Is it normal to think the relationship comes before the children

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Is it normal to believe that the relationship between the two partners is more important than one partner focusing more on the child
than on the relationship

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Based on 18 votes (6 yes)
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  • Whatintarnation
    2 years ago

    Are you asking this because you're feeling neglected in your relationship?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Yes, my ex-wife excuse for not having time is that she need to focus on the child

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      • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore
        2 years ago

        There's something else going on, that wasn't the only reason for the divorce, it's just the only one she is citing. Your child will always be #1 and if you disagree, I really sympathize with your kid.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    2 years ago

    No. You brought the child into the world without its consent, so you both have a responsibility to give it the very best upbringing you can possibly give. Obviously you should focus on the relationship too, but to focus primarily on the relationship is a selfish act.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      2 years ago

      Exactly, children need attention and if you’re not willing to deal with that wrap your dick up. You brought this child into the equation so you give them all the attention they need- end of.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    It depends. I think if you already have a child and you are looking to get into a relationship the child is still the priority and you should look for a spouse that is good with the child.

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  • Mark92
    2 years ago

    Just give the child for adoption if you both don't want it.

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  • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore
    2 years ago

    Children always come first.

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    Unless the child is a newborn or has unusual health issues it is not normal - nor healthy for the marriage relationship - if one parent puts the child ahead of the marital relationship.

    For newborn or at the start of an unusual health issue you do have to make allowances for 3-6 months; but then things should stabilize.

    Cheating and broken marriages is the common outcome when one spouse ignores the love needs of the other spouse. "Empty" Love Tanks is never a good thing.

    There are a variety of books out there on the issue.

    One of the best - and it addresses this very issue (and many others you may not be aware of that is affecting your relationship) is: "The 5 Love Languages" by: Bary Chapman.

    Get two books. Your wife will need her own copy. Note that people have different reading speeds. Some people get thought this book in several days, others several weeks. Key is that she is willing to read it.

    You may have to read the book to find ways to convince her to read it.

    I wish you well with this,

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