Itn to sleep right next to a friend?

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There are girl sleepovers were everyone sleeps on the floor together and there is my friend who I think may consider herself a lesbian and loves to cuddle. Honestly I don't mind because she's a friend and we're pretty close. Although I wonder if it's normal to sleep in the same bed and snuggle together and hug and-sometimes I feel dirty when this happens and don't know what to think.
She knows I am not a lesbian type so she respects it and I respect her.
So what am I feeling that has me cautious?

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  • LillyPop19
    8 years ago

    My best friend slept at my house recently and we slept together in my bed (I have a double bed) and we cuddled. I think it's a closeness thing though as we've been friends since year 7 (I'm 19 and she's 20 now) and we used to kiss and hold hands :D

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    • gloryholeflasher
      8 years ago

      I envy the way women are able to do things like this; kiss, hold hands, sleep together, and cuddle, and it's deemed to be fairly normal and acceptable and doesn't neccessarily mean anything. They're just girls, just friends.

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      • LillyPop19
        8 years ago

        Well guys could do it too and nobody would care if they didn't make it out to be wrong..

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  • DolphinAngel
    8 years ago

    Now this comment will be a bit longer, I guess, so bear with me :3

    Sleeping next to a friend is normal, hugging and cuddling not so much.

    You said you think she might be a lesbian but you're not a 100% sure? Be open with her about this and make sure not giving her a wrong impression. Try making this conversation as comfortable as possible for her.

    I think this is important because I personally hate being unsure about stuff like this. Unrequited love or affection hurts but it's certainly better than not knowing what the other person thinks and feels.

    Also, I think continuing a friendship is prett hard when one-sided feelings are involved.

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    • gingerlove
      8 years ago

      I appreciate your comment but what do you mean by one-sided?

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      • DolphinAngel
        8 years ago

        One person having feelings (of romantic or sexual nature) for the other without them having mutual feelings.

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        • gingerlove
          8 years ago

          Okay I see. Yeah I've thought about that but I don't want to suspect that just because she may be a lesbian that she wants to be more than friends.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Her being a lesbian kind of changes that doesn't it?

    Because it might not be 100% wholesome. It may also lead to giving her the wrong idea.

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  • NihilOmnisciente
    8 years ago

    Sleep "right next to" a friend without hugging too much -> normal
    Sleep "with" a friend and hug and snuggle -> not normal

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  • tntom
    8 years ago

    Nothing wrong with platonic cuddling in my books as long as you both understand and respect eachother's boundaries.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    Deep down, you know she likes you and you're uncomfortable about it.

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  • SuMaFTW
    8 years ago

    I've always thought women are very touchy with each other, so maybe she's just like that. Especially girls.

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