Is my best friend in the closet?

Ok so this is something that I have been thinking for a few years. I'm wondering if my best friend is bi and I want to talk to him but I want to get some other opinions first. I'm not gonna say everything that makes me think this because I will literally be here for 5 years writing, but I'm gonna bring up a few valid reasons. We can start with how he acts, especially around me.

He gets very touchy when he's near me, and one time when we were sitting in class he was poking me. He started at my shoulder and I was trying to get work done and I told him to stop. He did stop then he started again and poked me. I ignored him so he kept at it and then he started poking me lower until he was at my thigh when I looked at him. He stopped and just kinda giggled and started talking to me about something else, but he seemed kinda off. Also, there he often jokes around and says something like "you know what, you should go suck my dick" but then he almost immediately gets kinda nervous it seems and says "actually don't do that because that would be gay". How he says it tho is what tips me off, he says it as tho he's trying to force me to believe something, then quickly changes the subject. Also he commonly denies saying things like that but I tell him "listen I remember you saying it" then he stops fighting me and changes the subject. A few of our friends have brought this up several times as well. He has told me on several occasions that he trusts me more than anyone and has told me some weird shit.

Also when ever I'm alone with him I can feel something different about him, almost like he's trying to make a connection but he won't actually do it. I can go on all day about this so if you want to know more I can add more. The last thing that kinda set me off is something I told him. A few months ago I told him in was bi and he was fine with it, and I have noticed we have gotten a lot closer than before, however in have noticed that he has changed his demeanor around me and he acts almost like we're dating most of the time, usually when we are alone together which is almost every day. I can see that he's hiding something, I feel that he is most likely bi but just hasn't come to terms with it yet. The reason I came out to him is partially because I needed someone I could trust to tell, and I felt that if he knew then he might be more comfortable if he is indeed closeted somehow. A few of my close friends has said that he does act different around me, and he talks about me a lot. For example, about a year and a half ago, when he started doing really odd things, I was dating this girl, and he was obsessed with us and a few people said he even seemed a little bitter when someone would mention us, or if he was talking about us.

I know I could be overthinking this, but if anybody else was in my shoes you would agreed 100 percent. He also said that I can ask him a few questions about anything, and he had to answer honestly, I haven't asked any yet but I feel that maybe he was trying to get me to ask him about this. He also does not like it when I say something is gay as a derogatory statement, even tho I'm joking, and he is not one to be easily offended. Also he always talks about hot girls and has had a few chances to get with them, but never tried to and claims he's too lazy. Sorry if this is long, but I just want some opinions. I could literally write a 1000 page book about things that draw me to this conclusion. I'm gonna ask him at some point but I was some advice first. Thanks.

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  • noitsnotmedontask

    It sounds to me like he does have feelings for you, even sexual tension. I definitely think it's worth asking as long as he promises he won't be mad beforehand.

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    • imgood124

      I'll ask him at some point, I just have to figure out what to say.

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  • CDmale4fem

    Call a book publisher.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe he's straight up gay, but still kinda scared to come out of the closet? Don't out him, let him come out when he's ready.

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    • imgood124

      I'll talk to him one of these days, when I feel its right, but I won't pressure him. If he is in fact closeted I'm sure he'll tell me at some point. H tells me a lot of stuff that he won't tell anyone else so he obviously trusts me. He's outright said that He trusts me more than anyone else.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Right on.

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  • Nickvey

    would you still be his friend if he was gay and out ?

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    • imgood124

      yes. I wouldn't care at all. He's like my brother and he is the only person I trust as much as I do. I also know that, while he seldom admits it, I matter a lot in his life and I wouldn't let him down just because he came out.

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      • Nickvey

        would you consider letting him practice gay sex with you to build his confidence and decide if he actually likes being a gay man?

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        • imgood124

          honestly I have thought about that. I feel that I would as long as it wouldn't ruin our friendship, and I know our friendship is strong enough. so yes, if he wanted to I would, and who knows, it might go somewhere further. I actually want to talk to him about that at some point, and knowing him he will just say maybe and then actually come back to me with a legit answer an hour later after we both go home.

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          • Nickvey

            i figured you would . I passed on a opportunity when i was 30 with a 16 year old nephew , he wanted to talk to me in private in my bedroom and said he was upset everyone at school was calling him gay because he had some gay sex. he didnt know if he was gay or not.He was just you know trying stuff out. I now think he waned me to fuck his ass so he could decide. i should have done it. he was nice looking and young. I think he chose me because i have been a gay magnet with my looks all my life. I just told him its too early to tell and being gay is fine if thats your thing. the ass lube was right their not two feet away. what was i thinking ? go for it.

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            • imgood124

              If he confirms then I'll go for it, our friendship is strong enough that even if we did do it we would be fine. I'm good at analyzing a situation before and I'm rarely wrong about these things. I know we are true friends so that's not an issue. The only thing is getting him to admit it, but I don't want to pressure him so I'll be patient.

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            • My motto is...always go for it!

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  • RoseIsabella

    Would it kill you to use paragraphs?

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    • imgood124

      Sorry I typed this out on my phone, I have fixed it.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Thanks!

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  • LuxM4G

    The both of you are totally faggots and don't flatter yourself by saying that you could write a book, since your not a writer. Maybe one day you could learn the trade, if you have it in you to be able to entrance the reader with riveting writing and publish your memoires in a novel, while adding some of your own personal experiences into it.

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    • You people that are always yelling "faggots" sure do spend a lot of time reading about it (abd more than likely watching gay porn). Maybe you really would like to try it!

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    • imgood124

      Ok I never said that I'm a writer I simply meant that I have noticed a lot over the years. Honestly if you're not gonna do anything but bitch about shit then why are you here? By the way, it's you're not your in you're not a writer.

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      • LuxM4G

        Humm... Mkaay...

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