My 16 y step daughter likes to put on makeup then take selfies hiding?

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My 16 yo step daughter, likes to make up her face then take selfies In a very rare way, she hides and wait for my wife and I to stay asleep or out so she does this with her camera, needless to say she has a very bad record in the social networks that I discovered when I started to monitor her activities, like watching hardcore porn, violence, nude girls (videos), flirting with as many guys she found, (she use to meet them in a "multiplayer game", in the chat, then she ask them for their phone number and their facebook account link. When I discovered this she had like 4 thousand "friends" and she was flirting at the same time with 5 or 7 guys all with the same method. When she used to do this she also liked to take selfies and post them on instagram, facebook, snapchat etc... Ironically I'm an expert in Social Media Strategies and Marketing, when I found this it really grabbed my attention. Maybe this could be another INN question.

Coming back to the main question and after this brief flashback, I'd like to know your opinion about this behaviors. I'd really appreciate your answers.

Thanks

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  • SkullsNRoses
    3 years ago

    What I find weirdest here is that a 16 year-old has 4000 friends on Facebook, do 16 year-olds still use Facebook?

    The fact that you’re obsessed to the point of reading her private messages is concerning, why do you think you have the right to do that?

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    • ghostiin
      3 years ago

      It results that I met my wife first, we both are divorced with kids, mine are not with me, but I have a 17 yo princess too and her mom is custody of her. Now, my wife's from Colombia I'm from Mexico, we live in Cancun Mexico, but she was already living here when I met her, and her daughter was in Colombia... so she just moved here since about 6 months ago or so. But for the record, when she was living alone with her granny there in Colombia, she was tremendously chaotic, rebel and with an awful behaviour related with her real friends and low notes in school, a complete mess. We I noticed this I started to help my wife to see what was going on with her so I started with her Social Networks and OMG! There we found a lot of garbage, starting with the fact that, as you say, a minor is not allowed to have Facebook. Nowadays that she's here, she has her privacy but of course due to the past issues she's under surveillance with a parental control software. She even knowing this, sneaked into her mom's mobile and entered to Facebook, we discovered she has not one but two Facebook accounts, the Fake one where she pretended to be a good girl and a "hidden" one where I found the most insolit things you could ever think to see from a 16 years old girl.

      After this complementary information, you might start thinking different about this and will understand that she has "issues" that I think they need psychological attention. Anyway, even when we made an intervention with her she promised to stop doing all that "bad things" and restart her life once here. But things have not changed at all.

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    • Clunk42
      3 years ago

      No, they don't use Facebook.

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      • SkullsNRoses
        3 years ago

        It makes me suspect this could be a troll, which honestly I hope it is.

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        • ghostiin
          3 years ago

          No this is not, I won't waste my time in things like this over the web.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    3 years ago

    Its kind of weird that ur spying on her like that. I wouldnt wanna know what kind of porn my daughter watches.. 🤮

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    • ghostiin
      3 years ago

      Well, I really don't know what your criteria is to analyze this, but if you are the father of a teenager under 18, you mean that you don't mind her watching porn, as if watching porn was something normal?

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      • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
        3 years ago

        I'm a father too. I expect my kids to look at porn in their teenage years. They're coming up in the age of the internet. There's no way I can stop it. When we take such firm position on porn we are just gonna piss them off and in a way discredit ourselves when we tell them real important things like "dont do drugs". I feel like when you tell them "Dont ever cuss. And dont ever look at porn." and you give them other unreasonable expectations they quit listening to you.

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  • KholatKhult
    3 years ago

    Not normal and not safe, desensitizing herself to sexual themes will make it harder to recognize when a predator is is pushing boundaries.

    Porn is incredibly unhealthy and dangerous for children, there’s a reason why it’s illegal in so many places, and almost always illegal for people under 18. It’s scientifically proven to fuck with peoples brain chemistry.

    Talk to her mother and work it out, children don’t have privacy that argument is stupid.

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    • Clunk42
      3 years ago

      I agree with that last point. Why is everyone like, "YoU'Re BrEaKiNg HeR pRiVaCy RiGhTs"? Children have no right to privacy. Children are stupid. If they had a right to privacy, so many more computers would have awful viruses right now that it's insane. Teenagers will download anything if they want it; they need watched like they're using a government computer that contains nuclear launch codes.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    Her behavior crosses the line. But this should be left to your wife to handle.

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  • Mammal-lover
    3 years ago

    How about stop being a perv looking at her private information

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    • ghostiin
      3 years ago

      Taking care of your kids by monitoring their actions on the web may avoid (on time), serious injuries we would never notice. And this doesn't mean at all that I'm a pervert. On the contrary, operating systems come now with "built-in" parental protection functionality (do you think this is for pervs?)

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      • Mammal-lover
        3 years ago

        Using a security system is rational. Digging through her flirts is absolutely perverted. You sed what shes doing and if it's a problem talk to her but stop fuckinv digging. Its pervy as hell ya creep

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  • --
    3 years ago

    She seems normal to me. You seem a little too obsessed with a child that is not biologically yours.

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    • ghostiin
      3 years ago

      Because I'm practically her father, I'm in charge of her, together with her mom, but basically I'm helping to educate her, remember I have a biological daughter but she can't be with me, so it is what it is, destiny gave me the chance of be a father this way.

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  • leggs91200
    3 years ago

    When kids screw up, the parents are held responsible.
    That might be why he is concerned over his step daughter's behavior.

    I do not know the legalities of when a step-child messes up but I imagine the courts would probably treat the step-parent as they would any biological parent.

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  • Whatintarnation
    3 years ago

    I'd say it's normal behavior for a 16 yr old in this day and age. It's also normal to be concerned with what she is doing online because there are so many weirdos out there.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    She is 16. It is normal for teens to watch porn and be interested in sex. Consider the fact that you ‘monitoring’ her online activities is fuelling this behaviour as she feels that you are disrespecting her and not giving her a right to privacy.

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    • ghostiin
      3 years ago

      She's a minor, she's already affected by the bad web content, she will need therapy.

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      • my_life_my_way
        3 years ago

        A 16 year old will not need therapy from watching porn. 16 is the age of consent in most countries for a reason. I was looking at all sorts of weird shit online from the age of about 11 and am definitely not traumatised nor do I ‘need therapy.’

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