Is this autism my friend has? she has abnormal reactions

So basically here is an example of our typical conversation.

Me texting: What's up??

Her 5 hours later while at home not out: Going to bed now good night.

Her mid day: I have to tell you something.

Me answering same minute: Oh what???

Her 8 hours later: I can't remember good night.

Her randomly next morning: I took a photo of a pigeon look.

Me immediately texting back same minute: So cute! Where was this?

Her: Outside. I have to go.

Me: Uh okay. I'll talk to you later.

Her 5 hours later: I'll talk to you later.

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And on the phone she has 5 minutes then she tells me she has to go. It's always exactly 5 minutes. Then I'll sometimes be in the middle of talking and she'll say "it's 6 minutes I'm getting anxious" and she'll hang up on me.

I don't know if she's just rude and I should stop talking to her or what but one time I did the same thing she does to me by saying sorry it's 5 minutes and going and she called me back asking me why I did that when she does it every time. I've been friends with her 2 years and I don't even feel like I know her yet because she gives me 5 minutes to talk to her on text or phone and doesn't talk much when we hang. She will talk 5 minutes once a week anymore and she won't.

As for in person she will hang out 1 hour at most once a week and tell me it's "overwhelming her" to hang so long WTF. She literally got mad at me when we hung out for an hour and 20 minutes saying she's so overwhelmed now, girl you're rude as hell. We're friends stop putting a LITERAL timer on your phone when we hang out it's so rude!!!!

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  • SkullsNRoses

    I’m not sure if this is autism, I’m honestly not sure what this is.

    What I will say is, putting her issues aside, it sounds like you are much more invested in this friendship than she is. You should not have to harass or beg your friends to spend time with you.

    If you want to continue this friendship I would drastically lower your expectations for her and reduce the amount of effort on your end. A friendship should be 50/50 and not feel like you are chasing her or always bending to her whims. If it fizzles out it fizzles out, not all friendships are meant to last.

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  • kikilizzo

    It's literally impossible to determine wether or not somebody is autistic based on a few short text messages.

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    • normal-rebellious

      Autism is a way of looking after yourself: looking ridiculous, acting the fool, and being so immature people think you're a child, and laughing in an elaborate, overly silly, ridiculous way. Yes a lot of you are very silly and childish, living in fantasy, because you think your behaviour is funny.

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      • kikilizzo

        I cant speak for myself because I dont know myself very well but my autistic friends are far more mature than any neurotypical our age that i've met. They certainly never laugh at everything or act childish, they communicate very maturely and uses a type of language that is very old fashioned and polite in nature. Juvenile people irritate me so I could never be friends with them otherwise.
        I suggest educating yourself a little or actually interact with the autistic community. I wish I lived in a fantasy, maybe then my life would actually be simple, fun and enjoyable and I would not be affected by ableists.

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        • normal-rebellious

          Ableist? Give me a break! I'm not an ableist, you know you're a silly person, that's not a disabled thing, it's a you thing, you regularly play the buffoon.

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  • Cliche1234

    She could be a crash-landed, harmless alien disguising herself as human trying to figure out how humans actually speak to each other. Give her time if you're patient enough to keep the friendship. She'll adapt soon.

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    Sounds like one of those ppl that use their mental illness as an excuse to do whatever they want. I wouldnt talk to her anymore.

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  • Tinybird

    Stop calling autistic people rude.
    Btw sounds like she has social anxiety, because I have the exact same thing, and I don't like chatting on messenger AT ALL. I feel stuck and trapped like I can't just do what I want so I feel like I have to escape the conversation. I prefer it when it's not chatting and I have time to answer what I want after thinking about it. But the other person will be like "hello? Why not you answer?? Don't you wanna be friends???" Trying to guilt trip me I just hate it.

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    • normal-rebellious

      Why can't you admit autistic people are rude? (insert your illness and unprofessional trolling here you crazy person) Autism is an abomination, God hates you and your mother didn't ask for an autistic person in the family.

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      • Tinybird

        Speak for your goddamn self

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        • ospry

          normal-rebellious is just being a cunt. Ignore them

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        • normal-rebellious

          There's no such thing as me wanting your autism to exist, I didn't ask for it.

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  • Tommythecaty

    You: being pushy, obsessive, reading too much into things

    Her: not that into talking to you, possibly because of those things

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  • have_a_good_day

    nah, fuck dat hoe. do yoself a favor, send her to da hood. we'll dispose of da hoe free of charge. fahreal. that's what's up

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  • Kmoshea5

    Why don’t you speak with an actual doctor or medical professional about this? Why ask IIN.com for a diagnosis on your friend?

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    • I noticed lots of people here have autism and she's actually on a wait-list to get tested for autism.

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  • RoyyRogers

    Might be she is super busy.

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  • normal-rebellious

    Retarded? Pfft! When will people learn? I'm not retarded, nothing of me is retarded.

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  • normal-rebellious

    Hey, that's not very nice! Is it?

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  • normal-rebellious

    No they're not, we're all the same, you belong in a group, you're not all different, autism isn't individuality, if you weren't all the same you wouldn't by any doctor be placed in a group.

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    • kikilizzo

      Huh, guess I need to tell my fellow autistic friends that we have to start acting the same or else we aren't autistic anymore. Nice.
      Then again, all neurotypicals are identical right? I agree with that.

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      • normal-rebellious

        I've seen most people down south where I live, especially in the suburbs and city, most of us are the same, I mean identical, the food isn't similar, or slightly different, it's all exactly the same, and many people wear similar clothes and have the same smiles in a photo, they're funny (and boring) how they all sway on the bus the same way, copying each other for fear that being different leads to medical treatment, it's true, these people don't wanna be individuals and they say nothing of themselves wanting or not wanting to be different, they don't wanna be different and treating them different or special or individual insults them. "I'm just a normal regular guy" they say, "nothing special about me".

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  • ibrokemyds

    Obviously different people have different experiences but as someone with autism this doesn’t sound like an autistic thing to me. Maybe if someone else was starting the conversations I could understand avoiding replying for a little bit but she’s the one starting them. Maybe another social issue or maybe she’s just weird

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