Is it normal to still have your childhood imaginary friend?

I grew up with abusive parents and after my grandmother died when I was about 4 I had no one to talk to about it. I made up an imaginary friend that was my age and talked to him when I was alone in my room. Every time I would cry he would just kind of appear and comfort me. The Middle School I went to was full of kids that wanted to feel hardcore and bullied people they weren't friends with. When I first told my parents they said it was probably my fault and I must have done something to the kids at my school because no one bullies people for no reason. When I told my imaginary friend about it, it made me feel so much better because he understood, even though I was pretty much talking to myself. I'm in college now and I still talk to my imaginary friend. I've caught myself having long conversations with him out loud. It's like he grew up with me and became a part of me. Sometimes I spontaneously refer to myself as "we" (like "shit we're going to be late"). I've talked to him about pretty much everything, and when my first girlfriend broke up with me talking to him was the only thing that made me feel better. I have real friends that actually exist, but I prefer talking to my imaginary friend when it comes to feelings. Is this normal or am I slowly going insane?

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69% Normal
Based on 35 votes (24 yes)
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  • anti-hero

    I asked Jack and he says it is normal.

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    • Unimportant

      Who's Jack?

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      • anti-hero

        My imaginary friend.

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  • charli.m

    It's normal. It was a coping mechanism for the trauma in your childhood.

    And now that you're an adult, part of you wants to hold on to the thing that gave you comfort as a child. It's understandable that you don't want to let go of that.

    As long as it isn't interfering with your life, it shouldn't be a problem.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing

    Yes and sorry this happend to you

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  • squirrelgirl

    I've had imaginary friends and an imaginary world ever since I was child. It's a part of who I am and I wouldn't change it for the world. I think it's normal to have imaginary friends; it's just that most people would never admit to having them. And your parents are wrong, no one deserves to be bullied.

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  • fullhouse

    Dont worry..I guess its normal..Just make sure you don't do it when people are around..
    Talking to yourself is very comforting,I do it sometimes..

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  • la_la_la_la

    Hiya,

    Yes. There was nothing wrong with my upbringing, & I used to live in a fantasy world full of magic songs (which can be quite believable if you find the right songs/bands) magic jewellery, fairies, trolls, shape-shifters, etc. I write stories now, so in a sense I still do live in it. It's a family joke that I believed it existed until I was 20.

    If I can do that without any problems, you can keep doing what you're doing. I know too many people with no imagination.

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  • Mando

    You know this friend is imaginary but the internal dialogue you have created is real and helpful to you.

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  • alv1592

    Sorry to hear about what you've been through. Your parents are wrong; people do bully others for no reason, as unfortunate as it is.

    Anyway I do think this is somewhat normal. I've seen a few people on this site with imaginary friends. I wouldn't say it's a bad thing if it makes you happy.

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  • I think it's okay as long as he doesn't reply back to you as a separate entity. I'm almost a little jealous; the way I dealt with my childhood would be to daydream. I wish I had made an imaginary friend up but it never crossed my mind...maybe because I had Barbie's. ^^

    I still daydream a lot btw. For the same reasons I did as a kid.

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  • Dad

    Oh like Jesus?
    As long as you know that its really just in your mind.
    You are talking to yourself.

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