Is it normal to want to get out of a friendship?

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I met this one girl. We started chatting, and it was a great feeling to get a new friend. But as time went on i started to notice things about her. She firstly didn't care about her studies at all. She would on purpose leave work undone, be rude to people if they asked kindly her to not do something, use hurtful words to me, she laughs if somone get hurt etc etc. It feels like i can't have my own space to breath because she's always around me and my friend group, she would stay completly besides me, if go a little farther away she'd follow me. It takes many asks that i would get some own space and time with my other friends. Things keeping me around her are that she has befriended many of my friends, and i don't want them to question why i would do it. And every time she's sad, i feel pitty for her and i feel like i can't leave her alone because i'm being rude. I don't feel comfortable talking to her because she might get very hurt and i don't want to be a bad person. What should i do?

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  • Grunewald
    3 years ago

    Talk. If you can't talk without losing your temper or losing a hold on your emotions though, don't talk, because you might blurt something out or speak in a way that you'll regret later. She doesn't sound like the kind of person who can help you calm down.

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  • xeus
    3 years ago

    If you are in the right, then you shouldn't feel bad about talking to her about this. Try to explain her the things you've noticed about her. In a suggestive way, tell her to make some positive changes in her behavior. See if that works.

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  • olderdude-xx
    3 years ago

    Your obviously not clicking as you have learned more about her.

    This is quite normal... While you can try to talk to her as NormalJudge64 recommends; I doubt that will work out as I believe she has to change in fundamental ways. That is possible; but usually takes a fair amount of time unless there is a crises in her life that forces her to do major reevaluation of things.

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  • Somenormie
    3 years ago

    Talk about how you feel to her and perhaps talk it out what makes you uncomfortable.

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