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So me and this girl have been going out for about 6 months. I really like her, and she's really in to me. The one problem is, she refuses to go beyond kissing/light making out because of her religious beliefs. Am I wrong to want go a little further than just that? Or is she wrong to refuse to? How do I get her to go further? Thanks!
It's easy to underestimate how much of an impact this issue has on a relationship. A girl that has these values is a girl that is thinking about the long term... She wants to know that the guy she's with is right for her and that, when all is said and done, ideally means a guy that shares her particular life view.
In a similar situation I failed to realise how deeply routed a girl's beliefs were and that I would always be second to her life long partner - God. As hard as it sounds, unless you are willing to be celibate until you marry this girl (i.e. you want to spend the rest of your life with her, raising kids with values that you don't [or she doesn't] agree with) then you are really barking up the wrong tree trying to 'get her to go further'.
Don't hurt her. Think with your head, not your... hormones?
It's funny because no ones actually answered the question you're asking.
Yes it's normal that you want to do more with her, it's Completely normal.
if you really love her, you shouldn't make her do something she doesn't want to.
You were doing fine until you asked how you could get her to go further. This may be personal prejudice on my part but in my head I heard it as, "How can I MAKE her have sex with me?"
Anyway, honest advice... if you want more from this than she feels her convictions allow her to give, then - between you - you have an issue. The most important thing now is how you resolve the issue. First up, communication. Be honest. Say you want more. Listen to what she says in return. Maybe there's a compromise even though religion does tend to be fairly uncompromising. I think this is perhaps more about sacrifice than compromise. Are you willing to sacrifice your own physical wants, or are you willing to let your girlfriend sacrifice something she believes in to service those wants? If the answer is neither, then you really have a problem.
Respect her desires and do not pressure her. She'll probably eventually dump you if you aren't Christian though. It happens a lot. meh.
Neither of you are "wrong" You have hormones and urges you need to take care of, and she has values she wants to stick by. Neither of you should have to compromise. Maybe its time to break up so you both can find the partners with the same values as you that you both deserve. :)
Of she doesn't want to, you can't make her. You shoudnt push her to do something she isn't comfortable with.
First of all is nice that U both feel the same for one another but "U" need to RESPECT her decisions and beliefs.
If U can't handle the fact that she won't go further with U then U need to either leave her alone or respect her.
U obviously want to do more with her and seem to be pushy about it that's Y Ur asking how to get her to go further with U.
Please don't push the issue with her, let her be & respect her.
Also, tell her god came to you, spoke to you, and told you to ravish her. Lol
How far would you go with a religious burger?
I'm thinking some light lettuce between some freshly baked buns. Sprinkle some light cheese and tomato. Perhaps top it with some spicy sauce and nice meat or vegetarian fillet cooked to the point where the texture is juicy but still with good texture.
BELIEVE ME, BECAUSE SHE IS FAITH FULL TO HER RELIGION, ITS NOT SO MUCH GETTING HER TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU, BUT BELIEVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU THINGS WILL CHANGE ALOT AFTER WARDS, ITS LIKE YOU TRYING TO WIN SOMETHING AND SOMEONE TRIPS YOU, YOU'LL NEVER FORGIVE THAT PERSON. LEAVE IT ALONE AND TRUST ME IT WILL COME TO YOU, AND WELL WORTH IT!!
theres no wrong or right in this case. Your not wrong for wanting more it has been six mounths after all but she has her beliefs which are not going to change so she not wrong either.
Neither of you are wrong. You are just different with different beliefs. The more pressure you put on her the more likely it will be that she finally figures all you are interested in is sex and dumps you. If that be the case, beat her to the punch. If you really care about her,it might take time and non pressuring convincing. If you want to open a girls legs some times you have to open their hearts first.
If you are with someone whom u don't see eye to eye on the physical aspect of the relationship it is time to move on and b with someone you are more compatible with on that level. Life is too short. That and I think Christians and other religious people are a bunch of crazy quacks
You need to move on to a different girlfriend. This one is way too hung up on her "god!" give her the boot! Find a girl who will let you go as far as you want.
Tell her how u feel, and be honest but also be understanding, then if that doesn't work- rape. Ha ha. Kidding again. Then just try get a new girl if you don't really love her.