Mad at me because of what i did in her dream?!

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My girlfriend woke me up last night to have a go at me for sleeping with her best friend in her dream, often she isn't quite with it waking up, she clings to sleep logic for a short time after waking so I always say something calming and she goes back to sleep, so I said, you know I'd never do that and went to kiss her when she turned her face away and went back to sleep,

I thought she'd wake up the next day with no memory of it, a few nights back for example she started talking about getting a dog, long conversation then The next morning she had no memory of it, I thought it'd be the same

I woke up and she was on the couch, mumbled one word answers to me all day and was just generally off with me all morning, when I asked if she was alright she just said " you know "

I tried to go with it, just be understanding and patient but it's so ridiculous I couldn't keep it up, I'm being cold shouldered because of her own insecurities, this doesn't seem like her, she's usually so rational minded now here she is mad at me for something she created, I've heard of this before but only on sitcoms, didn't know it actually happened, have you had anything like this to you? How common is it, iin?

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JD777

8 years ago

Wow, bummer. That's really unfair considering it's her that conjured it up. Maybe she's not as rational minded as you once thought.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yeah I'm not going to lie this is ringing alarm bells, most o us have insecurities but acting on them like this just can't be healthy, especially as I've given her no reason to be concerned over something like that, also it makes me think that she doesn't know me as well as I though, the fact that she is so angry over this must mean she can see it happening which in itself in painful
  
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Nokiot9

8 years ago

You're more patient than me. I have a tranq gun for when mine does that shit.

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iEatZombies_

8 years ago

This is getting blown out of proportion.
She's obviously a little insecure, however, it doesn't mean she actually thinks you'd do it.
She didn't have a passing thought about it- she had a full fledged dream where she blatantly saw a whole picture of you fucking her best friend. Even if it's not real, it's a shitty image to have in such detail. An image she had no control of. So that image being ingrained is going to be unsettling for her.
She isn't some kind of bitch just because she couldn't handle this horrible nightmare broadcast in her sleep.

I mean seriously.. end a relationship over a petty rough day? How much do you all of you actually care about who you're with...?
"Oh, she had a bad dream, she's scared.. What a total bitch."
Cuz you know, she'll never get over it or anything.

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jethro

8 years ago

Man if you try to understand why women do what they do, you will never figure it out. Just accept that they are wacko and go with the flow. You could tell her if she is going to blame you for doing something you had no intention of doing, you might as well go and do it. You are getting spanked so make it worth the pain. Perhaps she cheated on you and the dream is just her minds way of dealing with it. She is now convinced you cheated on her so now she won't feel so guilty. Better check her out.

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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

She's cray!

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JD777

8 years ago

Yeah, sounds like some insecurity and mistrust. If you think you want a future with her, I'd suggest having a serious talk with her - even if she just sits there fuming, you've said your bit. If she calms down, there's hope, if not, I'd be concerned about this one longer term.

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Freedom_

8 years ago

I've done this before... When I did it had already crossed my mind consciously that something fishy was going on and having the dream made it that much worse. If I were you, I wouldn't blow it off as "just a dream". Those insecurities are based on something real and if you want a healthy relationship you should both be open to figuring out what it is.

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- VinnyB
  
  8 years ago
  
  Though it seems to me that if her insecurities are unfounded, or things he may be completly unaware of, that maybe she is the one that needs to communicate them. He can't read her mind. Her just expecting him to read her mind and give short answers like "you know" when he does try to discuss it isn't really helpful.
  
  If she has concerns beyond the dream, he is recognizing that she is upset, asking her what is wrong, and all she is giving back is "you know", then he is not the person with the communication issue.
  
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  - Freedom_
    
    8 years ago
    
    They both have communication issues. She gives short, obscure answers and he is giving her the cold shoulder.
    
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    - VinnyB
      
      8 years ago
      
      Similar to his response, what he actually said in the post was that he tried to discuss it, and tried to be patient and understanding. But after getting nothing back from her he eventually got frustrated by her lack of communication and gave up. That seems logical to me. He can't force her to be honest with him. Would you have him pester her about it till the end of time?
      
      There are two sides to every story and we are only hearing one. There could be other facts. But based on what has been presented here, if she was upset, he tried to be understanding and discover what is upsetting her, and she was giving nothing back, then he is not the one with the cocommunication problem. Communication only works as a two way street. If she is not going to participate, obviously he is going to give up at some point.
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      I'm not, I never do, all I've done all day is try to act the same as I normally do, I've been trying to make conversation, asked if she's okay and asked to talk about what happened but she refuses to, this is a one way communication break down
      
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    - Ellenna
      
      8 years ago
      
      Read the post again: he says he's being cold shouldered BY HER
      
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      - Freedom_
        
        8 years ago
        
        Ah, I see. I misinterpreted that.
        
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        Ellenna
        
        8 years ago
        
        It happens a lot on here and sometimes I even do it myself!
        
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I think it's down to a lack of trust, which upsets me more than anything else
  
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  - Freedom_
    
    8 years ago
    
    If she's a rational person, reassuring her shouldn't be too difficult. Just have a mature conversation with her about why she's feeling the way she's feeling. Trust doesn't come as easily to some people.
    
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  - Freedom_
    
    8 years ago
    
    Plus dreams are weird, it could be your general attitude toward other women, she could be feeling like you're not giving her enough strength or something completely different that set off her insecurities.
    
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    - Freedom_
      
      8 years ago
      
      Strenght= attention*
      
      Wth, stupid phone lol
      
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regisphilbin

8 years ago

this only reveals her own insecurities, she thinks her friend is a threat to your relationship.

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(s)aint

8 years ago

I get the feeling, dreams can truly haunt you. BUT she should not act all rude to you. Hope things have improved now?

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Unimportant

8 years ago

You should sleep with her best friend.

If you are getting blamed for something, at least make sure that this 'something' happened.

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Ellenna

8 years ago

Dreams are fascinating but nearly always not logical. She has a problem if she's allowing the dream to affect her waking life to this extent.

Just a thought .... maybe she's up to something she feels guilty about?

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GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

8 years ago

Bitches are crazy it's impossible to understand their minds of madness. Don't even try. The best you can do is distract her with something shinny.

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chained_rage

8 years ago

ignore her. if she wants to be that way, let her suffer in her own thoughts. you did nothing wrong and that chick of yours is being completely irrational.
if she doesn't let it go and try to patch things up and at least apologise to you, you need to end this relationship.. fuck that shit.

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Aries

8 years ago

she needs to mature and become a woman , that's one of the silliest things I have heard . She is upset at something you did in a dream? ..... grow up.

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absolute

8 years ago

has she looked into possibly having schizophrenia or borderline personality disorder with psychotic symptoms?

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idiamin

8 years ago

She sounds like a typical dumb whore.

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Mad at me because of what i did in her dream?!