Is it normal to resent unemployed boyfriend?

How could you be expected not to resent him in this situation? It’s time to stop playing mummy to this boy and give him back to his real parents. He’s taking advantage of your caring nature and you are enabling his leaching.

If you really don’t want to break up at least him tell him you can’t live together anymore until he sorts himself out financially. Again, you are not his mother.

Could you please be more detailed, and specific with regard to this guy's supposed disability so that the Is It Normal Community might better understand with what you're dealing?

Idk if its pride or coweardness but I would probably kill myself if I got to that level of slob.

Has he applied for government assistance for his handicap? Or looked into places that help hire/ hire handicap people? Sadly, you’re really hurting yourself trying to take care of him.

Is he handicapped? Is he getting any help applying for jobs, does he have any income what so ever like disability? If not you need to tell him to apply for the proper resources. If he's not actually handicapped he's just lazy and either way you need to set some ultimatums, he either gets his shit together or you leave him. You can't expect him to try harder if you just let him sit around and do everything for him, you're making him too comfortable with his slacker lifestyle. Sit him down and have a serious talk. Maybe he needs help with motivation, an ultimatum might make him realize the seriousness of the situation and if it doesn't... Well you've lost a giant weight on your shoulders to be honest.

Is it love or do you just feel guilty about him having a disability? Do you feel people will judge you if you dump him? Do you judge yourself badly for considering dumping him, because he has a disability? I would say you need to consider the situation very carefully. If you really really love him and want to take care of him then you shouldn’t resent him, but if you know deep down that you are only staying with him because you feel some sort of loyalty towards him, linked to the fact he has a disability, then you should leave him and start again.

How can you be half-“handicapped”? You’re either disabled or you’re not...

I would kick the dead beat out and find someone who isn't a loser and will get a job or at the least support you in some other way. You are not his mom. I have broken things off with people in the past since either I myself was struggling financially and had to get stuff squared away, or they were being lazy and wouldn't get things squared away. In my case I am just very poor. In most of their cases they just enjoyed mooching off mom and dad and wanted to do so until their parents went into retirement.

You should have his babies and benefit not only from government income, but also from the creation of one of societies future winners.

Why doesn't he have a job? If he's 'half handicapped', I would assume he is capable of working at a desk job, at least. A relationship is about being able to support each other. It sounds like he is taking advantage of you and that isn't something anyone should tolerate and you're doing a lot of harm to yourself. Your well-being is very important and what you're doing is tormenting yourself. It doesn't hurt to love yourself as well.

This all depends on if his handicap is the major factor in why he is unemployed. but regardless, you have no responsibility to take care of an unemployed and useless member of society. I know you love him, but if he's dragging you down it might be good to kick the shit. Do it for yourself but also him. He needs to learn he can't just depend on others his whole life, unless his disability is that severe that prevents him from being productive.

Yeah, you should dump him. Love isn't going to magically solve financial issues. Sure you could see if he can get disability, but that takes forever and doesn't pay a living wage in most places. He's basically useless.

Swallow the pain and leave the deadbeat

I understand that you love him, but love doesn’t pay the rent. Isn’t there anything he can do? There are lots of places that hire the handicapped, if he really is.