Is it normal to plan your pregnancy with someone you know?

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I’ve been married for a few years now and wanted to start having kids. I’ve only ever wanted one kid, pregnancy scares me and I only want to do it once. The only thing is that I feel bad that my child won’t have a sibling/friend that they can count on for the rest of their lives. My older sister also wants to start having kids so she said why don’t we just get pregnant at the same time. I told my husband and he immediately got super pissed and said never will that happen he thinks it’s weird. He won’t specify why he thinks it’s so weird. He went from saying we can have kids whenever you’re ready to now not trusting me because he doesn’t want my sister and I to be pregnant at the same time. Is it really so weird to plan a pregnancy with someone? Especially my sister so they can have a cousin for life. I don’t want them to be lonely.

@pilum I get that actually. I guess I really didn’t look at it that way because all I was thinking about is if my child would be lonely since it would have no siblings

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  • JustJazzin
    2 years ago

    I don’t think it’s weird to plan the same time as a sibling. It would be nice to have kids around the same age.. cousins will stay close as they grow up, and when they’re older, which in turn will make you even closer to your sister… and there’s nothing more important than family. The only way I see a relationship between cousins coming to an end is if you had some kind of downfall with your sister; that does happen on occasion. An understanding husband should be able to share his feelings but also be supportive in your decisions

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  • Pilum
    2 years ago

    It is weird to plan your pregnancy around your sister because that should be something just between you and your husband. I would feel uncomfortable too. Like I was going along with the ride for someone else.

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    • LloydAsher
      2 years ago

      Permanent third wheel.

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  • momgetthecamera
    2 years ago

    I don't think it's creepy, I think they're overreacting. You are the one with the power to reproduce, it should be your choice absolutely. I don't see how it's wrong, I see people treating pregnancy as a taboo or something weird and to be kept quiet.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    It is not at all weird. In any way at all. I have the same problem unfortunately. I wanted my kids to be close to have a sibling but we've had several miscarriages. My sisters kids are also too old they are both more than 5 years older than my kid. My kid is 3 now and wont have a sibling until atleast 4 or 5. Which is way too late. My and my sister are 5 years apart and never did anything together.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    2 years ago

    Planning a pregnancy should be between you and your husband, not you and your sister. That shit would creep me out too.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    2 years ago

    That's definitely a bit weird because pregnancy is supposed to be special and I feel like it takes away from that. You know a lot of first time mother's end up having a second because they realize they can get through childbirth despite it being as difficult as it is.

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