Love and money

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I recently inherited a substantial amount of money and I'm wondering whether it was wise to tell my boyfriend who I have been with for the last 5 years. I wanted to tell him because I dont like keeping secrets and I am nervous about what to do with it. I felt better after telling him, like a weight off my chest. However, today I was speaking to my mother and she warned me not to tell him anything as it could ruin my relationship(she obviously doesn't know I said anything). Now I just feel like I have done something wrong. Is that normal? Have I done the right thing?

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    I'd say you've done the right thing, yes. What I'm finding curious, though, is that you had to think about it. I know every relationship is different but, after five years with someone, they'd either be with me when I found out about the inheritance, or they'd be the first person I told.

    On the other hand, perhaps your mother is suggesting your boyfriend sees himself as the provider and may feel threatened by your financial independence. Hopefully not, though - that's a very old-fashioned view.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    12 years ago

    money isnt as big a deal as people make it out sometimes.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    12 years ago

    Soooo, what-chu buying me????

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  • ValerieTDL
    12 years ago

    Of course this was the right thing, he is your partner of which you have been with for a large amount of time. NOT sharing this with him should be the wrong thing to do. If he loved you before you had money, why should you be concerned. Oh, and it would have been best tell tell your mother right away you told him already. If I were you, I'd call her. ;)

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Your mother is just frightened that he will squander it on you. This money is for you, and not for him. It would be different if you were married and using the money for your joint home and kids.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    And hiding it from him is any better? Trust issues will be created from this down the line. But it's your relationship, have fun with it.

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