My apt is close to being a hoarderer.. how fix?

Start off small. Get your bathroom in order and nice. Rest of the place can be a disaster for a few days no problem. Gradually knock out areas of your apartment and before long you'll have relatively little clutter. Donate or sell the things you don't need and work hard at keeping everything neat and clean. Good luck.

Back when I worked at the Target Food Ave, we had a Daily Cleaning Log and a Weekly Cleaning Log we had to fill out. I kept Food Ave super clean. My own home wasn't so clean.

I wound up giving away the junk I didn't need and made a cleaning log for my house. I had a different room to clean every Friday and I checked them off as I cleaned them. It works pretty well.

If its valuable sell it, if its sentimental keep it, if its neither-donate it or trash it.

With any big task, it's easy to get stuck in fixating on just how much there is to do and become so intimidated that you never actually start the job.

The trick is to break it down into realistically doable little chunks and shift your expectations of yourself so you don't feel like a failure when it takes longer than you expect. In your case, maybe just resolve to spend an hour - or even half an hour - sorting things out every day and make yourself actually do it. If you keep it up, you will soon start to see a difference.

Household mess is often a matter of a lack of self-discipline. If you have a habit of just chucking things wherever when you're done with them, then the place will soon look like a disaster zone. If everything has a proper place to be and you take a few moments to put it there when you're done with it, that will go a long way to keeping your place looking reasonable. It will also save you time, since you'll know where things are when you need them rather than have to search for them.

If you have a habit of acquiring and keeping stuff that you don't regularly use, most likely will never actually need and maybe don't even like that much, then you are indeed on the road to being a hoarder. There's often some serious psychological stuff going on with hoarders, where the crap they accumulate has a significance way beyond what it is. Usually only counselling can get to the bottom of what's really going on with that, and only if the person truly feels the need to change their ways.

As far as cleanliness is concerned, I personally think that's overrated. Yeah, food shouldn't be left lying around because it attracts vermin, toilets should be cleaned because a shitty toilet is smelly and disgusting, and it's gross if the floor is so filthy that your feet stick to it. But it doesn't really matter if there's some dust on horizontal surfaces, the view through the window is a bit blurred because the glass hasn't been cleaned for a couple of months and the shower isn't spotless.

I never tidy. I am a hoarder. In fact I recently tried starting to tidy my room for the first time in about 5 years, but I think I made it worse, and I lost motivation.

Every half year or so buy a couple packs of those stackable cardboard letter boxes and dump everything in them. You can stack nine of the heavy duty ones up to the ceiling.

if it aint got some special purpose and i aint touched it in a year then i dont need it

Agreed to start off small. Focus on one thing at a time, maybe one room, maybe one part of a room. Eventually, you'll get it all done.

Also, make a habit of putting things back where they belong and disposing of trash/cleaning up after yourself as you go, so it doesn't get this way again.

You'll also have to decide what stays and what goes if you have too much stuff. You can list things for sale online or gather them up and take them to a place like Goodwill or Salvation Army.

Make abunch of money, get a stay at home wife, and work alot. Then you dont have to worry about it.