My best friend is going downhill

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my best friend smokes pot nearly every single day and i tried to subtly bring up that shes doing it too much and i feel like she got a little bit mad, and even her sister messages me and shes upset because her sister isnt the same anymore. all she does is get high and shes left her ambitions and goals behind which sucks. she was driven and had self control but now its all gone. we dont talk that much anymore its killing me.

how would i approach this? no one else will say anything to her.

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  • Duderanch
    7 years ago

    Say something. If you are a real friend you will do whatever it takes. Been down the road of addiction myself. It's ugly. You need people to care enough to tell the truth. Be that person for your friend.

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    • carastarr
      7 years ago

      thank you a lot.

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      • Duderanch
        7 years ago

        Welcome. It's tough to do but if you are a true friend you won't stand there and watch it happen.

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  • DuHast
    7 years ago

    It may look like the weed is the problem, but it's usually more of a symptom that reinforces the problem.

    So, rather than telling her what she probably already knows (that she smokes too much pot), talk to her about why she's lost drive and motivation. Why she's lost balance in her life. What she wants to do in the future and what's holding her back. Try not to be critical or she'll just think she's on trial.

    I used to smoke pot everyday, and it did tend to isolate me from other people. It made me distant, living in a bubble and emotionally washed out.
    But some people can smoke and lead healthy productive lives. It just depends.

    So make sure you hear her side of the story, and whether there's an actual problem or if it's just your perception. Either way, try and stay connected to her, be there for her even if she's not ready to address the issue yet. Because there might not be much you can do, so just be as positive an influence as you can.

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    • carastarr
      7 years ago

      thank you.

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      • DuHast
        7 years ago

        That's ok, I hope things go alright with your friend. Have you spoken to her?

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        • carastarr
          7 years ago

          no but im meaning to, still worried with how to bring it up because it is sensitive.

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  • yourdaughtersinmybasement
    7 years ago

    Tell her if she wants to smoke that's her choice, don't fight with her about it, that will drive her away from people and get her closer to her drug.

    Maybe she needs to get high because she's got some emotional pain.

    I went from weed to heroin to alcohol, now I'm 36 and I've got nothing, I wasted my life on addiction.

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    • carastarr
      7 years ago

      thank you. and im sorry to hear that :(

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