Is my cousin's behavior normal?

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I think part of my poor self esteem issue comes from my cousin.
She notices everything about everyone's appearance. Everything. I sat on a beach with her for my birthday, and other than talking about jobs and careers, she made it a point to point out everything that was wrong with other people's appearances. That lady spent so many summers in the sun, her skin looks like leather. That woman needs a manicure for her cracked nails. That woman's hair should have been highlighted differently. Why is she wearing a t-shirt?

It can go on and on. I don't know how to ever meet her level of perfection. She also did things to purposefully get a reaction from me i.e. trigger my traumas on purpose. To be honest, I think she only used to talk to me and want to hear about my "problem" life, just so she can feel better about hers and her accomplishments. In the year we haven't talked, my anxiety disorder got 60% better. I wonder why?

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  • bbrown95
    1 year ago

    In my experience, people who are always making negative comments about others tend to be unhappy with themselves. They are very hard to be around as well, as they bring the entire mood down.

    If she has such a big negative impact on your mental health, I would suggest limiting your time with her.

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  • olderdude-xx
    1 year ago

    Your low self esteem comes from you listening and paying attention to your cousin, versus just dismissing what she says.

    You might find the book: "Psycho-Cybernetics" by Maxwell Maltz very useful for getting your life in order and moving forward.

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