Is it normal to only be aroused in a romantic context?

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I only find sex arousing in the context of a lasting, meaningful relationship. The thought of sex with a stranger or "hooking up" with an acquaintance thoroughly disgusts me. Masturbation does nothing for me. (Notable exception is on the phone with committed partner.)

Although atheist, I find the prospect of waiting until marriage ideal, though not always feasible.

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Based on 58 votes (37 yes)
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  • gako
    12 years ago

    You're just what people call "not desperate". Good for you :))

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    • CheekyChihuahua
      12 years ago

      You don't have to be desperate to like casual sex. You can be the hottest thing under the sun and able to get anyone you wanted and still like casual sex.

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  • mardybum
    14 years ago

    It's normal. I can't imagine doing anything with someone I didn't care about in that way. I also find sex kind of repulsive with a random person, because you don't know what kind of stds they have...if they have any. Google an std and you'll never want to have sex again. Anyway...you're normal and just wait until you find someone who feels the same way.

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  • ellegirl82091
    14 years ago

    I feel the complete same way! Sex just isn't an enjoyable thought for me without a man that's completely and totally committed to me and in love with me who I love back with all my heart. I'm not turned on by porn either because it never has the emotional piece of sex that turns me on.

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  • bushxwacknsnack
    14 years ago

    i feel EXACTLY the same...

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  • TalktoFrank
    14 years ago

    DiscoDuck is right in my opinion though the opinions of others deviate although in my opinion only those who cant get a romantic love life are the ones who go round shagging ever girl that offers casual sex (not all actually offer it either) i agree i wouldnt have sex with just anyone, yes they could probably tease me into an aroused state for sex but the thing that would turn me off is that its gonna last what no more than an hour tops and then im not going to see her again in a relationship so then it'd end after it stood up pointless sex is pointless anyway you have sex with someone and you've technically slept with all their ex-partners and then all their ex-partners ex-partners and so on so find the one and then express your love to her/him :)
    frank...:)

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  • IveGotBallsOfSteal
    14 years ago

    Hey, Im a guy and the idea of casual sex to me is utterly unappealing. i just like the idea of romance attached to it, and companionship. Just means that you have an elevated stance on sex. Good on you.

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    • IveGotBallsOfSteal
      14 years ago

      I want to add that the one time I DID do something casual, with a good friend, it completely RUINED the friendship. COMPLETELY. Keep it up and don't feel weird about it. NORMAL and admirable.

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  • alexisfreak
    14 years ago

    Well.....................Dude, maybe you.... I don't know. I don't think this is normal because guys usually get turned on by women and want to have sex with them. But you.... I don't know, man.

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  • verbalvampire
    14 years ago

    verbalvamp here to say I abso-fucking-lutely agree with you... I give you 5 stars, if that's possible on here, lol. Okay, so first of all, sex in my opinion should be like a big fancy reservation, not something that you just hand over freely, sex should come with a price, that price would have to be committment... if i even spelled that right, so umm, what you said is absolutely norma 100%% so thanks for sharing your opinion, keep your mind that way, it's healthy and logical, I am atheist too, good job. - [email protected]

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  • DiscoDuck
    14 years ago

    I think its normal. I am a man and I can not just have sex with any female without being romantically involved with her...believe me I have had MANY chances. In the past I have either avoided casual sex when it was offered or just flat out turned them down. Of course as a result I got the "Oh you must be gay" thing. But actually I just don't want casual sex. It does nothing for me what so ever. I don't even get excited no matter how much a woman tries to tease me or seduce me....nothing.

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