Is it normal to talk to a grave?

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My really good friend died in 2005 and I never had the chance to say goodbye, it hit me hard. I couldn't hold myself together to visit her grave for a couple years, but then I started going to it a couple times annually. I started to sit there and talk. I got everything that was in me out. Is it normal I sit and talk to her there? I know she is gone, but still it feels right to me to be there and do that.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Completely normal. She might be right next to you listening without you even knowing. So feel free to express yourself.

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    • dragonfly810
      10 years ago

      Abnormal. their DEAD, get over it!

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Totally normal. Sorry for your loss. But I'm sure your friend is listening to what you have to say. :)

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    • chubbawubba69
      12 years ago

      How are you sure of that, have you met dead people before?

      I talk to graves too, but I don't think anyone is listening.

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      • Heterarch
        12 years ago

        I know nobody is really listening sorta, but I never got my goodbye. I can just sit there and let it all out. She was my mom's best friend and my practical sister's mom. I guess it helps with peace of mind some and trying to make up for something I never can. I do know I am safe and it is calm/relaxing there, where I can be peaceful. I don't believe in ghosts or any sorts like that. That's a side thought on the subject at hand.

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  • me1993
    4 years ago

    It's very normal, and hopefully she has heard you chatting with her :)

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  • tori
    12 years ago

    I visit my parents grave. I talk to them. Mostly though, I talk to them while looking at their picture on my hallway wall. I didn't get to say goodbye to my dad. It was sudden for him. My mom I got to say goodbye. I was with her when she died.
    The only thing I wish is that i got to tell them more while they were alive. Empty my soul if you want to call it that.

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  • MyHazelLabyrinth
    12 years ago

    It's totally fine to do that. If you are comfortable doing that and talking to her there, and feel connected then that's all you need to know. I'm sure she appreciates that you still think of her. I'm so sorry for your loss.
    Hugs.

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