Is it normal: were you ever bullied?

Those of us who were different were bullied and those of us who "fit in" were left alone. People will always show hostility to anything that's "foreign" or alien to them.

I was bullied to hell and back, it was really mild in primary/elementary school but secondary/high school was plain awful. My grandparent's car got spat on once, I was always getting called something or the other and at times, it was physical, being pushed over, having my head pushed against a locker door and being kicked on the shin more times than I care to remember.

But bullying isn't normal because being a bully isn't normal. Most the times they got away with it even when I spoke up, mostly because they weren't having a good time at home. That's the part that got me pissed off more than anything.

It's not normal, but it is something that is, unfortunately, common. Elementary school was cake, most kids got along. Middle school personally was the worst for me. I was one of the smaller kids in the school (I'm now 6'1") and got picked on more than I felt I should have. Random kids kicking me down in the hallway, my food taken off m tray and slammed in my face because the thug kids thought it was funny, name calling etc. It toned down in high school, and I ended up shooting up in size by sophomore year, and I also picked up slick comebacks that made the bully switch roles, or become the one picked on. From there on, I was bullied less, because I was bigger than most of the kids I was bullied by, I fought back verbally and physically, just enough to let them know that I wasn't a door mat.

I you weren't bullied, you're lucky. It's a shitty part of growing up that most people went through as kids.

I wore glasses at school and I still have a rather large streak of geek which sometimes bubbles up to the surface. I guess I was a natural target.

I was never bullied either, my guess is what some consider bullying others don't.

Dappled, I have such an Internet crush on your geeky ass.

Now that I've said that - everyone is bullied at some point or another; just as everyone IS a bully at one point or another.

The trick is learning from the experience, whichever scenario it may be.

Excuse my ignorance, but is bullying a problem? I don't understand all this talk about it and what I've seen on the news. Is it recent? Why does it happen?

I was not bullied, but I was also pretty quiet and did not really get into the social scene until high school. Also I had my older brothers only 1 and 2 grades ahead of me and they were pretty extroverted so that may have helped deter some.

I invented being bullied. I had big buck teeth, pimples, was effeminate, and played the tuba. I was pushed around, laughed at, had mean tricks played on me. But know what? I survived and have a family and a good life because I realized that I'm stronger than any of the weak minded morons who tormented me.

I was heavily bullied for about 10 years. I still turned out having a good social life.

Some kids bullied me in primary school but it wasn't that big a problem. But I was pulled out of my first high school when the bullying got really viscous. I took up martial arts shortly after and was sent to a much nicer school were I made some good friends.

If your buliied its simple. Fight back even if you know you will lose. Or just catch them by suprise when their sitting down and punch them straight in the nose. I think getting punched in the nose hurts worse then getting punched anywhere else they will probably respext you for fighting back and leave you alone. Or it will get worse but its a 50/50 shot.

I used to get bullied alot in school, and have been in more fights then i care to remember. Once got in a fight with my own brother.

I've been both bullied and a bully. That's life.

I was tormented by this one black girl in highschool. She was always grabbing my purse from me wanting money. I finally had enough and I called on my very good friend Otis. He was one grade older than me. Well, when he got into her face (he was black also), she left me alone from then on. I wouldn't say we became friends but atleast gave a smile and a nod when we passed in the hallway. Otis, if you are still out there, I still think of you. And thanks!

Theres this one douchebag who was (by nature) being a douche bag to me, i wish to hit him with a metal baseball bat

I was bullied in 2nd grade for no damn reason. I didn't even know the girl but one day she decided to start bullying me everyday after school and her older brother would encourage it. Luckily I had my older brother with me. Almost every day after school we would walk home and they would constantly taunt us until eventually it got so bad I ended up telling my mom and she reported it to the school. The two of them were suspended and I remember after that, the bitch wanted to be my friend. to this day I still remember her name! fuck you deandra! You made some of my elementary school days a living hell!

Tbh, I got bullied pretty harshly all through elementary school and junior high, it calmed down after that but almost everyone I work with got bullied at some point. Bullying is horrible but it definitely happens to alot of people.

I have alot of friends but I am kinda the shy one and does not talk much. So there were people talking behind my back... I kinda knew it but did not know who or what they were saying. But then they got more guts and started to tease me like taking my stuff and throw them away.

I kinda was ok with it because its not a big deal but then they went to far, well really not they kinda just stretched my cap a bit and I got pissed and I punched him...

There was another time where this ''wangsta'' guy that was acting all cool and stuff, he bumped into me in the hallway and shouted something at me like 'watch where your going' or something like that. And I ignored it but then hes friends started to do it and that became a problem so I punched one of them and wanna to fight them all because I had a 2 of my friends backing me up. One of them is a boxer while the other one is a kickboxer. But after I hit him he just was like 'wtf?' and did not do anything back at me.

I guess you just need to stand up for yourself and not let yourself be bullied.

I was bullied in grade school for being too quiet. I hardly said two words in school so it's a wonder how I passed from grade to grade. The only times I DID talk in school was when one of my 5th grade teachers forced me to read out loud in front of the class a few times and you'd think that would make me talk more but it didn't. I was also bullied in high school and if I had the guts to stand up for myself and tell them to fuck off or punch them one they probably would of left me alone but since I couldn't I just had to suffer with it. The bullying stopped when I left high school halfway through year 10.

I would say it is growing all too common, but I wouldn't use the word "normal."

I would say that's it's both normal and not normal. Most people are bullies, from what I've seen. First Is the main bully or the leader of the group, then the secondary bullies that are influenced by the leader. These people tend to be weak, which Is why they follow the leader. Then there's the people who are neither bullies nor are they bullied, and finally the bullied, which may vary. Groups may intermix too. The secondary bullies are more than likely people who have been bullied in the past, they are insecure so they bully easier targets to fain pride and confidence.

I was bullied a lot. My family moved every few years and kids would bully me for being new, or being weird. I became really quiet which really didn't help matters. That only made people pick on me more. I had things thrown at me, written about me on desks. Kids would walk behind me and mock me. I even had this one girl who would try to humiliate me by dirty dancing on me everyday(I'm a girl). I never understood why she was doing it and would walk away but she would always follow me. It really made no sense. I was always quiet and nice. Kids are cruel.

i was bullied sometimes by rogue males, for some reason i got on their nerves and they wanted to flatten me. out of site and sneaky behind sheds and such, throwing rocks and the surprise attack. At around 11 they could outrun me and were stronger so i changed strategy and i remained hidden. i never had trouble with girls or most boys, just the rogue boy who felt bad about himself.

I was bullied several times before, mainly verbally but also physically. I didn't fit in and was always the outcast. I am still a target just not so much...