Is it normal to tongue thrust/suck while rubbing silk on my lips?

I know it sounds like an incredibly odd habit, but ever since I can remember I've had the habit of rubbing silk, satin, or anything incredibly soft with a silk feeling (especially certain clothing labels) between my fingers or ESPECIALLY on my lips while I tongue thrust/suck. I know it sounds odd but, I just put my tongue on the roof of my mouth, and suck on my tongue and rub the ribbon on my lips over and over. I do it usually while watching tv or when I go to bed. It helps me fall asleep. It is incredibly calming and relaxing, almost like the feeling you get after you meditate. It helps me destress a lot.
I never sucked my thumb or had a security blanket, so I almost see pieces of silk or satin ribbon or fabric as my "security" items. I have never met, nor have I heard of anyone else who does this. My mother tried ridding me of the habit by throwing out ribbons, labels, clothes with ribbons or clothes with really soft labels, or anything that I used to "rub" on. I would get in A LOT of trouble if I got caught doing it, so I've kept it hidden from everyone.
Well, I'm almost 28 and I still do it. My fiancé knows about it now. He says I even do it in my sleep. He says my lips move back and forth even if the silk isn't making contact with my lips. Thankfully it doesn't bother him (he thinks it's cute) but it took a LONG time for me to open up about it... I just really need to know, is this normal?

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  • Petrichor.

    I don't think it's normal per se, but it doesn't seem like something you should talk to a therapist about. As long as it doesn't keep you from living your life the way you'd like to, I don't see a problem with it.

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  • Avant-Garde

    The silk is a replacement for Sephiroth's long silky hair.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa

    I would see a therapist about that... It sounds like some kind of coping behavior.

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  • Biggydiggy

    Yes bro i do the exact same thing. I thought I was the only person, I kinda rub on it(my blanket) in a flicking motion kind of like snapping!!

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  • SherryYung

    I do it too I do the exact same thing. Sometimes I’ll fold the satin into a cone shape and stick it in the corner of my eye or pull at it with a hang nail.
    I thought I was all alone in the world. Do you guys have adhd? I’m trying to figure out what causes this. I still have my baby blanket. The satin edge is all gone but at this point all I have to do is touch her to ignite the tongue thrust (though I’ve gotten a replacement for stimming)

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  • Akis13

    Thought I was the only one on earth too.I was always wondering if someone else had this as well, but this is the first time I searched online and found this forum.
    Anyway, I am 19 and I still do it after all those years and to be honest I find it and impossible to stop. Personally, I have it, on a way worse scale than the one you describe, I think. It is not necessary for me to rub silk on my lips to have a tongue thrust, I just need to touch it and "pet" it gently. Just a small touch or a gentle rub will trigger my tongue thrust. In addition, I have generally no silk restrictions. But I always had felt best relaxation when rubbing used fabric and not lately washed fabric. Perfect example would be my pajamas after 3rd day. Even my bed sheets but those after 1 week. Lastly, the one, I am ashamed of telling, is even my own underwear. After the first day it had been worn, just a rub with my fingertips on my underwear is more than enough to trigger a tongue thrust.
    For those, saying that we should visit a therapist, I definitely assure you that such a feeling isn't a harmful one. Such a relaxing/soothing/stress-killing feeling only few people, I believe, experience and the best way to describe it, is to call it a "Nirvana" state. Personally, I have never had even facial/jawline problems with this habit (which was my main concern) and I also think it is kind of helpful for the jawline since it keeps the tongue somewhat in an upwards position, which helps (as some doctors claim) at jawline growth.
    At the end, since I do not believe this trait can be found in more than 2% of global population (when I searched this topic, I couldn't find any relative topics other than this forum so I assumed this number as a first approximation. I think the real percentage is way less than 2% and I would bet that it couldn't be over it) so for people claiming to have it I would appreciate if we could share our family trees (place of birth/ethnicity of parents/grandparents), because if indeed that few people have this attribute it is very likely that there might be a far blood relation between us.

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  • aeddennn

    I really thought i was the only one who did this lol. Back to ever since I can remember my mom handed me some new pajamas made entirely out of silk and for some reason I decided to put it against my lips. Once I did so I did the exact same motion thing where I tongue thrust/suck my own tongue by putting my tongue on the roof of my mouth while the silk fabric rubs against my lips. I also usually do it while watching tv, when I go to bed, this also helps me fall asleep and i still do it to this day. It surprisingly relaxes me and soothes me as well.

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  • gray100

    I really thought i was alone here. Phew😂. I do exactly that tbh ever since I was born and growing up, I still do it to this day actually.

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  • Jade83

    My God! I always thought I was the only person who did this! Since I was a child I would rub this really soft place on a plush stuffed animal that I have. I'd do exactly everything you just described from the rubbing on the fingers and mouth to the tongue thrusting, and I've always felt like some sort of freak for doing it. I still have the same plush animal to this day and I am 33 now. I too also try to hid the habit as O am aware that is it not considered proper normal but at the same time nothing in the world relaxes or soothes me more. I've never seen a therapist about it because i didn't see it as harmful to others or myself in anyway. The way i figured it, is it can only help me in reducing my stress levels and that in itself is a benefit. Is it not? Some of my family members make it out like it is some sort of sentimental, immature, attachment to a plush animal when really it is just a tool I use to de-stress myself. At times I thought of it as a form of meditation (the way it makes me feel). Please excuse my over zealousness on this topic, it's just never have I met anyone else with this same habit. Take it from someone who understands completely, never you mind if other people think it is normal or not. You're not abusing drugs or boos the way others do. It is a simple, harmless habit that brings some serenity to an otherwise chaotic, volatile world. So I say have at it. Much love and happiness. ~Jade

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  • rubbingmylips

    I do it too

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  • RoseIsabella

    My younger sister used to do that with the satiny edges of her baby blanket. She called it her Noh Noh and referred to the sucking as ninning. She would go to sleep at night while ninning her Noh Noh.

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  • squirrelgirl

    Lots of people have little coping mechanisms that help them get through the day. Like my mama always says, if you're not hurting yourself or others, and if it makes you happy, then go ahead and do it!

    (My coping mechanism is cuddling with plush toys, by the way.)

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  • Just found an old thread about it and I'm kind of shocked. A lot of people do the silk rubbing thing and quite a few suck their tongues too. A lot suck their thumbs instead? I'm guessing my tongue is my version of my thumb. It has to do with impulse control and the sense of relaxation the rubbing provides.

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  • sleepyheadz

    I think that you should see a therapist. It's not urgent that you see them, but I'd go to see one just in case you need help coping with stress.

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