Is spooning cheating?

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So I'm in a loving relationship, and I also have a male friend whom my boyfriend doesn't like. I hang out with the friend who is also in a relationship. We cuddle and spoon sometimes when we are watching movies, and he plays with my hair as a comfort thing. He have never kissed/ done more than spoon. My boyfriend doesn't know we hang out (he will flip). Is this considered cheating??

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xxwrong-as-rainxx

11 years ago | pl

I would be all kinds of pissed if my significant other was cuddling and spooning anyone other than me.

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Shackleford96

11 years ago | pl

This must be one of the most idiotic posts i've read in a while... There's SO many things wrong here...

Of course it's cheating! Are you fucking stupid?!

Firstly, you said your boyfriend doesn't like him. That should be reason enough right there. Secondly, it doesn't matter what you have or haven't done to/with this other guy, nor that he is in a relationship as well, If you even have to ask such a question then YES it IS cheating. The fuck is wrong with people these days. Have some damn morals and values, FUCK.

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- DolphinAngel
  
  11 years ago
  
  Can only agree to this and add that it's impossible to vote if people are just too stupid to make a poll out of a question that cannot be answered with "Normal" or "Not Normal"
  
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- BurnaBaby27
  
  11 years ago
  
  Passionate.
  
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- kupokupo
  
  11 years ago
  
  *Thumb-the-hell-up* Well said.
  
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dirtybirdy

11 years ago | pl

Forking certainly is.

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- Terence_the_viking
  
  11 years ago
  
  I want a good Sporking.
  
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  - dirtybirdy
    
    11 years ago
    
    Mmm...mashed potatoes.
    
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    - Terence_the_viking
      
      11 years ago
      
      Oh yes tell me more.
      
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Short4Words

11 years ago | pl

I think when you're spooning with this guy you are being both emotionally and physically intimate in a sense, I would be hurt if I knew my girlfriend was doing that with another guy. I think in a sense then, it is cheating. You should sort it out. God bless.

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- forever_anon
  
  11 years ago
  
  I agree with this and think that you (the OP) should think about why you want this kind of intimacy with your friend. What are you getting from the friend that you aren't getting from your romantic relationship?
  
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anti-hero

11 years ago

Who came first the bf or the friend?

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Gaddar

11 years ago

This is fucking wrong. Your frined is a son of a bitch with no morale at all. You dont deserve your BF.

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twistedsoul

11 years ago

Do you not get enough love and affection from your bf? Are you seriously retarded,and do things in spite of how he feels? Honey, if you know he'd flip, then its more likely that spooning is a big nope.
Seriously, if you ever feel doubtful, just think about it. Think about how you'd feel if he were doing what you're doing. If there was this one friend of his that he cuddles with, other than YOU, and playing with her hair and thenstemming into a good cuddle sesh. And you didnt like the bitch, ask yourself "fuck, how would I feel?"

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quentari

11 years ago

You may have spooned before you got your bf, and that's fine, but some things just have to stop when you get in a relationship. That is one of them.

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1000yrVampireKing

11 years ago

Well you are not actually with him but I can see why your boyfriend would be upset.

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nation

11 years ago

yes it is cheating because your being close with someone else. the guy obviously wants to be more than friends or he wouldnt be doing it. next time you spoon try and go further and you will see he's more than happy to go the extra mile this in turn will show you he thinks much more is going to happen in this situation

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Peptox

11 years ago

I'm gonna quote someone.
"This must be one of the most idiotic posts i've read in a while... There's SO many things wrong here...

Of course it's cheating! Are you fucking stupid?!

Firstly, you said your boyfriend doesn't like him. That should be reason enough right there. Secondly, it doesn't matter what you have or haven't done to/with this other guy, nor that he is in a relationship as well, If you even have to ask such a question then YES it IS cheating. The fuck is wrong with people these days. Have some damn morals and values, FUCK."

He said it perfectly but he forgot to add that you are a idiotic, disrespectful, cheating girl and you don't deserve the guy you are with.

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annm2361

11 years ago

How would u feel if ur partner was doing the same? Quick kiss cuddle but not a long spooning session is too much emotional attachment to it.

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moomus

11 years ago

I'd class it as cheating in a sense. Being intimate with someone, especially when your partner doesn't know or would flip, says it all.

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DubstepismyMJ

11 years ago

WTF. Think about this, would you spoon with any of your other friends? Your brother/sister? Dad mom? No. This isnt equivalent to a hug. May karma be with you.

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mazgan

11 years ago

fucking whore.

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Fabulous

11 years ago

It's not cheating till you make noise doing it

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bella_x

11 years ago

Dude calm down. And the friend was first.

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- shade_ilmaendu
  
  11 years ago
  
  If it's something that's always been a part of your friendship I can understand. Why doesn't your bf like the guy? It is controlling of him to tell you who you can or can't hang out with. But you still shouldn't be doing something you know will hurt him.
  
  I was until recently in an open realtionship but of course, that was agreed on at the beginning. I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with what you did, or with having multiple partners/different levels of intimacy with different people, BUT it has to be agreed on first.
  
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  - quentari
    
    11 years ago
    
    I'm gonna guess (with no other knowledge than what I've read) that the boyfriend probably doesn't like the guy as he see's him as a "threat" to their relationship. And hey, if she's going around SPOONING him then I can see why.
    
    They may have spooned before she got her bf but some things just have to stop when you get in a relationship. That is one of them.
    
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    - shade_ilmaendu
      
      11 years ago
      
      He doesn't know about that, therefore that cannot be the reason. As I said, it's not okay because she hadn't talked to him about it first. It's also NOT okay to control what your SO does, where they go or who they see.
      
      I was in an abusive relationship once, and one of the first warning signs was him stopping me hanging out with certain friends. Then it escalated to verbal abuse, suddenly the word "no" didn't mean anything anymore....
      
      Basically she should've been honest but her bf is throwing up some MAJOR red flags that he's a controlling douche.
      
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- anti-hero
  
  11 years ago
  
  Did you spoon with him before the bf?
  
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pixie_dust

9 years ago

you're emotionally cheating..

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SDDA

10 years ago

Yes this is cheating. Is it normal? To cheat on your boyfriend with your friend, yes. To not know you are cheating when you are spooning with your friend while you have a boyfriend? No, that is not normal.

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k1d

10 years ago

Wait.. Your bf doesnt like him and does not know yall hangout? WOW! This is cheating. Period! I dont think you would approve of him doing the same.

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highrider

11 years ago

Its not technically cheating but id be pissed as fuck to find my bf spooning with some other girl

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weirdlyweird

11 years ago

Cheating is nothing more than breaking the rules. You don't have to have sex to cheat. If your bf doesn't want you talking to the friend, and you do, then you are cheating. All relationships have rules. Some are spoken, some are not. But you both should know what the other will allow and wont. Breaking the rules is cheating! Plain and simple!

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sunshinerose

11 years ago

keep the clothes on and it wont be

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midgiebites

11 years ago

i know its hard to have a male friend who your boyfriend dosent like, been there done that. but i fucked my friend off for my boyfriend, to help you out how would you feel if your boyfriend was spooning a girl? i know ide hate it, even more if i didnt like her. you have to choose your boyfriend or you friend, its cheating if you love your boyfriend your decision should be easy.

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twistedsoul

11 years ago

Shit, that was meant to be a regular post. But take notes anyway.

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fallenangelstarr

11 years ago

It is cheating because ur being decietful to ur partner if u wouldnt do it infront of him then u shouldnt be doing it away from him.

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NeonLighterz

11 years ago

STOP spooning with your friend

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cody123

11 years ago

Slut

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crazy_asiknowit

11 years ago

yes its cheating...wat will u think of ur boyfrnd spoons with a "friend"?

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isitnormalwtf

11 years ago

You devil whore, stop playing your boyfriend like that, I can smell your fishiness from here.

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ChemGirl

11 years ago

I bet you end up marrying the friend you spoon with.

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fliplove

11 years ago

Forking is also normal.

As far as I'm concerned, it's f-n hot to watch my wife with another guy.

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BurnaBaby27

11 years ago

This question is so fucking stupid.

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locksmithtress

11 years ago

I dunno... I like cuddles, if I was hanging out with someone who was down to cuddle without trying anything funny, I'd go for it. My boyfriend might feel a bit uneasy but... He trusts me, and yours should too. Cuddling isn't a relationship-specific thing, my best friend and I used to cuddle all the time.

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- twistedsoul
  
  11 years ago
  
  Cuddling is something you do after sex, during a movie or falling asleep. With your partner! Its an emotional connection of safety and love. But, that is not something you share with friends. Somewhere along the lines, you guys will be drinking and then you'll start cuddling. Then you think everything will be good, but then hell "slip" his hand onto your bosom and youll noy mind, because you fua are so close. An where is your man in the picture? Not the one squeezing up on you. Then you'll feel like shit, and yo should. Ots not right. Not right at all. Either you want to be witj your friend or you dont. You need to set boundaries. Becase you will be screwed and thibgs will end. And usually not on a good note.
  
  I know, because ive had a lot of girlfriends do this to their man, and it just irks me that they dont even think twice about how their man would feel. Or even how they wiuld feel if their man did the same thing.
  
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KaaleeBund

11 years ago

enjoy the life. since u r clean hearted, nothing to worry. Enjoy/taste both bananas....lol

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