Is it normal to not greet?

This is what my monocular tells me. Greeting is a process predicated on cultural ideology under the archetype "respect". This is from my objective perspective. In my country, to not greet is not a sign of disrespect, it is a crime punishable, (Not literally). By choosing not to greet in the workplace or any other public place for that matter, it is seen as disgraceful or even racist. I mainly get this response, "I was taught to greet and show respect, it is my culture". This is after politely and firmly repeating " how are you", yet again. I am most assuredly viewed as arrogant, rude, snobbish, Intellectual or just a plain jerk. Does anyone possibly, maybe, consider how it feels for myself and millions of others to be engulfed among happy, friendly, talkative people Monday through to Friday. Do some possibly have personality disorders? Should we apologize for our quietness because we may be feeling suicidal? Do you seriously think I buy your coping mechanisms based on your own perceived happiness? How about comments from other people who see the glass as half full when yet it is still half? Do you seriously think you have any idea of who you are when the basis of psychology is presumed on the foundation that we all don't know who the hell we are to begin with? Why do you greet me? Will you be brave enough to tell me? Is it possibly because you don't like the elephant in the room? Is it because you don't have one up on me because I'm reserved so that means you don't actually know who the hell I am and that annoys you? Do you want me to make small talk so that you can sneakily get into my head and get an idea of who I am? Do you think I'm that dumb? Yes, this is for you neurotypicals who would spend a week explaining how important greeting is! Is it possible you still can't grasp nor understand the concept that perception is reality? Do you actually not see that people are different? That there are other realities? Is your psychological aptitude so low that all you can see are your thoughts and subjective presuppositions? The world according to you. Seriously, I am also agender. I tell you please don't call me sir and then you say - sorry sir? No problem peasant. You heard me. It is my culture to call you a peasant. I have no problem with people who have a low will to truth but lose the arrogant opinionated constructs that form the basis of your "culture". The fact you say "I was taught that way" tells me a book about who you are and that you certainly haven't placed truth seeking as one of your major priorities. Are people just lazy, unconcerned or self centered? You say I'm rude because I don't greet and I am disrespectful. Well, maybe respect is earned. I say you damn rude because you greet. You implicitly assert your views while you accuse me of doing the same. You assume that you deserve respect and honour because you are a human? A member of a species that kills other innocent animals and destroys life for greed and wealth? Some would actually say why don't you just greet? That would solve everything. Well, why don't you just wear a dress, wave a LGBT flag, become a vegan and walk past me in the corridor with a polite smile without greeting? No? I thought not. So why should I change my presuppositions for you, if you wouldn't even consider mine. C.Jung " thinking is hard, that is why most people judge".

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Comments ( 7 )
  • lolasprat

    It's absolutely normal according to me.

    It's also considered rude not to greet in my community.
    I don't greet people too. And yes they go trash talk me like "she's very rude."
    "wasn't she taught by her mother?"

    But all in all,will they force me if I don't want to???

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  • CountessDouche

    This post is absolutely insane.

    Listen, I'm getting that you're not neurotypical, but you're really demanding a lot of empathy and understanding from other people & meanwhile you aren't offering the same. If you are plainly demanding that other people understand why you don't want to engage in small talk & plesantries, then maybe you should put forth the effort to understand why they do.

    You want people to make concessions. That's fine, if you ask them, but you need to make concessions too.

    Like...I get it...I'm not a huge fan of small talk, but it is the social norm & therefor the default. You just can't expect people to do otherwise unless you communicate your needs & the reason for them very clearly. Having said that, you also need to compromise because the world simply does not revolve around you, crazy.

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    • Druteic

      That's strange I don't actually want anything from anyone. This is a subjective expression of how I feel. I don't let people know how I actually feel. No one asks, I'm just rude in their eyes end of story. It's so much more complex than this and we have no nomenclature to debate this. So it's really pointless. You say it's the social norm and therefore the default. And? So what. It's social norms that made war and allow the pointless slaughter of innocent life. You unfortunately assuming a lot of what I said. I'm also very soft, think of others before myself, also another reason I need to beware. The norm and default is also don't be down, we all have problems, make jokes but not too much, be caring but not too caring etc. It's mostly junk to me. To me we are fundamentally anthropocentric, by saying the world doesn't revolve around me is crazy given I'm an agnostic. Nothing even revolves at all. Nothing can be explained. Inductive hypothesis is so tiring and finding people who stay long enough to care for truth is hard to find, people ask deep questions when you get into it they get confused and weird. The devil's in the details though. Thanks for not swearing and being demeaning though appreciate that.

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  • a-curious-bunny

    Its called an enter key damn dude.

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  • Somenormie

    No, because you sound like a rude person when you don't especially when people greet you and they expect you to greet back.

    There is a little something named respect.

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    • Druteic

      Who said I don't greet back? I have never ignored someone who greeted me first. I don't greet they do. If they happen to greet me, I'll never ignore them. But when they push it with how are you after that etc that's when I have a issue. Respect in my world is earned. We not all humanists. I don't respect humans. I value them. Respect to me is earned. Al loving creatures including mammals like humans deserve value. The fact I respond when people greet me is meeting them half way. It's fair I think. I value all life and all animals, it's just human animals are my least favourite. They have seemingly the most self consciousness yet hurt other animals the most. I watched a human baby with a baby chimp recently. Guess who hit the chimp in the face. Sad

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  • litelander8

    Woah. I wish you could make paragraphs like a normal person so I could pinpoint these issues you’re having properly.

    It’s a proven fact that smiles are contagious and as much as you hate them, a simple smile to most people will make their day.

    I don’t give a fuck about your sexuality.

    Hi. Hello.

    Fuck your rude self.

    Byyyyeee.

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