Is this many deaths normal?

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Ok, please bear with me. This is alot to explain.
On the 9th of janurary 2017 my neice passed away. She was still born.
On the 31st of janurary 2017 my beloved grandma passed away from kidney failure and mrsa.
On the 25th July 2017 my dear dad passed away from stage 4 lung cancer. Then on the 17th of janurary 2018 my dear aunt, (dad's sister) passed away from complications to do with diabetes. Then my lovely cousin died on the 27th of July 2018 only a few days ago from pulmonary embolism. As you can see the last 18 month's plus have been a struggle I am 28 and alot of my loved ones have passed away in the last 18 months most except my grandma died before they were 55. My dad 52, my aunt 51, my neice still born, my cousin 44. And my nan was 86. But what I don't understand all the recent deaths have been in July and janurary. I'm messed up about it all. But I'm starting to see a pattern? Is it normal all these have happened in the last 18 months. It seems like a conspiracy or something. Alot is going on in my head. And I'm probably not explaining very well... But it feels wrong some how... not looking for sympathy. Just someone with a clear head to tell me I'm being silly I guess. Or to confirm what's happening isn't right.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    Pure coincidence.

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  • ACfireandiceDC
    5 years ago

    I think 2017 was just a shitty year in general. Worst one of my life, although 2018 is coming in as a close second.

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  • paramore93
    5 years ago

    Very sorry to hear that, sounds rough. Something similar happened to me in 2015/16. I was convinced something was going on but have since come to the conclusion it was pure coincidence. <3

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    How many years have there been when nobody in your extended family died?

    Obviously, 100% of people die at some point. As you get older, your relatives also age, and the chances of death increase as people get older.

    If you have a large extended family, then the odds of someone in the group dying in any given year are much greater than if your family consisted of only you and your two parents. If nobody in your extended family dies for several years, then the odds are that there will be some period when several people die.

    It's a well-known fact that January is a peak month for deaths by natural causes, but I think the two deaths in July were just down to chance. Your father was very ill, and he had to go at some point. It's possible your cousin's death was associated in some way to the weather in July (high temperatures are stressful, and death rates go up during periods of excessive heat), or her pulmonary embolism could have happened then purely by chance.

    As for the ages of your relatives when they died, both diabetes (your aunt) and lung cancer (your father) are leading causes of early mortality, and both are strongly associated with lifestyle choices. As for your niece, the USA (The Greatest Country in the World™), has an infant and neonatal death-rate significantly higher than that of any other highly developed country. Pulmonary embolism can occur to anyone, but heart disease, obesity, inactivity and smoking all increase the risk. It can be fatal, but early diagnosis and access to good quality medical attention reduces the chances of death significantly.

    It's a normal human instinct to search for patterns in events, but often stuff just happens at a certain time for no discernible reason.

    I'm sure you've found the last eighteen months very painful. The death of close family members can be very stressful and adversely affect the health of the surviving family. Considering that several of your close relatives have died at relatively young ages, it seems to me the best thing you can do is have a look at your own lifestyle and consider if you can improve your own health.

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    • hardass
      5 years ago

      I have to thank you for your very in depth reply. And I imagine alot of time went into the thought behind your reply. I think it's sad but what you say is true. I have a very large family. And some people are bound to die. And what you say is true. There alot of things in my life style I could be changing to be around for my family for many more years to come. Someone had to say it. I'm glad it was you. Thank you x

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