It is normal that i have never had a friend before?

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I'm 18. I've never "hanged out" with people, never talked to anyone longer than 5 minutes. Literally. No one understands. They think because they stayed home one day to watch Game of Thrones instead of hanging out with friends that they relate. I played with other kids in the neighborhood when I was in elementary school, but I barely ever spoke. In elementary school I don't really know how normal I was. I remember only talking about pokemon. In middle school I acted like a clown and became the "weird kid" because I didn't have anything real to say. In high school I was totally silent. Now I'm trying to be normal and failing miserably. I feel like a freak of nature.

I had my college orientation a few days ago and during/after I was extremely suicidal after witnessing everyone else making friends with each other and thinking I will always be alone. I simply cannot talk to people. I average 3 sentences per person about banal subjects. Even if not I can only go on for a minute or so. I'm moving into a college dorm and I'm terrified of having no friends there. It would be the darkest hell to be alone and living at an ultra social environment like college.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Sheesh, man. That's no way to live. You need to atleast fake interest in some things to get your foot in the social door. I know how hard it can be, as I'm sure others do, to be new to an environment and don't know how to be genuine in a social introduction but if you don't atleast fake it then the outcome is far worse.

    I feel for you, man, but you have to put some work in. Wish you luck but don't do anything stupid like suicide. Even if you don't make friends you still have the rest of your life to do it.

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  • yjing
    6 years ago

    people today can only have superficial relationships. Try to go out and look for the people like you: they are few, but they exists. Today with social network is always more and more difficult to have a normal relation with someone.

    Peace to you, don t give up.

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  • Kevinevan
    6 years ago

    I'm like this but I don't think it's normal. I have very little to say to anyone face to face and people don't seem to want to interact with me,even my parents and sister.

    When I do say something it's usually bullshit. Nothing nefarious, just something made up to either agree with someone or keep a conversation. I feel fake as shit all the time and can't be myself in conversations.

    People probably pick up on this through body language but years of medications and psychotherpy did nothing to help me. I'm a lot older than you so I hope you find a solution.

    I'm resigned to be a pod now but don't give up trying.

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  • theearlofgrey
    6 years ago

    This is not normal behavior. However, it sounds to me like you may have social anxiety issues. You should see a psychiatrist/psychologist and see if they can prescribe you a medication that helps you function more properly in social situations. I personally am also very anti-social and choose not to interact with anyone except my mother, grandmother and significant other. I'm older than you, though, and experienced a time in my life where I regularly spent time with others. I developed social anxiety, myself, throughout my high school years, until it finally put a rift between me and the people in my life. I, too, feel incredibly inadequate and sad whenever I see other people being chummy and happy together. You need help.

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