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well i'm in a relationship with my bf and sometimes he says i own you your my property and it gives me butterflys and i love the thought of him controlling me. I wanna be his bitch! i don't understand why i just wanna be owned so badly! but he only say's it as a joke i want it for real! x
I find it weird. As a man I personally would feel uncomfortable being dominating 24/7 - I mean in the bedroom hell yea but outside its like I'm treating you as my dog or slave and it weirds me out. It'd be boring because you'd be forced to have the same mentallity as me and I'd feel like you'd be under me all the time and quite frankly I don't want that. You're not bringing anything new or vaulable to the relationship - I mean damn I want a girl with some spice and sass! Oh well some think otherwise.
I do see the appeal of being dominated and controlled-but I think it has a very ugly side because you're essentially giving up power/control to someone else who might not be good for you.
this is why if I was a girl, I'd be very careful with something like this and probably avoid it for the most part. Especially if the man happens to be evil-one day those butterflies in your stomach might be replaced by bruises on your face if you dared to challenge his authority...that's the nasty side of the D/S game.
Just be careful, know your limits, know when he is going too far. It's all tied to sexuality-so it can be a source of pleasure-but don't let it take over your life.
I agree.
To be on the safe side, couldn't you book an appointment with a dominator?
He'll know the limits and everything is consensual. If you can't take it anymore say the "safe word" and he'll stop.
This guy you're with could take advantage of you and it could become "abusive".
Just play it safe and be safe.
Good Luck!
I agree on the abusive point. I know some women love to have a man dominate them, but it is very easy to make that become a totally 1 sided relationship where the line between play and reality becomes blurred and he has complete control over her life.
On the flipside, if he's a great guy like me, (grin) then he'd dominate but still let her be lovely girly self and admire her and always respect her boundaries.
I think this is where it's really important for a girl to thoroughly get to know a guy over a couple of years first before falling into such a role.
Sometimes even the guys who seem nice at first could turn out to be crazy control-freaks and the wife-beater types. A girl has to thoroughly vet every man she gets involved with in a serious relationship.
That's honestly just a fetish. I'm a guy and I have a boyfriend who likes being dominated and submissive to me. Would I ever take complete control of him and make him do stuff he wouldn't like at all? No. There's such things as a safe word and boundaries. Those are things you discuss before you get into this stuff. But these kinks are very common. It's not weird. It's just something you want.
I wouldn't go as far as saying I want to be his bitch. But I think in some ways it turns girls on knowing their man is protective and dominant. That's what makes a manly man! Nobody wants a timid weak guy. Sex is better.
It's normal.
Just tell him you have a fetish like that. Im sure he wont mind controlling you.
Not weird, and not necessarily BDSM. You just may want a Dominant / submissive relationship. Read up on it. It's normal - but note each D/s relationship is different. It should be whatever u want it to be and not try to follow what someone says it should be
I love being submissive..I love being controlled. It turns me on. Love being told what to do in and out the bedroom. Didn't ask to be this way, I know I like it a lot.
ugh I am the exact same! I would love to be completely submissive to my man I just don't know how to tell him
Look up BDSM maybe that's your type of thing and experiment. Just make sure he doesn't become abusive!
That is really weird, why would you ever want to be someones bitch? Thats so degrading to yourself.
it's called wanting to be taken in hand, there is a site for it www.takeninhand.com
and now say thank you.
If by submissive you mean remaining in the kitchen until dinner is finished and then making sure the laundry is done and the rest of the house is clean then yes there is nothing weird about that at all.
In fact you should be an inspiration to women everywhere as one of the ones that "know their role".
haha i think its normal...
could just be biased tho cuz im the same way xD
females are supposed to be the less dominant ones so it makes sense you want to be dominated
It is completely natural and I myself like to be controlled a lot. Also, you might want to check out the ddlg community. They might have some advice for situations like this. As for the abuse, I do suggest you have some form of emergency contact and a plan to stay safe in case things get out of hand. It's better to be safe then sorry and while some may have good intentions, others might just want to hurt you. Make sure to look up signs of abusive signs so that you're aware when it's taken too far.
Although we were born to complement each other not to dominate one over the other , your guy lucky :3
HAHAHA its normal to want to get dominated.
Just make sure that he does not do anything overboard.
Enjoying the feeling of being wanted, protected and getting entirely controlled is 2 different things X:
And I assume what you say about being his bitch is just you getting very excited upon mentioning him xD
u want to be dominated all the time or jus for him to rilly wanna do it sometimes instd of saying he only kidding