Is suicide okay if the problem *isn't* temporary? (please read description)

I want to preface this very clearly by saying that I'm not entertaining the idea of committing suicide, nor am I encouraging anyone else to commit or even consider it. This is purely a hypothetical question based off a cliche

The cliche that EMTs and doctors and therapists always use on a someone who attempted suicide is that "suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem"

But what if it's NOT a temporary problem? What if you live in North Korea and your family was killed and you were thrown in a gulag indefinitely? What if 5 different doctors all told you in no uncertain terms that you have a completely incurable form of cancer that will take your life in the next decade and will cause you indescribable pain every single day until then? What if you're a precision welder and lost both hands in a car accident and could no longer weld to support yourself?

My point is that I don't like cliches in general because people pretend like they're a solid gold trove of flawless wisdom, when the reality is that they're lazy and overused for when people want to be pretentious and sound smart but can't be bothered to put any actual thought into a statement

So what about in instances where the problem is very obviously a permanent thing instead of a temporary problem. Would suicide be acceptable in that case?

No, suicide should never be considered an option regardless of circumstance 8
No, suicide is never okay, but I can understand why some people would choose it out of desperation 7
Yes, suicide is okay but only in very extreme fringe cases 20
Yes, suicide should always be considered an option and the stigma associated with removed 11
Other (explain in comments) 2
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Comments ( 85 )
  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet

    If somebody wants to kill themselves, let them.

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    • Somenormie

      Unless it's assisted suicide.

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  • BleedingPain

    If the quality of life is so low, maybe.

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  • LloydAsher

    I would kill myself... only when the alternative was worse than death. Burning to death tops regular death. Alzheimers also sucks so probably kill myself in that instance

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  • olderdude-xx

    This is why a number of Countries and some US States have legalized the right for people with terminal medical conditions to end it peacefully and in a controlled fashion.

    There is a somewhat different reason why certain military and intelligence people will commit suicide to prevent the release of certain information. Their death is very small compared to the damage from the release of the information to the wrong people.

    In the end... the only right many of us have is how we die and for what reason.

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  • EnglishLad

    It's not a question of whether or not it's permanent or temporary. Suicide is a selfish act which is always preventable.

    If you want to die for whatever reason, no-one is stopping you from going to the extreme of killing yourself, but it will negatively affect those who care about you. If you fail to realise that, you lack empathy.

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  • Clunk42

    The real issue behind suicide is not that it's "a permanent solution to a temporary problem." There are many things that are permanent solutions to temporary problems.
    The issue with suicide, according to natural law, is two-fold. On one hand, the cause of suicide is evil, that being despair. On the other, the effect of suicide is evil, that being death.
    Despair is the total loss of hope, which leads to a variety of evils, the ultimate one being suicide. Hope is an inherent good that leads to greater good, and a lack of hope is an inherent evil that leads to greater evil.
    No situation is hopeless, and despair is never justified.
    The other issue, as I said, is the death caused by the suicide. Death is also evil, and to cause death is evil as well. In suicide, one is causing one's own death, which is an injustice greater even than murder.
    Thus, it is never acceptable, under any circumstances for one to commit suicide.

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    • Sanara

      Prolonging people's suffering when there is no real outlook for things to get better seem like the more evil action to me. Same as not putting down an animal when it is severely sick and not likely to get better. Causing more suffering is evil. Despair is evil, but thats also why we sometimes want to minimize it... It cant always be chosen to get over it. Normally I think suicide should be discouraged because the person actually may find happiness again one day which help make up for the suffering, but its not every case. Sparing their loved ones is also an argument, but up to a certain extent. It can be just as selfish to want to force someone to stay despite constant misery, again especially when they arent likely to get over it. I think you dont fully understand those situations some may be in and the suffering it may cause.

      If you truly think through it, I dont think you would want to live in any situation either, like if you're terminally ill and bound to hospital bed for the rest of your life, maybe also in constant pain and regardless would be trapped, bored, lonely and helpless and those are constant things. It takes a minimum quality of life, for that life to be worth it for the person (or for that sake animal) themself.

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      • Wow3986

        Great answer!

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      • Clunk42

        You are suggesting that because the object of evil is good, it is good, but evil is evil no matter what. The object of despair may be the good thing known as happiness, but it is still evil nonetheless. The reduction of suffering may be good, and it may the object of suicide, but suicide is still evil.
        Life is always inherently good, no matter how much suffering is involved in that life, and a life is never worth removing for the sake of reduction of suffering, for the life is always a greater than the suffering is an evil.

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        • Iambillythemenacetosociety

          Suicide isn't evil. And no, the fact you think life is always good proves your ignorance. And sorry to break it to you, but suffering is greater than life.

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          • Clunk42

            Suffering is never greater than life, for life is one of the greatest goods, while suffering is only a relatively minor evil.

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            • Iambillythemenacetosociety

              Pffft suffering is always greater than life. Life is minor, suffering isn't. It is more powerful than life.

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    • bigbudchonger

      Have you ever hearrd the story of Pandora's box? Hope can lead you to devestating places. For instance, what about wishing for a cancer patient to get better who slowly rots before your eyes and then dies?

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      • Clunk42

        It is better that they have lived for longer than they could have, even if that life was spent rotting away.

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        • Iambillythemenacetosociety

          That makes no sense whatsoever.

          "Hey! It doesn't matter if you were miserable during the time you were alive, it matters if you lived a long life of torture!".

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          • Clunk42

            Something living is of greater good than something not living; the condition of that thing in living never change that, no matter how awful they may be.

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            • harkosv

              Do you consider it wrong to put down a suffering pet? Because in certain cases where an animal is suffering and has little to no hope of recovering, almost all veterinarians recommend euthanasia. Whether it's an animal or a human, it seems infinitely more like an act of cruelty than an act of kindness to force something to live in constant agony.

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            • Iambillythemenacetosociety

              No, it isn't. The suffering and misery of a living thing ALWAYS is greater than something as pointless as life.

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  • Orphan

    No matter what, someone is always gonna laugh over u killing yourself. So no, no way in hell should u give in

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    In some countries they allow euthanasia of people who have chronic illnesses or debilitating disabilities whether it's mental, physical or both if they have no quality of life. I think that should always be allowed.

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  • YE

    It seems that the more years you put off committing suicide, (upon conception of the idea,) the more you gradually become deranged.

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    • Yaidin

      As opposed to all the sane people hanging from their ceiling

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  • bigbudchonger

    I think suicide for quadruple amputes and the like makes sense if they want to because the quality of life might be so low that death is preferable.

    However, I also think for actions like those committed by people in history like Otho it's also resonable and respectable. When you play your shot and lose that badly, at such a cost of life, better not to roll the dice again but instead off yourself.

    Also tbf even suicide in the case of those like Cato the Younger seems respectable.

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    • MonteMetcalfe

      Just curious... How does a quadruple amputee go about killing themself?
      Roll themself into an intersection?

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      • bigbudchonger

        loooool, Yeah I suppose so

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        • MonteMetcalfe

          If they roll themselves off a pier they might just bob around and float.

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  • Holzman_67

    I would recommend reading “man’s search for meaning” by Viktor Frankl, he addresses this, which he calls unavoidable suffering, but how there’s always hope, humanity and purpose in spite and because of it

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    • Iambillythemenacetosociety

      Well that's ignorant.

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      • Holzman_67

        Have you read the book? Dr Viktor E. Frankl specialised in helping the suicidal and his own Logotherapy helped thousands rediscover meaning and purpose in their lives.

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        • Iambillythemenacetosociety

          No, I haven't, but I don't need to read it to know that the belief that there is hope, humanity, and purpose is ignorant.

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          • harkosv

            Dr. Viktor Frankl was a Holocaust concentration camp survivor. If there's anyone in the world who has no reason to believe in hope, humanity, and purpose, it's him. Yet he found it in one of the most hellish scenarios ever created by human beings

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            • Iambillythemenacetosociety

              Because he is an idiot.

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            • LloydAsher

              Bet we are gonna find a worst scenario by the end of this century.

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          • Holzman_67

            Hey I think I recognise you from an earlier post on suicide, have we spoken before?

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            • Iambillythemenacetosociety

              No, I don't think so.

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          • Holzman_67

            You’re making an analysis on something you haven’t read, that’s ignorant

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            • Iambillythemenacetosociety

              Yes, I guess it sort of is.

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          • LloydAsher

            What an optimistic specimen

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            • Iambillythemenacetosociety

              I'm the most optimistic person on the planet.

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  • Tinybird

    I want a North Korean boyfriend I will give him a better life than he ever thought was possible

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  • Boojum

    I have to quibble about your third example: the skilled manual worker who loses the use of his hands. That would indeed be traumatic, but it's not a totally hopeless situation. It's highly likely that the welder could, with the sufficient psychological and practical support, make a new life for themselves that was just as rewarding as their old one.

    But I agree that your other two hypotheticals are pretty hopeless, and it seems to me that we should all have the right to end our lives if we come to the rational conclusion that our lives have ceased to be rewarding in any way, and there is no realistic prospect of anything ever changing.

    The line you cite about suicide being a permanent solution to a temporary problem is indeed trite, and I'm sure it's often used in a judgemental way by people who lack sufficient information to make an accurate assessment of a particular person's motivations. I wouldn't be surprised if some of those who deploy that bromide do so because they've had suicidal feelings themselves, and they desperately cling to the idea that their life _must_ improve.

    Still, it has to be said that a large proportion of suicides and attempted suicides are impulsive, and those who survive often find that their life has indeed improved after a time when they were in a very dark place and feeling useless and hopeless. One of the big firearm-related problems in the USA is the fact that easy access to guns makes impulsive suicide attempts far more deadly than they are in other parts of the world. For example, if you really want to kill yourself in Britain, it isn't that complicated to do the actual deed, but it takes forethought and determination to go to a high place and jump off, leap in front of a train, unclip your seatbelt and drive your car into a concrete wall at 120mph or slash both your arms deeply. Picking up a gun, sticking the muzzle in your mouth and pulling the trigger can be done on the spur of the moment and the job done in seconds.

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    • harkosv

      True. There are safety nets in place in most countries that account for injuries that take you out of the workfield

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  • JellyBeanBandit

    That's a fair enough criticism of that argument. People should use other arguments for discouraging people from suicide.

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