Is it normal to not care if i get pregnant?

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Me and my boyfriend wanted to have sex for the first time, because every time we see each other, we get incredibly turned on and he gets a boner absolutely every time. We were actually planning on having sex this weekend because that's the only time he has off this week.. but then he told me he doesn't want to because he doesn't want to get me pregnant.. is it normal that I still said I want to do it even if I could get pregnant? I really don't care at this point. I just want to have sex and not even worry about getting pregnant, but my boyfriend is incredibly concerned that I'll get pregnant. Is this normal???

By the way, I'm 18 and he's 20.... if that helps..

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NeuroNeptunian

12 years ago | pl

Young people SEVERELY UNDERESTIMATE just how DIFFICULT, TIRING AND EXPENSIVE PARENTHOOD CAN BE!

I raised my siblings and it was the most difficult thing I have ever done. Don't believe the shit you see on TV. All of the cuddly, loving, heart warming moments that occur before the child is old enough to feed themselves and poo in the toilet are so few and far between. It is difficult, so difficult, and it pushes many of even the most sane and maternal women to the brink of insanity.

It was a *godsend* to have been dating a man who was willing to take my brother off my hands so I could SHOWER, PEE AND EAT. Yes, that's right, I am saying that if you are staying at home with the baby, you will *have* to neglect your own needs quite frequently. After all, someone is GOING to have to work to support the both of you. And health insurance, dear God, hopefully the two of you have health insurance to lower the maternity costs. Health insurance IS expensive.

EVERY young mother that I know has told me that if they could go back in time and do it all over again, they would not have even had the sex to begin with. It's difficult, difficult work and something that you must be truly dedicated to from the beginning to get any real happiness from.

PLEASE, while you have the chance, WRAP IT UP.

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Avant-Garde

12 years ago | pl

I think you will start to worry when you have a baby and all the responsibilities that come along with having one.

What country are you from that doesn't sell contraceptives?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Um.. it's not that there's none sold... it's just the fact of one of us actually getting one =P I hate the word "condom" (saying it, not typing it) so it's kind of hard to suggest it when I don't even like saying it =P
  
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    12 years ago | pl
    
    If you can't say condom, you're not ready for sex.
    
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    - lc1988
      
      12 years ago
      
      Plus it's not like you even have to say it when buying them. You go pick some up, check out, and go home.
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      12 years ago
      
      Um.. so a freaking word means I'm not ready for sex? I'm sorry, I just have a weird thing with words. dick..
      
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      - Its_Called_Love
        
        12 years ago | pl
        
        lol You think the fact that you're horny and he gets a boner, is a good reason to have sex...? The reason he is worried about you getting pregnant is because a baby grows up to a child and the child grows up to be a teenager then to an adult. Thats a life long commitment.
        
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        Lynxikat
        
        12 years ago
        
        Ding Ding Ding! We have a winner, Its_Called_Love just said it perfectly! :)
        
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      - Avant-Garde
        
        12 years ago
        
        If you don't like calling it "dick", then call it by its actual name, "Penis".
        
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      - IrishPotato
        
        12 years ago
        
        It actually does.
        And to sink to your level of stupidity...
        "Slut."
        
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  - disthing
    
    12 years ago | pl
    
    Contraceptive pill?
    
    Your boyfriend is being the sensible one here, I suggest you meet his level of maturity before you're both lumbered with an unwanted, unplanned child to raise.
    
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squirtle

12 years ago | pl

it would be very careless for you to bring a baby into this world when you're not even committed to raising one. getting a condom is not that hard...

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OhStevieRaeee

12 years ago | pl

You're fucking stupid. If you can't even say the word "condom" then you definitely aren't mature enough to be having sex.

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Bl0ndieBabexx

12 years ago

start caring. Because you will when you plop out a cannon ball from your fanny.

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cookiesaregreat

12 years ago

Are you stupid? condom much? Of course your boyfriend is concerned about you getting pregnant.

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tylar

12 years ago

you mam are fucking stupid. go to any kind of store &buy a condom or take birth control. if you don't take "drugs" &dont have the lady balls to buy a condom, then you shouldn't be having sex. simple as that.

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nobodyspecial

12 years ago

You could go on the pill or he could wear a condom

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  I don't take any kind of pills.... so I think we'd probably do a condom if we could actually get one =P
  
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  - TerryVie
    
    12 years ago
    
    what, condoms are outlawed in your country?
    Just about every drug story, definitely every sex shop, and a number of toilets can provide you with condomws. How exactly is there a problem for a 20-year old to "actually get one =P"?
    
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    - SuperBenzid
      
      12 years ago
      
      There are places in the world where it would be difficult for an unmarried couple to get a condom.
      
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      - TerryVie
        
        12 years ago
        
        while true, those same places it would also be unseemly for a unmarried man and women to spend time together alone.
        Aside, in those countries marriage often takes place at a younger age, so chances are high they would KNOW a married couple they could ask to provide them with a condom.
        
        Third, they seem to have free access to the internet, many online stores(including e.g. big players like amazon) have condoms in stock and send in neutral packaging.
        
        So all in all, i don't see the reasoning of "it's too difficult to get a condom" as very reasonable.
        
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        evilfish
        
        12 years ago
        
        Shes obviously not from a third world country, so im going to put a stop to this nonsense. Her english is both flawless and full of american pop culture idiosincracies.
        
        Child, dont be stupid, get a condom. I hope to god youre not black otherwise youll be confirming my one solidified race based stereotype.
        
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  - Avant-Garde
    
    12 years ago
    
    "If you could actually get one"
    
    The above posters told you that it's not that hard to get them. It sounds like you're reluctant to buy some and take the proper precautions. You are obviously not mature enough to even start considering having sex.
    
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    11 years ago
    
    You really are beyond a joke.
    
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[Old Memory]

12 years ago

Ah, well, to the guy, I feel sorry for him. We all know that you'll fall pregnant, he'll be supportive despite you knowing he doesn't want a child, later he'll stop havin interest in the child he already didn't want, then he'll be seen as a bad person for not wanting to look after the child he already told you he didn't want.

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- Its_Called_Love
  
  12 years ago
  
  I concur, EVERYONE knows this is going to end badly but will they actually use protection? Nope, probably not. Sad and immature, I really do feel sorry for this guy...
  
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Just_feed_me_Troll_Meat

12 years ago

I hope for all our sakes you do not get pregnant, EVER.

Future generations would be forever grateful for it.

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ishitpandas

12 years ago

If you get pregnant there's a 90% chance I will break up JS /:

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violetgrape

12 years ago

btw virgin,fyi almost every girl regrets their first time.don't be a statistic.

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- veggie86
  
  11 years ago
  
  I don't regret my first time, don't know many who do. I would have regret it if I was too stupid to use a condom the first time or any time after that.
  
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smitty217

12 years ago

If you guys don't know about birth control, you probably shouldnt be having sex

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Um.. who said we don't know about it.
  Of course we do, but I don't take ANY type of drug..
  Dude, I don't even take Tylenol because it's a "drug"
  
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  - joybird
    
    12 years ago
    
    Why doesn't he go and get the condom / Durex - whatever you want to call them.
    
    I had my first child at 32yo and trust me when I tell you that NeuroNeptunian is NOT exaggerating! In fact, I don't know how my son is still alive. He cried constantly and I never got a full night's sleep until he was 6yo and even then he started his day at 5am. I also developed a blood clot in my leg and he was premature and was in intensive care. I was married 8 years and it almost broke my marriage.
    
    Please don't take this decision too lightly, you are in fantasy land if you think it is ok.
    
    For your info:
    
    The government calculated the cost of raising child . . .
    . . . from birth to 18 and came up with $160,140 for a middle income family. Talk about sticker shock. That doesn't even touch college tuition. For those with kids, that figure leads to wild fantasies about all the things we could have bought, all the places we could have traveled, all the money we could have banked
    
    if not for (insert child's name here). For others, that number might confirm the decision to remain childless.
    
    But $160,140 isn't so bad if you break it down. It translates into $8,896.66 a year, $741.38 a month or $171.08 a week. That's a mere $24.44 a day.
    
    Just over a dollar an hour. Still, you might think the best financial advice says don't have children if you want to be rich.
    
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    - Avant-Garde
      
      12 years ago
      
      I'm glad to see that you're still standing!
      
      Also, wouldn't the cost of raising a child differ from country to country?
      
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        12 years ago
        
        I'm sure it does - although it's probably still relatively proportional.
        
        There was once a major campaign to boycott Nestle products ... Nescafe, chocolate, etc. as they were giving powdered baby milk away for free in Third World countries, just until the mothers' milk dried up. Then they were charging the parents a ridiculous price for it - say 1-2 weeks wages.
        
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  - smitty217
    
    12 years ago
    
    Then tell him to get a condom...not that difficult of a concept
    
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smilebee21

12 years ago

You don't have to get pregnant if u have sex. Use a condom AND birth control. TRUST ME you should care if you have a kid before you are ready. I thought I wanted one at 18 , but I waited until I was older and it's much better. If you're asking questions like this ...you definitely aren't mature enough to have kids or sex for that matter.

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assh0le

12 years ago

If you don't care, I'm sure no-one else does either.

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nAt2017

11 years ago

Not normal. You're obviously not ready for a baby. The world is overpopulated as it is, we don't need unwanted children. You should care.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Who said it was unwanted..?
  
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  - nAt2017
    
    11 years ago
    
    You said that your boyfriend didn't want to get you pregnant. If he doesn't want the child, then he shouldn't have to have one because you do.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      He does want a baby.. he's just worried. sheesh.. you don't know us, so stop acting like it
      
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      - nAt2017
        
        11 years ago
        
        You came on an Internet website whose sole purpose is asking for advice... if you didn't want feedback, why did you come here?
        
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RaveRave

11 years ago

If she's afraid to say the word "condom", she's too young for you bro!

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- ThatsWhatWeDeerDo
  
  11 years ago
  
  Never said I was afraid of the word condom. Just don't like it
  
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nAt2017

12 years ago

I'm pretty sure all the comments above have summed it up pretty well. THINK OF THE CHILDREN.

THE CHILDREN.

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NocturnePonyFan

12 years ago

Yeah, by the sounds of it, you shouldn't be having sex if you're too embarrassed by the word "condom". If you're that intent on having sex, get your tubes tied, woman. There. Then you'll never have to say the word "condom" ever again (given a successful tubal ligation). Though condoms are much cheaper and easier to obtain!

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- ThatsWhatWeDeerDo
  
  12 years ago
  
  Um... I never said I was embarrassed of the word.. why does everyone think that it's sooo immature to hate that word?? It's just the fucking same as someone hating any other word! It just sounds weird to me! I have quirks just the same as everyone else..
  
  geez people.. what's up your asses?
  
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  - NocturnePonyFan
    
    12 years ago
    
    The fact that you won't use a condom because you "hate" the word is not only stupid, but unsafe. Get the hell over yourself and buy yourself a fucking rubber.
    
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    - ThatsWhatWeDeerDo
      
      12 years ago
      
      I never said I wouldn't fucking use one! I just don't like the damn word!
      
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        12 years ago
        
        Backpeddling, anyone?
        
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x3haha

12 years ago

If she doesnt like saying "condom", she's too young for you bro

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hottmess

12 years ago

Sounds like you are both too immature to be having sex. I don't believe that you are 18 and he's 20. If you guys were, and you wanted to have sex this badly, you would have taken a pill slapped on a condom and have had sex already. So my answer is, you are too young to be having sex. It isn't worth it, there are other things you guys can do to pleasure eachother.

P.S. to all of you who haven't gotten pregnant because the dick was pulled out, it was because you were lucky

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Bobetzza

12 years ago

It isn't normal actually. Women don't wake up intentionally to want to have sex and not care if they get pregnant. It just dosen't happen.

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ccjigsaw

12 years ago

Might want to recheck yourself. Atleast the 1st 5 comments said "Use a condom" I don't think their just saying that for the hell of it. I don't care if your in a 3rd world country (And your NOT) Sometimes you need to pussy up and buy a pack of freaking condoms. Me and my bf have had to do that for thelast 2years and it still feels awekward as hell, but it has to happen. Get your guy to buy them, and buy them in BULK then you won't have to go back. I'm warning you now, just because our horney doesn't mean you should be reckless.

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Austinpowers

12 years ago

ok so if I got a condom I cud f**k you?!!!!!!!!!!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Ha ha.. ha ha... No. You're not my boyfriend, so no
  
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    12 years ago
    
    But, you won't even let him do it with a condom!
    
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RandomStory22

12 years ago

I agreed with Ohstevieraeee you're extremely immature, don't have sex.

The last thing we need is more idiotic children running around because their mother was as dumb as a fucking doorknob.

Go die, don't breed.
I'm surprised that guy even wants to have sex with you in the first place. You're so stupid, really...

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squirtle

12 years ago

you sound like you're 13.

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SuperBenzid

12 years ago

I am not going to criticize but I think you sound rather immature and you are probably impulsive because of that and also have subconscious maternal desires you are not in touch with.

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KareemOliverDiaz

12 years ago

Whore

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somebodysgirl

10 years ago

There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby, but wait until you are married, unless you want a really hard life.

Having a baby without a man is probably the best way for a woman to mess up her life. I work at a food pantry to help the poor. Most of the clients are women with babies and no man. It could happen to you.

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kelili

11 years ago

Just use protection

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pambambam

11 years ago

just go on birth control. dont be stupid!

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Squambly+

11 years ago

Thats kind of selfish of you. To possibly bring a child whom your not ready for into a world where life's a bitch and then that child may have to deal with being poor or not getting enough attention. Oh I hate people like that I really do because I was born from a person like that.

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ThatsWhatWeDeerDo

12 years ago

Ok, for everyone [lc1988] that says I'm not mature enough for sex JUST because I don't like saying the word "condom," I'd like to take you back to kindergarten and inform you that it's just a word. I have a thing about words that sound weird. For example, I don't like saying the word "trim." My fiance was talking about how he wanted to 'trim' his facial hair, and I said that word and it just sounded really weird to me. I didn't like saying it. Does that mean I'm not mature?? NO! It just means that I have a funny thing with words.. So please drop the case.

Ps. I would really appreciate it if everyone would stop hating me. We didn't have sex, ok? We agreed that we wanted to wait till we were married, and it's settled at that. So please stop getting mad at me.
Thank you

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- BlueAlice
  
  11 years ago
  
  Waiting until marriage (and nothing else) is generally an even worse idea... what if your future husband is impotent, gay or terrible in bed? Or all three?!
  You wouldn't know until it's too late!
  
  If you HAPPEN to find someone who you'd be willing to be shackled to for the rest of your life and you HAPPEN to not feel ready for sex until marriage, then by all means do so.
  
  Otherwise, just cool off sex and relationships, wait until you are sure you love the other person AND THEY GENUINELY love you back... AND TRY EACH OTHER OUT BEFORE MARRIAGE!
  
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tippitoe

12 years ago

Nice! Get some spermicides or rubbers or morning pills!!! Hope you have a good time! LMAO!! LOL!!

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annon0000

12 years ago

thats kinda of pathetic because having a kid requires responsibility and will change your life forever, if you know the consequences and your doing it anyway, i hope you would keep the kid otherwise that would make you a whore.

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SophiieXD

12 years ago

PLEASE... Do NOT under ANY Circumstance HAVE CHILDREN!! For the sake of the rest of us!!

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truercheese

12 years ago

This shit's funny. All I can say.

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McSqueaky

12 years ago

CONDOM

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mikel

12 years ago

i care about me beind pregnant but only cause m a man

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Welshy

12 years ago

Take morning after pile....

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- Its_Called_Love
  
  12 years ago
  
  She can't buy condoms, yet you think she'll buy a morning after pill?
  
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tiffunny5

12 years ago

Go to plan parent hood and get some free birth control. Then you will be Responsible enough to have sex. If he is still afraid to have sex, maybe you should take that into consideration. "if" you did get pregnant, would he stick around?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
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  As a matter of fact, he would stick around. He already said he would. And he went into great detail on why he would stay
  
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    Oh yeah and no woman has EVER been dumped whilst pregnant or just after having a kid <<eyeroll>>
    
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    12 years ago
    
    See you on Maury.
    
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    12 years ago
    
    Yes, because every guy who says he would stick around does. Do you seriously think no other guys tell women that they would stay then ditch when there is trouble? Or did you even take into account that even if he means what he is saying, that once you get pregnant he'll change his mind?
    
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  - tiffunny5
    
    12 years ago
    
    Sweet! Two of the worst thing s that can happen is- get an STD or get pregnant. Protect yourself and enjoy !
    
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  - BlueAlice
    
    11 years ago
    
    ... Looking forward to seeing you on Jeremy Kyle, then!
    
    You ARE aware that all he said was words, right?
    
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cheetahwings5479

12 years ago

Well... maybe it's just the hormones or somethin'>

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violetgrape

12 years ago

why do people insist on condoms,while we all know they are no fun at all.I have used the withdrawal method like forever.I've never got pregnant.My boyfriend just takes his### out before he ###.No side effects from pills,pure fun.

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  12 years ago
  
  That is one of the most idiotic and stupid things I have ever heard.
  
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    12 years ago
    
    first of all your negative energy is nauseating....withdrawal is a form of contraceptive.what do you think catholics used when contraceptives were not allowed in the catholic faith?Google stuff please.
    
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      12 years ago
      
      lol Its a known fact that roughly 30 women out of a 100 end up pregnant after using withdrawal as a contraceptive after one year. I'm literally looking at it right now. :P Why don't you google that?
      
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      You say that catholics didn't use contraceptives, but they also used the pull out method which is a contraceptive... your logic makes no sense.
      
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      12 years ago
      
      You say withdrawal is a contraceptive, but when Catholics can't use contraceptives, withdrawal doesn't count? lol Your argument is invalid.
      
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      12 years ago
      
      My. God.
      
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- NocturnePonyFan
  
  12 years ago
  
  PS get your fucking tubes tied. Your ignorant ass should NOT be breeding.
  
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  12 years ago
  
  Oh my god, really? Are you that stupid? My mom will tell you how fucking ignorant your method is...she used to teach at a special school for pregnant teens, and some of the girls in that school were as ignorant as you are. They thought the pull-out method was a good method of contraception, but they ended up knocked-up anyway. Have you ever heard of pre-cum? You can get pregnant from that, you dipshit.
  
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  may be you both are impotent! HAhaahahahaha!!! or your eggs are infertile or his seeds are mutants!!!
  
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