My boyfriend is pressuring me into having sex what should i do?

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Cause I’ve been dating this guy whom I went to high school with and we have been dating for a couple of weeks now and we been chatting on the phone a lot too but now every time I’m on the phone with him he’s pressuring me into having sex with him since we are into a relationship and I’m not comfortable at all to be doing that with him but he tells me that if I come to his house have sex with him on his bday cause his bday is coming up soon he’ll give me a Amazon gift card in return and I don’t know what to do cause he brings up wanting to have sex with me in each phone conversation we have even though I asked him “Can we please talk about something else other then you wanting to have sex with me”? He just keeps at it with the sex thing.

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  • miss_jass06
    3 years ago | pl

    Pressuring someone into having sex is NEVER okay. He's clearly manipulating your emotions by mentioning his birthday and wanting you to do it in exchange for an Amazon gift card - this is beyond weird. He doesn't respect you saying "no" either. I think it might be time to break up.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    If you're not ready for sex then continue to tell him no. Always remember that no is a complete sentence, honey! When he continues to nag you for sex just tell him that he's starting to get on your nerves, and or that you need space. What you don't need is some selfish jerk who is trying to pressure you into having sex with him after just a couple of weeks!

    If I were in your shoes I would reevaluate the relationship, because chances are good that he's most likely only interested in one thing, and not deserving of your time, energy, or affection!

    Also, what the Hell kinda guy tries to pressure you into having sex with him for his birthday in exchange for an Amazon gift card? Tell him, HELL NO, YOU AIN'T NO PROSTITUTE! You don't need someone who disrespects you like this guy!

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    • miss_jass06
      3 years ago

      Exactly, well said.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        Thanks!

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    • bbrown95
      3 years ago

      You said what I wanted to say perfectly!

      OP, take this advice seriously.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        Thanks, sugar!

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        • bbrown95
          3 years ago

          No problem!

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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
    3 years ago

    It's your body so you're 100% entitled & in the right to refuse sex, but the sad honest truth is (unless he's ugly & poor) he'll more than likely dump you for it & find/pay someone else to take your place.
    I'd just leave.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      3 years ago

      I don’t think that’s a sad truth at all, he’d be doing her a favour.

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      • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
        3 years ago

        Figure of speech, I don't think it's sad either.

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        • 1WeirdGuy
          3 years ago

          Id date a chic maybe 6 months tops and if she didnt put out itd be a waste of time its time to break up. Dont wanna get alot of feelings for a girl that's gonna cause you to be celebate yoir entire life.

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          • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
            3 years ago

            I've been dumped for that reason before but it was far less than 6 months (not even 3).

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    Break up maybe

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  • SkullsNRoses
    3 years ago

    You never owe anyone sex, if he is making you uncomfortable LEAVE HIM. You will feel a billion times better.

    Also “frigid” and “prude” are words invented to shame women into having sex when they don’t want to. Ignore them. Your body your rules.

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  • Clunk42
    3 years ago

    That technically would fall under the definition of prostitution. I don't recommend it, even putting my own morals aside.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Yeah, OP's boyfriend is just an immature, horny, selfish, little jerk! He's not worth her time.

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  • Grunewald
    3 years ago

    Offering remuneration in exchange for sex is called prostitution.

    Find someone who respects you.

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  • bbrown95
    3 years ago

    Nothing about this situation is normal. He's seriously offering an Amazon gift card for you to have sex with him despite being uncomfortable and not feeling ready for it? WTF!? Also, yes, him mentioning his birthday and wanting sex on it is him trying to manipulate you into giving him sex. I also think him pressuring you this heavily only a couple of weeks into the relationship is a huge red flag.

    You need to tell him he is making you uncomfortable and that he needs to respect your boundaries. He is completely ignoring you when you tell him you're not ready and disrespecting your wishes to quit talking about it.

    It sadly sounds like he's only interested in the sex, and he has no respect for you as a person at all. I would really rethink the relationship, myself.

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  • Somenormie
    3 years ago

    Tell him no, forcing anyone to do sex is morally not ok.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      I support your assertion 100%!

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  • S0UNDS_WEIRD
    3 years ago

    AN AMAZON GIFT CARD

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  • BleedingPain
    3 years ago

    Fuck him! No one should be pressured into doing anything they don't feel comfortable doing.

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  • fatok
    3 years ago

    You should at least give him a blowjob

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    Just have sex with him

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    3 years ago

    Guys are naturally more horny than girls. If you arent comfortable with it dont do it. But also know if you do not ever have sex with your boyfriends they will all find someone else that will and leave you. Guys dont wanna spend their lives jerking off and getting rejected by the one they love.

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  • jethro
    3 years ago

    Well geeze. How much was the Amazon gift card for? It might be worth it.

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