and I see streight poeple who out of the blue say " im gay now "! its odd to watch .

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      • Finding_Peace_In_A_Mad_World

        Those people are just going through a phase, or "experimenting". LOTS of people decide that they suddenly want to be gay, just to see what it's like, but if they aren't really gay then eventually they'll just "go back" to being straight.

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        • Allistalla

          That makes sense.

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  • kit291

    yeah, you can be half gay though...

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  • fletcherkydude

    they are lying to themselves by calling themselves straight

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  • jucedaguy

    @allistalla

    You ARE either beiber or all your questions are about beiber?

    Either way no matter how you ask it SHE (Beiber) ain't gonna change. She will always be a lesbian and a douche, and occasionally a lesbians douche.

    SHE will never be "streight!"

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    • Allistalla

      Justin timberlake and britany spears ! Bring back the 90s before everything went to krap .

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    • Allistalla

      Justin beieber ? Why does everyone make a refrence to him I do not care about justin Canadian fangirl idol I am no fangirl . Justin can go to hell Bring Justin Timberlake !

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  • BrendioEEE

    The ignorance is strong here o_o

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