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Im 20 years old, I dont have any friends because I want decent new friends who wont use me and do things behind my back. I feel that theres an expectation for me to be wild and party. Everyone tells me I'm at my best years in life I should be living it up. I feel like if I dont go and party I'm gonna miss out on my youth and do it all when, I'm old and I dont want that.
well I can tell you, I "lived it up" in my teenage years and my twenties - plenty of drugs, drinking and parties. I'm now nearing 30 and I've got health issues I'm taking care of. So that feeling of invincibility eventually catches up with you, there is a cost to that "only young once" philosophy. Look after yourself, celebrate the good times when they occur but everything in moderation.
Holzman...wonderful post...People who usually are always telling people what to do...often they don't have their OWN lives straight...they shouldn't be trying to tell YOU what to do!!!...I'm 53...and I've seen many of those who have "boozed it up" or gotten higher than any airplane...and usually pay for it sooner or later...one or two that I know have actually died quite young because of those issues...I'm 53, and I have other issues, my main one being diabetes...and my issues are largely such as having limited feeling in tips of fingers and toes as well as potential blindness...amputation may also be a possibility in my future as well, should I live so long and acquire additional complications...
First off, there are acquaintances and there are friends; they are not the same thing. Friendships are something that happens, like love, but you will encounter many, many people in your life that are not real friends.
"A friend is someone who is there for you, even if it is inconvenient for them".
Next; Live your life as you please; it's your life. Don't let anyone else direct it, push you or curb you.
My biggest fear in life was to be at the very end regretting what I hadn't done. I've tried to insure that that won't happen to me by traveling, exploring and adventuring all over this big blue marble. A couple of wives, some exotic girlfriends and I'll pretty much try anything put in a bowl or on a plate (couldn't manage the monkey brains in Indonesia though, but hey, I can live with that!)
I'm not saying that you should live your life that way, but find your own path for now and see where it leads you.
I'd suggest; have fun.
It sounds like you have some pretty good ideas about not wanting false friends. If partying isn't your thing, you won't be alone if you look for folks who live it up in other ways. The people I partied with were just party not real friends. The party stuff made me forget that I didn't feel right in that crowd. It is better for me to be in the right crowd than to party to forget that I'm in the wrong crowd.
Sailor...I think you've got the point...where are those partiers going to be should something bad happen to you...in all likelihood...not around...your true friends will be the ones that will love you when things are down...just about anyone will love you when things are going good...will they like you as well when you're financially broke as when you are buying for the house???...
Just be yourself; living it up means different things to different people.