Mutual crush on is it normal user. complicated! opinions?

OK, possibly quite a long story here.
Bear with...

I've been on this site for years but have had some really long periods away since joining.
Reappeared several months ago & sort of got hooked on the site again, started reading the new posts that interested me almost every day while bored at work.

Maybe 5 weeks ago I happened to get into some back & forth conversation with a certain user in a few different threads at the same time.
We seemed to have quite similar personalities & I have gold so decided to say hi in a PM & we started chatting there.

This ended up turning into countless Skype texts, sharing photos & eventually phone calls (SO many hours of phone calls...)

We're getting along great & after only 5 weeks have had some INSANELY deep conversations.
Like, shit you don't tell anyone ever, we've told each other.

We also have a stupid amount in common as far as our life experience, opinions, sense of humor, outlooks on life, etc go...
Seem to have covered most of the big issues in life & haven't come across anything yet we don't agree on or at least understand & respect each others point of view on.

Personally, I've never felt a connection with someone like I do with this girl (I've never come across a girl quite like this!) & I am totally fucking smitten, like a lovesick teenager with a high-school crush...

Not gonna lie, it doesn't hurt that this girl is absolutely beautiful but I didn't know that when we first started talking which makes me want her even more. Never started a relationship where the initial attraction wasn't mainly physical.

Feel somewhat crazy crushing so hard on a girl after such a short time but it gets worse.
There's a small obstacle...
I'm an Aussie living in Australia.
& she's not...
She's an American.
Living in the USA...
I know!!!

That's something that can be overcome of course but it's obviously a reasonably large deal.

We've shared our thoughts & she feels the same about me but this is totally foreign & surreal to both of us & we're both going back & forth in our heads about where to go & what to do from here.

I know others on here have successfully dealt with similar & after talking last night we both decided we'd ask is it normal for some advice.

So, have at it!

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  • TheWeasel

    Can I stick it in your butt!

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    • CoraCook

      Man, I think you really need to find your own butt once and for all....

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  • CountessDouche

    "Fuckin ay! Cheers!"

    This post was tits. I'll leave all of the sweet shit I have to say for offline, so I can save the IIN community from the task of simultaneously projectile vomiting while rolling their eyes.

    Have you seen jerry maguire?

    You had me at "fucking shark punching is an Australian right of passage."

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    • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

      where i comes from its the donkey punch

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  • derpyderp

    BTW, feel no need to remain anonymous about this.

    I'm OP.
    & I'm sure she won't mind me mentioning, (she loves this sappy stuff!) the girl I'm speaking of is CountessDouche.

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    • Shroot

      Bonjour

      I am myself in a long distance which I feel is going really well

      PM me if you need any advice or just a chat about it, I know what you're feeling :)

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      • EccentricWeird

        luv u mi english bb
        xoxox

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      • derpyderp

        Cheers mate.
        Have spoken to you quickly in the chat room before.
        You're "the pom".

        Will shoot you a PM at some stage.
        I know this shit happens but not to anyone I know personally & I think it's hard for people that haven't been through it to relate.

        A few weeks ago I would have said it was weird & now it's happening to me!

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  • Darkoil

    I've always quelled long distance relationships before they have even begun. I've known a few people try and do long distance from seperate countries, one even got engaged but eventually none of them worked out. I also know a few people who have gone to live in other countries with their Internet partners fairly straight away and they actually seem to manage to keep the relationships going.

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    • shuggy-chan

      Yeah that's kind of the same warning I had. There always turns to be a critical juncture in those long-distance relationship.

      I actually was in a relationship with someone off of Inn before. And we even met up and things were really good, but timing wasnt good for her. With school and stuff that after meeting, let me think a bit too real for her and she want to break it off.

      Which kind of sucks but I understood but then I think because I was so nice about it and I didn't get mad or anything but it made it harder for her to that she felt guilty.

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  • dom180

    Aww, how cute! :D I don't really have anything constructive to say but you two both seem really sweet and I wish you good luck.

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  • Well wow. I have to admit, this comes as a shocker and a disappointment. Why couldn't I have been the one she ended up with? I mean, isn't she in her twenties? She's perfect for me.

    I feel like I'm living that The Killers song that all you kids listen to. My stomach is sick.

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    • green_boogers

      You can have her, bro. I'll take an analytical female mind like iEatZombies_. Whew!!!

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    • derpyderp

      Fucking LOL!
      I was expecting some straight up, fuck-off honesty from you Gypsy but I want expecting that...

      She does like the ocean do you might have had a chance too!

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  • Doktor_Hildred_Von_Steinmann

    Well, what are you two waiting for? Life's too short for regrets. You can only give it a go.

    Good luck Herr derpyderp.

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  • oh how exciting for you two, congrats

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    • Doktor_Hildred_Von_Steinmann

      I remember you Frau splashy. Wie geht?

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      • very good , mysterious Doktor

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  • Pika-girl

    Oh my gosh! That's so sweeeeeeeet! Good luck! *rapidly applauses with a huge smile* :D

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  • CoraCook

    Well, hello on my drunken part. I'm quite sure I've had one of the most hilarious/fun conversations/banters I've ever had on IIN with OP as anonymous (Amirite? Yeah, I know I am, beary OP!!! LOL) and that it only ended cause I quit drinking (and he was already douching the cuntess!) so I wasn't around! (No, I wouldn't really do 'im! Unless I were drunk, of course)

    Like dom said, it's "aw, cute", but like CD said "eeewwww, gross, *vomit* (fancy beer)! Too much love drippin all over! Disgusting! Bleaeeeargh-!!!

    Seriously, I'm at my third (or fourth) beer (possibly fifth) and I think you two are a great match. I could offer you two tons of advice, both on what to do and *especially* on what NOT to do, but I think you've already got enough input to make this work --- Yay!!! :D

    You seem to be equally sane (or insane) and straight forward individuals and all I really have to say is if you are both as truthful as you seem to be, there's nothing that can get in the way of this newfound love. You are age appropriate for each other, both hotties (I knows!!!! Mwahahaha) and make a unique pair. Even if it's a 5-week-old-whatever-the-fuck-ship, you come across as one of the few couples I've seen in my (relatively long) lifetime that just make up for the not-so-fortunate-other-couple-attempts among the 7 billion of us monkeys, I mean, humans. From where I stand I can only hope- meh, and be kind of jealous :( - that you take it further and have little derpycountesses - whether they be human, canines or felines.

    You all know I only come here drunk, so don't take any of what I say to heart. Good luckers!!!

    PS: No, it's not complicated! It's the best thing ever!

    (Well, Scheiße! I ain't re-reading any of that shit. Fine if none of you do either)

    <3

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    • derpyderp

      HAHAHAHA. So you were onto me?
      Totes awks...

      Mmm, I had to stop the shirtless shenanigans when I realised I actually had a serious interest in the douchess.
      Fuck, I think I have some serious explaining ahead of me tonight! ;)

      It really is sickeningly disgusting teenager sort of stuff between us, in some ways almost literally...
      I'm actually quite surprised at myself!

      Your input is more than welcome although if it's coming you should probably get it in before the next beer!

      We both really are as we come across.
      She's one of the most honest people I've met which I fucking love & is also one of the very few females I feel I can be totally honest with, no holding back necessary.

      I'm sure things will work out...

      Cheers Ms Cook!

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      • CoraCook

        Damn, missed my chance by less than a week! Shucks! :(

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        • CoraCook

          To be completely honest now, that was completely harmless for all I know, certainly no explaining to be done!! :D we were incompatible age-wise to begin with anyways!!! hahahaha

          Since VirgoSpeaker (what was it? I can't be arsed to scroll back up!) mentioned CD's demeanor, I'd dare say that yours was also slightly different, you WANTED to find someone, more specifically, you were looking to find HER! And I'm glad that happened. I've tried relationships with one (or two) gentlemen here, but I'm not one to kiss and tell, so I won't be going public with it. I've been around nearly as long as you have. What I'm surprised at is how long it took you to get into some wtf-ship. I thinks you were just waiting for HER! <3

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          • CoraCook

            Oh, and I'm also of your ilk, as honest as it gets! *high fives* on you two for that!!!

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  • DumBellle

    Long distance relationships are incredibly amazing, powerful, intense and much more passionate, in my opinion of course. Being that I've had three, inception online:
    The "big one" lasted 8 years. The second about 2 years, on and off and the third (I didn't feel the same after meeting) But they were the best relationships of my life, thus far.

    The "big one", 8 years, we were separated by 3,500 miles. Literally across the country from each other. We managed so well and that person still remains my first and only person I've fallen in love with. I have never been that close and utterly enamored with someone. To this day, that person is my best friend (still in love with each other) and this person knows me better than I know myself. Neither of us were "looking" at that time, way back in the beginning of the social networking "boom" era. It just happened and was the best thing to ever happen to me. Talking on the phone, texting and IMing from the minute we woke up, until the other went to bed. 3 hour time difference and we began to think only in each other's time-zone. At that time, webcams were not the norm/installed in nearly every computer/ease of Facetime etc were not around yet; in that absence.. We sent personalized pictures a lot (and little video clips saying things and showing each other our town/house and even family members) to share everything we could each other. Smitten was an understatement.

    I can say, it's amazing and worth the effort to meet, if you two plan on it. We were just teenagers, no jobs and still living with our parents -- and made it happen. We worked hard to make every flight happen. Worth it and changed our lives.

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  • iEatZombies_

    <3
    Oh you crazy kids! =3
    Don't get murdered, lovebirds!

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    • CountessDouche

      Best comment ;)

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  • charli.m

    Aeroplanes are good things :)

    Been like...two years for me and anti-hero. Zero regrets. Feel free to PM me if you like.

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    • derpyderp

      Hey!

      Was hoping to hear from you (for obvious reasons) & I know Douche was too.
      Cheers, you'll hear from me in PM

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      • anti-hero

        The four of us, double date in Hawaii!

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        • derpyderp

          Now we're talking!

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          • anti-hero

            No swapping. I wouldn't wish that on the countess.

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            • CountessDouche

              We're on.

              You wrangle the midgets. I'll get the anal lube and the gimp suit. It should be convienent for me, since I'm overdue for a visit to a seedy truckstop adult megastore to research whether or not there is a sub-sub-section on Australian themed pornography.

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            • derpyderp

              Haha, I like the cut of your jib!

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  • dirtybirdy

    I can still dream of the countess, can't I? I won't let you have it all!!! SWINE!!!

    I'm sorry. You're not a swine. This is too cute though, I could puke.

    And now the thought of the filthy aussie accent is getting me all fluttery...what's going on down there between those american thighs?!?! I'll be off now...

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    • shuggy-chan

      Please excuse birdy, she been squawking up a storm since i shook her all night long ..... I accidently started the dryer when she was napping in there

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      • dirtybirdy

        You spun me right round baby!

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        • shuggy-chan

          Like record baby

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    • derpyderp

      HAHA! Aw of course you can!
      Unfortunately even I can't do much more than that at the moment :(
      But we'll get there...

      Yeah she loves this sweet soppy stuff.
      & luckily I'm a fucking charming fella!

      The accent just does it ha?
      She spoke about it since early on & as soon as we got on the phone she loved it!
      Don't even consider myself to have an accent but hey, whatever gets your motor going...

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      • dirtybirdy

        Well I hope you two get to meet and all that good stuff. Just please don't reproduce... the world can't handle any more derpy douches. Fuckin oath.

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        • derpyderp

          Cheers birdy!
          I hope we do too.
          It seems inevitable at the moment, it's just a matter of when...

          Fucking LOL...
          You might be right there!

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  • derpyderp

    Cheers everyone.
    Wow, basically all positive responses!

    Was kind of expecting some
    "You don't know each other"
    "He could be an Axe murderer"
    "She could be a fat, hairy guy named Bob with a girly voice & creepy pictures of his niece" type shit...

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    • CountessDouche

      Hahahaha. That's because you wrote the post, and you're likable.

      If I wrote the post it would have been a shit show. I would have written like 5 paragraphs that devolved into a diatribe on why I like you, and then erased all of those paragraphs and come up with something like:

      "IIN to be infatuated with someone who, for all I know, could smell like 3 day old ham left in the sun"

      It would have been horrific.

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      • derpyderp

        Fucking LOL!
        I so should have left the post up to you!

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  • BurningCity1131

    How cute! You guys should so set a date where one of you go to the others country and let the other give you a grand tour of their state or local museum and work it from there!! Good Luck!!

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  • Shackleford96

    Maybe you two should save up for plane tickets and meet somewhere for a vacation. Just, maybe do it with other people if you both can...

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    • CountessDouche

      Ohhhhhh no, you just ruined my secret plot of serial murdering hilarious, charming Australian men ;P but, seriously, we're both adults, well versed on the stranger-danger protocol.

      You do bring up an interesting point though, dear shakleford, which is the internet thing. The internet thing bothers me, maybe as much as the distance thing. Never had an internet thing, never pictured myself having an internet thing, am totally weirded out by the internet thing.

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      • Shackleford96

        Lol, I find it fascinating that two people can find one another in places that are so far away. I wish you both the best of luck :)

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    • shuggy-chan

      Imma do it with other people ;)

      But i wish u guys luck, and imma annouce that im in a secret love triangle with itduz, myself and old shacky over here

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      • :O Our love triangle was to remain secret!!!

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        • CountessDouche

          *puts on 70's porn soundtrack, rolls camera

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          • -Puts on flight goggles-
            I'm goin' in.

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            • iEatZombies_

              *Sigh.....*
              *Prepares shuggy's landing strip*
              -_-

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      • Shackleford96

        That's it, you weren't supposed to tell... Now Mr. Duz and I are going to have to punish you...

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        • shuggy-chan

          Do ur worst ;)

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  • kingofcarrotflowers

    Seems so many people have had relationships on here :(

    But nah, as someone who's often quite annoyed at public romantic moments ( it depends how saccharin it is) this was really nice to read.

    As someone who finds online chat hard to keep up ( not due to being disinterested) this isn't coming from personal experience but some people both on and off iin have made long distance work and some haven't, I know this is cliche because I've lost count of the amount of Times I've said this but wondering how something would have worked out is torturous,

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    • CountessDouche

      Relationship? It's more like a what-in-the-fuck-did-we-get-ourselves-into-ship. Lol

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      • kingofcarrotflowers

        Haha, yeah, I can understand that

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        • derpyderp

          & yeah FFS, don't say relationship or dating ;D

          This one's already totally freaking out about how weird it is to have fallen for somebody online...

          As am I to be honest but it is what it is

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          • kingofcarrotflowers

            My bad

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    • derpyderp

      I know of some relationships started on here, including another overseas one.
      How many do you know of?
      Such a strange way to meet someone after you've shared some of the most intimate details of your life on an anonymous website!

      I tried not to get too mushy ;)

      & you're right, if we don't give it a shout I know there's going to be a lot of wondering about what might have been...

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      • kingofcarrotflowers

        Maybe 4 some of those are ones I heard were before I joined or were on posts before I joined, I should add though that I'm really bad at picking up on things, I'm largely oblivious

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  • disthing

    I want a stalker.

    I hang out at the IIN bar in the sluttiest outfits permitted by law, but nothing.

    Where are you, creepy girls with an intense infatuation for unremarkable forum users who can't choose whether to take the piss or offer sound advice?!

    WHY DON'T YOU MAKE SHRINES TO ME?

    WHERE ARE THE OBSESSIVE PRIVATE COLLECTIONS OF MY EVERY COMMENT ON IIN, WHICH YOU ANALYSE WITH THE INTENSITY OF A WORRIED ENGLISH STUDENT REVISING FOR AN EXAM ON SHAKESPEARE'S TWELFTH NIGHT?

    Come on. Even if it ends like Lennon, I wanna freaky fan :(

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    • derpyderp

      It'll happen when you least expect it...

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      • disthing

        But I do least expect it. I least expect it now.

        Although now you've said it'll happen when I least expect it, I expect it to happen now, because it's when I least expect it - which means it's no longer when I least expect it, because you've made me expect it, so it won't happen...

        Damn you derpy Mc derpington.

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        • dirtybirdy

          I could pretend that I'm obsessed with you but I don't want to make you cry. I know you don't like me :''''''''( but I love you. I love you sooo so much it hurts inside my moist place when I think about how far away you are. How the sun sets later for you... how your shadowy essence slowly glides across the english countryside, gently stroking the dainty carpet of violets...I follow close behind scraping your scent into vials and flasks for the ceremony this evening....eastern standard time, of course. The alter is set. The time has come. A bird and disthing shall soon become one...

          *dances wildly* *screeches intensely* *flaps with the utmost vigor**

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          • disthing

            That's what I'm talking about.

            Stalk me, harass me, boil my bunnies and kill my prospective girlfriends in a jealous rage!

            I choose you, Pidgeot!

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            • CountessDouche

              No. You're very stalkable. There was a lovely stalky post about you the other day. I'll try my best to recreate it.

              *clears throat and adjusts diction*

              "I dreamed I was pregenent wit disthings babby and I had the babby and he came to the hospital and I said who are you and he said I am disthing and that is my babby. IIN?"

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    • CoraCook

      YOU DO NOT WANT A STALKER! I've been here long enough to know you're just playing an "I'm jealous role".

      You just wish you were in the pretty boy club... Try for membership, you've got potential!

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  • Holzman_67

    love grows on trees after all

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