Mum and cancer. is it normal i feel so worried when i used to feel nothing?

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My mum neglected and abused my emotions for much of my childhood. I grew up feeling nothing for her.
Now she has cancer and it has spread to a different part of her body and she might need chemo...
Is it normal that I feel so genuinely worried? She used to make me feel so little. Now I feel so much. It's incongruent with my history. It doesn't seem right.

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    Your mother has been a part of your life for as long as you've existed. Your relationship was clearly difficult and you coped with it as best you could, but watching a parent move towards the destination we're all heading for can be traumatic.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Yes, it mean you a kind hearted, and empathetic person. No offense, but it sounds like you grew up to be a better person than she was.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Normal.

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    You only get the one mom. Of course you care.

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  • leggs91200
    4 years ago

    I don't think it has anything to do with concern for her health as much as concern for your own future.

    Maybe try to find out of she has any life insurance. Also if you are not out on your own but living under her roof, try to figure out your next step. Also find out what you would have to do (or not) when she does pass.

    Let's face it, she is one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel.

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  • brutus
    4 years ago

    Isn't karma a bitch.

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