Is it normal to not want to spend too much time with friends?

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i cant spend too much time with my friends and it bothers me. i want to be able to go out with them all weekend and have long sleepovers but i always end up uncomfortable. when i sleep at a friends house i need to leave early in the morning because i dont like spending the rest of the day there. also a friend is going through a rough time and she's slept over before and the night was okay, but the next day was horrible. she stayed all day and it made me uncomfortable and very stressed out. she has asked to sleep over again and i dont know how to say no. i think its an anxiety thing, i just cant be around my friends for too too long. i want to tell her i cant be around people but she wouldnt understand and she has a thing for making people feel guilty. :( i dont know what to do. also, what could i say to her to let her understand?

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  • Ass_gas
    7 years ago

    You are just an introvert. I am too. We introverts enjoy people but they make us tired. We need time alone to recharge our reserve of social energy.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Tough if she's good at making others feel guilty when she doesn't get what she wants: who needs a friend like that anyway?

    Why not just tell her what you've described so clearly and well in your post: that the company of others is OK up to a certain point but after that it stresses you out. If you feel you must let her stay at your place, clearly limit it beforehand to overnight if you're comfortable with that.

    Longterm, if you want to change this and don't want or can't afford professional therapy, you could gradually increase the length of time you spend with other people in small increments. Depending on what form your stress takes, mindfulness meditation could also be a good idea, just for general calmness and easing of anxiety.

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    • carastarr
      7 years ago

      thank you so much :)

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        Thanks - good luck!

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