Is this guy… normal?

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I have been dating a very handsome and charming guy for 2 months. We met at some random house party and have been hanging out ever since. We made our relationship official on the 26th December and we got intimate for the first time on the same day. He had an absurd appetite for sex and even convinced me that condoms aren’t needed because we have the gel + pull out method (fortunately I dodged the bullet and didn’t get knocked up). All he wanted to do was eat, sleep, sex, repeat until the 31st came and that’s when I said that I need to go to celebrate NYE with my parents and relatives. He was a but unhappy about it, which was the first bad sign.

The next day, I went back to his place and I was hoping to do something fun, like hang out somewhere, but all he wanted was more sex and this sex, eat, sleep lifestyle continued to the 3rd, where I had some exams so I had to be away for a few days. On the 7th, when I went to his place, he immediately pulled down my pants once the door was closed and when he noticed that I’m on my period, he lubed up the backdoor entry and stuck it in there. I screamed out in pain and curled up in a corner away from him. He then told me to go home and rest, so I left and shortly after I got a text from him saying that he doesn’t think we are compatible and he feels it’s time to move on… I have been trying to contact him ever since, but he has stopped responding and he is seemingly not even at home.

What’s wrong with that guy? Seriously?

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  • jackstormwater
    2 years ago

    No, rape and anal sex are not normal

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  • oldgoat65
    2 years ago

    Not normal and how old are you anyway? You seem very nieve

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    • RoseIsabella
      2 years ago

      She sounds like a college student.

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  • kelili
    2 years ago

    You will find better. Forget him.

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    This is far from normal... and as others say at least borders on criminal activity.

    He's only in it for himself... and he would make an extremely bad long term partner for anything other than raw sex.

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    • RoseIsabella
      2 years ago

      He's probably an abuser. Abusers tend to be very superficially charming in the beginning, and they gradually become progressively more abusive, and callous. I can honestly say that he is not a good person.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    2 years ago

    Forcing you to have anal sex with him was rape. None of this is normal, he seemed to view you as an object to be used. Have you considered calling a sexual abuse hotline?

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    • RoseIsabella
      2 years ago

      That is an excellent idea!

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  • Billy247newaccount_35467829
    2 years ago

    I wouldn't say that's normal.

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    • RoseIsabella
      2 years ago

      The guy sounds like he is a sociopath as well as a narcissist.

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      • Billy247newaccount_35467829
        2 years ago

        I have no idea if he's a sociopath or a narcissist, but he does sound like he's extremely addicted to sex. He's a weirdo.

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        • RoseIsabella
          2 years ago

          Well, addicts do very much resemble narcissists when they are active in their addictions. I was thinking sociopath, because he appears to have no empathy. He probably is a sex addict, and also a rapist. I wonder how many times he's done this sort of thing?

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          • Billy247newaccount_35467829
            2 years ago

            Correct.

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  • DADNSCAL
    2 years ago

    He sounds like a sadistic sex addict. Stay away from him. Why would you go after him after a horrible experience like that? Are you a masochist?

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  • LloydAsher
    2 years ago

    I agree but I didnt want to have the initial perception of me giving a pass to sexual misconduct which given the males prior history would he prone to doing.

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    When you say he was unhappy about you needing to spend New Year's Eve with family can you please elaborate on that for myself, and the rest of the Is It Normal community? He's obviously a very selfish, and self-centered person.

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    What is his home address? He is a true scumbag.

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    I see what you're saying, but he's still a sack of shit. 💩

    What kind of absolute degenerate assumes anal sex is just normal, and forces it on someone without having having any conversation about it, or getting consent. He sounds like a sex addicted degenerate who just uses other people to get off, and throws them away when he's done with them, bored, or suddenly afraid for himself. A normal guy who actually cared about her would have been apologetic, and concerned about her after he obviously hurt her instead of practically kicking her out onto the street. He's probably a narcissist, and maybe has antisocial personality disorder. That dude ain't right in the head!

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    That guy is a rapist! It's a shame you didn't dump him instead. He's NOT a good person!

    If someone is pushy, and doesn't want to use protection don't have sex with him! Also don't sleep with anyone on the first date!

    I think you should take a break from dating entirely, you need to focus on self care, and learning how to set boundaries.

    Why do you want to talk to that guy? He is a user, and an abuser; he's a brute.

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  • litelander8
    2 years ago

    Interesting.

    Imagine if this is how he normally navigates relationships. Gets one. Fucks them till they’re annoyed with it and finds another…. Kind of crazy.

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  • LloydAsher
    2 years ago

    Probably realized (or perceived) he raped you and perfered to not get the possible repercussions of said anal affair.

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    • RoseIsabella
      2 years ago

      Maybe she should call the cops? If she was gonna go to the cops though she should have done it immediately after the incident, and gone to the hospital for a rape kit. Now it would probably be a he said, she said thing. He probably wants to make it look like he's just not that into her, and lost interest, hence the text so that she will look like a crazy, obsessed, scorned woman if she goes to the cops, and tries to press charges.

      That guy is complete garbage, it's a shame she doesn't have a champion who could visit some retribution upon that guy. What really gets me is how complacent she seems to have been during this bogus relationship with that fiend.

      I want OP to know that it's okay to say no to people, set boundaries and dump people who treat her badly. I could be wrong, but I feel like she is very vulnerable, naive and easily manipulated. I hope she responds to our comments!

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