Is it possible for a guy and a girl to have a purely platonic relationship?

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This is just out of genuine curiosity. I feel like a lot of the male and female platonic friendships gets complicated because either one ends up liking the other or there some underlying sexual tension/ flirting. This isn't necessarily for every case but from my experience thats how it has been for me and my friends. idk what do you guys think?

No, one of them falls for the other and theres always some level of sexual tension 6
Its possible but rarley 17
Dude I have so many friends of the opposite gender and never have I caught feelings 34
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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    Everyone wants to fuck me. It sucks.

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    • LloydAsher
      3 years ago

      It can get annoying. I swear to god as soon as I pick up a girlfriend i instantly shoot up 20pts on the fuckable scale.

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      • SwickDinging
        3 years ago

        This happened to me when I got married! Loads of people came out of the woodwork. Same for my husband too. It's so cringey.

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        • LloydAsher
          3 years ago

          I always wondered why the fuck didnt they come out sooner? Why is that the bar they set for wanting to screw me? When I'm in a committed relationship.

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          • SkullsNRoses
            3 years ago

            The forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest.

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          • SwickDinging
            3 years ago

            I think it says more about them than it does about you.

            People who go after someone who is already taken have got issues. They probably would lose interest if you became single.

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            • LloydAsher
              3 years ago

              Yeah thats true I'm a 5/10.

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        3 years ago

        When I got into my first relationship back in 2015, friends and coworkers confessed they had a crush on me. It was hard to process because I didn't get into my first relationship until I was 26. I was like "where were y'all when I was single." I'm like a 6/10. I don't get why they pursued me after I was taken. What the hell was wrong with them?

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        • LloydAsher
          3 years ago

          People like to keep others as a back up relationship plan rather than plan A. When you are taken off the market I presume some bump you up to plan A. Idk I've always been real with people I liked.

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  • megadriver
    3 years ago

    Of course it's possible.

    I have very good female friends and I'm not attracted to them. They feel like sisters to me. They don't want me sexually either. And I'm ok with that.

    I've also done the mistake of hooking up with one of the hot ones... We did hookup, the sex at the start was fantastic, but the relationship was a disaster. When we split, I lost a friend and she then badmouthed me in front of her and our friends.

    Best to keep friendships and romantic relationships separate, unless you wanna stick with that woman long term.
    Destroying a friendship you've built for years for just a few hours of sex is not worth it.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      3 years ago

      Exactly- mutual repulsion is the answer! Unusually good looking people generally can’t have close straight friends of the opposite sex for this reason.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    3 years ago

    Mutual repulsion is the key, if both parties are gay, asexual or just genuinely disgusted by the idea of sleeping with their friend it can work.

    The vast majority of close opposite sex “platonic” friends I’ve personally observed are really just a guy waiting to for his opportunity to arise.

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  • jodi1955
    3 years ago

    opposite gender friendship is normal and is done with respect for each other. I have many friends of the opposite gender, spend time together, dinner, fishing, and just shopping, nothing more. why does everyone think it has to be about sex?

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  • SaltyKraken
    3 years ago

    It's possible, but definitely not common. For every successful platonic friendship I've seen, there have been three that got really complicated after a night of drunken indiscretions.

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  • aqueous_solution
    3 years ago

    Lots of guy friends start out having crushes on me or wanting us to have sex but over time (and also when they learn I have a boyfriend), those feelings usually lessen until they disappear. I also have had plenty of male friends where neither of us was into the other. Also sometimes I think some of my friends (of both sexes) look good but it's all there is to it. I don't want to flirt with them or fuck them or date them.

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  • nopurpose
    3 years ago

    Swap guy with gay and it shall work

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  • chuy
    3 years ago

    1000% normal

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  • Cliche1234
    3 years ago

    Of course it's possible. It's not rocket science. Not everything related to opposite genders has to be about dating and fucking, for fuck sake.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    3 years ago

    Extremely normal

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  • olderdude-xx
    3 years ago

    Totally normal: I have many female platonic friends. Admittedly, in a few cases we discussed going the romantic route and decided why ruin a likely good friendship and so we stayed platonic; and it was not like either of us was deprived of other good sex partners.

    There has been multi-year one platonic relationship that turned romantic - where we really felt we were a good long term match; and that lasted for 14 years before she decided to become a minister (with my support), and having an active romantic BF did not fit in with being a minister in her religion.

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    I have male friends and it's never awkward or weird. I've stayed over night on the couch of one of them and it was fine. They have asked me out in the past but it's still not awkward.
    Only opposite gender friendship that got too complicated was with a guy I actually had dated before we were just friends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      I mean, if your guy friends have asked you out before then at one point it wasn't necessarily a platonic relationship right

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      • ellnell
        3 years ago

        It is platonic, why would it stop being platonic because they tried to ask me out? Thats not how it works.

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    • SmokeEverything
      3 years ago

      I know this girl whos like 19 I got in a conversation about that a long time ago, she was saying she tried to be friends with her ex but hed get mad when she talked to other guys and stuff.

      Told her thats cause it wasnt a friendship, thats some dude using friendship as an excuse to keep somebody around.

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      • ellnell
        3 years ago

        Yeah same happened between me and my ex.
        He would say he didn't want to date again but he'd still tell me to not mention it to him if I date and if I did he got very upset. Made no sense and to be honest I wasn't a huge fan of him dating either which he noticed sometimes so in the end we only argued lol. That's not a healthy friendship.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    No they will have sex

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    • SmokeEverything
      3 years ago

      So? You can still be friends with somebody you had sex with

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    • nopurpose
      3 years ago

      Want some, hun?

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