Is it normal to not want to go to college?

I'm good in school. I'm good at learning. I've been on the honor roll and high honor roll my whole life. I have potential in the real world. I could become something.

One Problem.

I don't want to. I kinda just want to be like a house wife. A lot of girls would never say that, they want their freedom, and call it sexist. I'd love to just be a stay at home mom; cook, clean, stay with my kids. Send them off to school... I mean I could always work part time somewhere easy, possibly being something as simple as a cashier at a grocery store, or even a food establishment like Subway.

I just feel like college isn't for me. I don't want to grow up and get rich. I'd be perfectly happy with a cozy little home with a family that I love, getting along on what we have. I feel like I just wouldn't be happy going to school and becoming something huge.

I've thought of trade school, maybe cosmetology, or something simple just to get me by. I'm not looking to be a failure at life or anything, don't get me wrong, I want to have a good life. I just don't want to go to school for so many more years just to do something that I feel won't make me happy.

Is it normal for a girl like me, with the ability to go so far in life, to just want to settle down, fall in love, and... Stay home?

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88% Normal
Based on 99 votes (87 yes)
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  • Mando

    It is a nice notion but skipping any preparation for the labour market and putting yourself in a position of dependency is unwise. And these days high school doesn't cut it so its further training/education.

    That doesn't mean a BA. For you that would just be a continuation of high school given your grasp of education. Trades, art schools colleges offer all kinds of good vocational programming. Even go for a vocational assessment.

    That said, go for a simple, unencumbered and rich life with family etc.. But don't put your ass on the line.

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    • That's what I'm thinking of. Probably an easy trade school thing.

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      • Mando

        Well ... I wouldn't say its easier ... it will be different to what you have experienced though.

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  • the_misty_haze

    Its fine to be a housewife but you should probably have a back up plan in case that isn't possible. Its extremely hard to make ends meet without training or school. I suggest you find something you might like to do in case you don't get married right away. Also be prepared for the fact you might have to work to have a comfortable life style unless you plan on only marrying a trust fund baby a doctor lawyer or some other high paying career type guy you just might not be able to afford a nice life for you to do the house wife thing. Always have a back up plan.

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  • FocoUS

    I don't think you'll become a housewife straight out of high school. Pick your temporary career and prepare for it. So if that's cosmetology then go for it. I have a friend that went to beauty school she enjoyed it. Maybe you should join a book club to get some mental stimulation.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch

    I find college extremely rewarding, but this is your choice. You don't have to follow any social norms. Do whatever makes you happy.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    Get a degree anyway. No seriously, get a degree anyway. A useful one.

    I know plenty of housewives and many of them feel that it is a point for them to get their degrees before they settle down and have kids. First off, they want to be able and qualified to assist in educating their kids (as they are not comfortable in handing their kids' education over to whichever school system that they are a part of) and in the event that their husband dies, loses his job, or becomes unable to work, they have better job prospects than they would have as an unskilled Mother without even a college education.

    And trust me, you don't want to be like the thousands of Mothers that have found out the hard way that a minimum wage part-time job isn't enough to feed your children. And despite what people say about government money making you rich, it's really not enough if you need it. Please, go to school and get a degree. It is very difficult to educate your children and to teach your children the value of an education if you don't even have one yourself. What you want is normal and I know many intelligent women that chose their children over a brand new Lexus in the driveway, but if you want the best for your children you first must improve yourself. Intelligence isn't shit without a finished product.

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    • You do make a good point. Would my trade school idea be good enough? Or should I actually go to college?

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      • NeuroNeptunian

        I think that you should actually go to college. Your goal, as a Mother when you become one, should be to provide your children with the best. Getting an education and the real world experience that comes with an education will be a great way to provide your children with that real world knowledge that comes with enduring years of college.

        I'm assuming that you are young. You have plenty of time to settle down and have kids. It sucks to have to wait, I'm in the same boat as you. My husband and I hope for me to stay at home and raise the kids but I wish to get a degree so that I can be the best Mom for my children all the while all of my friends get out of high school and settle straight down. What can they teach their kids about education? Not much.

        Trust me, you'll be giving your children a great advantage when you give them a well-educated Mother.

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        • JustDave

          Go to college for all the reasons mentioned above. Also consider if you want a husband with some earning potential, I assume he will be college educated. I'm sure he will appreciate a wife who can carry on an intelligent, informed conversation. Who wants a spouse they feel they need to talk down to?

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          • I'm not stupid.

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            • NeuroNeptunian

              Most people are not stupid, but intelligence doesn't automatically equal educated.

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            • JustDave

              I have no doubt you'll be happy behind a register. You go girl!

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          • NeuroNeptunian

            Great point.

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  • Mando

    t is a nice notion but skipping any preparation for the labour market and putting yourself in a position of dependency is unwise. And these days high school doesn't cut it so its further training/education. That doesn't mean a BA. For you that would just be a continuation of high school given your grasp of education. Trades, art schools colleges offer all kinds of good vocational programming. Even go for a vocational assessment. That said, go for a simple, unencumbered and rich life with family etc.. But don't put your ass on the line.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    College is fucking shit fuck

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  • q25t

    I'd say go to school if only for the reason that it will help you with the goal you have now.

    College will give you a lot more than just a education. It gives you chances to meet people that you can then settle down with, along with the education to make yourself seem more attractive to those people.

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  • Ryan556

    If I were a women I'd be a stay at home mom

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  • anti-hero

    At least you have that option. I was born into the wrong gender to be a house wife and house husbands are seen as losers.

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    • NeuroNeptunian

      Man, that sucks. I actually like the concept of stay at home Fathers. I'm a big pro-Father person and I believe that a lot of the problems are youth are having are because of absent or unavailable Father figures, it'd be nice to see stay at home Fathers.

      If I wasn't worried about my husband becoming a lazy sack of potatoes, I'd consider it.

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      • anti-hero

        Well, I would also have to find someone willing to marry and breed with me. That is seeming less likely day by day.

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        • NeuroNeptunian

          I never understood that.

          Where I am from, women will be all over a man with a car, a job and his own place to live. It's kind of nasty but it's true.

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          • I dont know what made me stumble upon this, but is that really true about where you are from? I have all three of those things, actually a rather respectable job, and a nice place to live that is all my own.

            I have a hard time getting digits. Its to my detriment that I dont really try either, but if you have a good idea what the outcome of jumping from a building will be, do you still jump?

            Around me it seems the exact opposite is what is valued by women.

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          • anti-hero

            haha And I have all those things.

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            • NeuroNeptunian

              Hey I saw what you did there! Thank you! I appreciate, I am too broke for internet XD

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            • NeuroNeptunian

              Move to the south, you'll be valued greatly.

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  • thoughtfulopt29

    I always thought I didn't want to waste another four years of my life in school but hey I'm still young.

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