Is it normal to obsess over your friend?

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I have a bestfriend that I met 2 years ago. When I first saw her she wasn't much. However, one day there was a clicked in my head that made me want to make her my friend. Since then, I felt very obsessed with her (like I want to be with her 24/7 and I put effort to make her happy). All my other peers thought that it was weird since I wasn't the type to be attached to someone. It was like I was under a spell. Something about her made me want to monopolize her. My friend became irritated with my jealousy and manipulating personality but I believe she still loves me as a friend so she didn't try to avoid me. To be honest, deep down I hate myself for always thinking about her and making her sad in the past. I want to run away from her and this thoughts. It hurts most when she is already moving on with her life while I'm stuck here with this petty feelings.

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RoseIsabella

2 years ago

You need to slow your roll.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  I see but how should I slow my roll???
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    2 years ago
    
    You need to back off! You need to stop trying monopolize your friend's time. You need to stop being so jealous of, and manipulative towards your friend. You need to let your friend have some room to breath so she can enjoy a life of her own. It sounds to me like you are suffocating your friend.
    
    When someone acts the way you have described towards me I tend to distance myself from that person, ghost and eventually just disconnect myself entirely from them. Believe it, or not many people, myself included, would rather be alone, but feel free, than to feel suffocated by another person!
    
    I feel kinda like a douchebag saying this, but it needs to be said, "YOU NEED TO GET A LIFE"! You need to develop, and cultivate activities, and interests outside of obsessing about your poor friend. Take a class, get a hobby, take a part-time job, learn to play a musical instrument, study a foreign language, volunteer at a local animal shelter! Do something positive!
    
    I hate to say this, because I know it will be painful for you to hear, and I know that it's painful to be in your position, but you friend has the right to tire of you, and your shenanigans, and move on with her life.
    
    If what I have suggested seems too painful, and like a downright insurmountable task then you need to talk to your doctor, and seek out professional mental healthcare. I'm not saying this in jest, you could probably benefit a good bit from the right medication, and cognitive behavioral therapy with a trained professional!
    
    I wish you all the best in your recovery, and God speed.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      2 years ago
      
      I believe what you said about is true and I'm trying my best to be a better person. Thank you sooo much!!! I'll take your advice seriously. I'm indebted to you RoseIsabella.
      
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Rocknrolla81

2 years ago

Yes it’s completely normal. I’ve gone through that same situation a lot

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  I see thank you for your thoughts Rocknrolla!!
  
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  - Rocknrolla81
    
    2 years ago
    
    You’re welcome!
    
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Billy247newaccount_35467829

2 years ago

Yeah, you're a weirdo.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  I see. Thanks I guess.
  
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  - Billy247newaccount_35467829
    
    2 years ago
    
    You're welcome.👍
    
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FlubberRubber

2 years ago

Dude as someone who’s been in your shoes to an extent this is attachment issues to a tee. Please talk to someone about this, it’s not healthy for either of you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Thank you FlubberRubber. I'll try my best!!
  
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