Is it normal to obsessively stalk your crush online?

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Lemme explain. See there's this guy I have this HUGE crush on, I mean, HUGE. I've had other crushes before, but compared to my current one, they're nothing. I always want to be around him, even though he's barely aware of my existance. I added him on facebook, and I always check his updates and pictures, but I never comment on them. I google his name and follow him around on other websites creating a fake username, just to gain more information about him. But he has a girlfriend. He's totally serious about her and they've been dating for over a year. But I don't hate his girfriend, she makes him happy! Help? Is it normal to stalk a guy you like on facebook, especially if you're barely acquantences in real life???

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  • yumichu
    14 years ago | pl

    ...I knew I wasnt the only one!

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  • ladyday
    13 years ago

    hahahaha I've done this before. Same exact situation, except he randomly added me and I had never even met him in real life. I just kept him on my list to creep him from time to time because he is reeeaallly HOT. :P

    I deleted him after I realized that he's kinda dumb. haha.

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  • BrightEyes
    14 years ago

    I would say it was normal as I'm sure many more people do it than will admit. From what you've stated, you are not hurting him. Enjoy the freedom you keep behind closed doors.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I'm the opposite. I added my crush on facebook before I started crushing on him. Now i cannot bring myself to look at his facebook. I am afraid that if I look at it I will feel like a stalker because I already feel guilty about the fact I think about him all the time. I try to convince myself to suck it up and look at his pictures but I can't do it!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    14 years ago

    Er, yeah I think he's the type of person who would be flattered by it. Sorry to er, jump in here. But yeah I avoid him in real life because I'm really shy, so it's not like I'm hurting anyone...

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You are perfectly fine. Odds are though, even if he was single the odds of you two actually seeing each other in "real life" is rather remote. It is good to have goals and standards in a relationship. For instance, you probably would rather be with a nice guy who treats you nice than a guy who dresses and acts like a slob, right?

    I would honestly look at what you like about him and add it to what you want in a person. I did that with my fiance. I was sick of dating crappy women who act like my parents (like those I fight with here on this site.) and I started associating with people that act like myself. Sure, we may not be the "coolest" people around but we at least are happy.

    But, not everything has to be perfect though, like for instance with my fiance. It drives me absolutely nuts that she is rather "large" but she is a good person and I am happy to be with her. Going back to what I was saying though, no relationship will be absolutely perfect but use what you learned with this crush of yours to better your relationships.

    Either way, I wish you well.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      I think if I talked to him, he might like me. He's into theatre, so am I. We share similair passions. I like everything about him, his looks, the way he acts, I honestly can't find a flaw. That's probably because I don't know him enough to realize his flaws, but still. I like his sense of humour, how he is passionate about life, his love for theatre and writing and music.

      :/

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      Whoa! Way to turn the post into being about yourself, Bud "me-me-me-, blah, de-blah, blah-blah-blah" ... what an attention seeker. Anyway...

      Poster - I think you know this is not right & not healthy - and that despite the crush, you should back off. Ask: do you think he'd appreciate this if he knew? Of course not. Its just sneaky. Knock it off.

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      • BrightEyes
        14 years ago

        If she isn't hurting anyone, what's the problem? Being "sneaky" to satiate desires is part of human nature - it is her ego mediating between her id and superego. Better she do this than jump off the deep end, capturing her crush and force-feeding him strands of her hair.

        As a side note, most people wold be flattered to know someone was so enamored with them.

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  • sylow
    7 years ago

    Meany people do that it's comen

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  • deeeeeee17
    8 years ago

    Haha I'm currently doing this and I thought i was the only one!! I met this REALLY HOT guy only once but I could not stop thinking about him for daysss. So I did the only logical thing I could think of and found his instagram and twitter and not gonna lie, have been checking his pages 2 times a day everyday. I'm scared to follow him because I don't even know if he remembers me and if he does he will definitely know I stalked him and will find me creepy. Also I'm so scared that I'll never see him again since we don't live in the same state even though I have a MAJOR crush on him :(

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  • violetflowers
    10 years ago

    I definitely know how you feel. I was in almost that same situation for 3 years except I would stalk him in real life too so he hated me and forever will. If you can get away with online stalking, then that's awesome. I was so bad that my crush blocked me and I ended up making a fake account so I could still look at his profile. Nope, not a good thing, but when you're obsessed... you'll do just about anything.

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  • mateo
    12 years ago

    they blocked me

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  • seali001
    12 years ago

    How would you like some psycho troll stalking your man..back off stalker he's taken!

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  • maya617
    12 years ago

    This is happening because you need someone in your life. But this guy isn't available and most likely nothing will come out of it. All u need is somebody to love and to be loved back. Forget this guy. There are plenty of other available guys out there who u can meet and hopefully have a relationship with one. This guy is just a fantasy. Find someone real.

    Good luck!

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  • babyjhonny
    13 years ago

    Its normal yes but its also ilegal acording to the Terms and Conditions you agreed to provided by your ISP

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  • DCD
    14 years ago

    Find something else to do your behavior is creepy

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  • dwntwnMRbrown
    14 years ago

    sounds fucked up to me, cut it out stalker.

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