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Is it normal these days for chidlren to remain living with their aging parents? it doesn't feel normal to me any longer but for some psychological reason, I am afraid of moving out and being my own man, yet I can't ignore the fact that I am alone and without the life I want to live. Is it normal to feel stuck?
With growing population (as they say) I ask myself where would all those new houses and apartments for such as you be built?
That's the agenda: instead of being empowered by inheritance let all young people move out of their ancestor's properties and become slaves to the banks for their new homes. Then your children will do the same, and their children... repeat.
You say your parents are old. Stay with them and give them the helping hand if they need it, and when they pass away you will be free man with your own fully paid property.
I'm 48. I just never separated from home so my life is not individuated, you might say. I feel fucked up because I want what every other normal man wants. A steady job, a place of his own and of course a woman. But as of now, I'm SOL. Your honest reply is okay by me, even if it hurts. Benjamin Franklin said, "what hurts instructs".
You can get your own place and still give them a helping hand. Still inherit their property when they pass. You don't have to buy a house to move out.
I don't know your situation or how old you are, but I have a cousin of 30'ish still living with his mom and no it's not normal. If she dies, he's fucked cause he never learned to live on his own.
When it comes the point of being dependent of mommy whiping your ass, it's not ok either. You need to have your own place and be your own man. And just as you are scared now, after you are on your own for long enough, you will probably fear moving back home just as much as you fear leaving at the moment.
Thanks man, for your feedback. yes, i'm 48! Wow, I am a little fucked up, but at least I realize it. It'd be a good thing for me to find an apartment not to far so my aging folks can call upon me when (not if) they need me. They are getting more dependent upon me, not me upon them. I'm angry every day because I'm a stuck *&!#$@$. You can call me fucked up if you want to, as long as you can offer constructive advice. I'll read it...