My boyfriend refuses sex.

It's only been three months. You shouldn't be pressuring anyone to have sex ever let alone after 3 months and ESPECIALLY if he's a victim of sexual abuse. It could take a years for him to get over it. If you really cared for him sex wouldn't even be an issue

I think the person that submitted his story is utterly ridiculous. Apparently you do not love him if you can come on here and complain bc it's taking him so long go get over being RAPED and you need dick. That's sweet. Really. You obviously are lacking the class and are too young to handle this situation. People that get raped NEVER get "cured". Every person they meet will be held at arms length for loads of time before any kind of relationship can form. It's something you never get use to. The self hatred anyone would crush a weak person like you in seconds. I feel bad that you are the person he decided to try to return to normalcy with. I think he's showing courage and true feelings for you by trying to engage in a relationship in the first place. This is an issue that will take infinite patience and time. Even a shrink isn't gonna fix this. There's nothing that will.

I think you're going too fast. Rape victims take a while to come to terms, if you will, with their bodies. It doesn't matter what gender you are, if you get raped it will take a while. It might seem hard but you should stay with him. He needs you now. He's already taken the first step to recovery by getting a girlfriend. When he's ready, he will let you know.

I just love that koiFISH wrote masterBAIT.... Hahaaa

Masterbait. He needs alot of time. He's going through alot of trauma. Don't ever get mad at him for it. Put yourself in his shoes.

Guys, really?!? Being raped is more than having a penetration without consent. You loose control over your body, someone is breaking one of the most important thing in you; your self esteem. The guy got raped by a friend, how can he trust someone now? Can you imagine what the guy is going through?! He will have trust issues for a long time and it is not overreacting. He cannot have sex because it might remind him the failure of trusting the wrong person, add the fact that nobody cares about how he felt. When we say "stop" an the person continues, and it is someone you trust, you dont understand what is happenin and you feel betrayed, disgusting, you feel like a cum dumpster. That feeling is not something that goes away. Its been 5 years since i got raped and i start to recover. No offense but its not with a stupid bimbo like you that it will get better. You complain because you want sex when he gives you what you really need; love, trust and affection. Do him a favor and buy urself a dildo and suck it up. Its because of freakin selfish princess like you that some of us never recover. If you are afraid of something, will he force you to do it? No. Because he loves you and he understands. As for the gay and rape joke in the comments, i almost hope you suffer as muh as i did, as he does to maybe stfu. Grow up

Thats something your either going to have to stick by him for or leave him for. Its going to take a good while till hes actually is ok with anything sexual. Hes still in deep trauma and may need more help than you can give him. If your fed up maybe its time to move on, because that is not going to solve itself over night.

You can't be "cured" from rape. He will hold this trauma for the rest of his life. The fact that you are so selfish that you are frustrated due to 3 months of dating without having sex tells me you really don't care for him much at all.

The fact that you say "cured of rape" tells me you don't even begin to empathize with what he is going through. If you truly love him stop thinking about your own needs and worry about his.. If you can't do this you need to leave so his healing can begin!

You said yourself you love him, if you did you would wait. I think the guys got balls dating someone after that i would be a wreck myself, so what if he doesnt want to have sex at the moment its not that important, dont let your desires ruin what could be a good relationship

YOU ARE SOOO INSENSITIVE!!!!! I don't blame him for that at all. That's something that will haunt him for the rest of his life and you think that he's gonna just pop up and be like "I'm all better! Take it off!" NO!!! Goodness. Try talking to him about it and helping him out through this.

By the way, love does NOT equal sex. And 3 months is no where near long enough.

I am just finished my second year of studying to be a psychologist, specializing in sexual abuse and incest related traumas. As much as it goes against my instincts as a soon to be psychologist to judge anyone, I think your post is amazingly selfish and shows a phenominal lack of empathy. Your boyfriend may never be sexually normal again. I understand that it hurts when he insults you, but he is just taking it out on you because he is naturally full of anger about what happened to him. To be honest, I don't think that you sound old enough to deal with something this serious, you sound out of your depth. If you do love your boyfriend, support him, get him some serious councilling, and be incredibly, incredibly patient. Don't push him for sex, at all, it will only scar him further.

If you really love him wait and be there for him

go buy sex toy and stp thinking with ur harmones and wait a while...i mean he was raped by a MAN that was his FREND tht wud be very tramatizing for him so be kind and caring not a horny jerk

He was raped a year ago. By one of his friends, who he trusted. That friend violated that trust. WTF do you expect. It takes some rape victuims a LONG time to get over something that terrible thats happened in their lives. I dont think he should go as far as calling you disgusting, but think of how you would feel if you were raped by a friend. I think he has alot of courage to be in a realtionship this early. I know I wouldnt be able to do it. Stick with him or leave. Either way GTFO yourself. Just sayin'.

You're being incredibly heartless!

Frankly, he doesn't deserve someone with an attitude as selfish as yours.

People aren't "CURED" of rape... it can stay with them for the rest of their lives.

If you truly loved him, you would be there to support him. Have you even bothered to suggest he sees a counsellor or - SHOCK HORROR - that he can talk to you about anything he needs to?!

Two simple choices: Have patience or move on.

You are nothing but a naive little girl to be perfectly honest. It sickens me to read what you have just written, you have only posted this beceause you don't understand. You don't understand what it is like for him and let's bloody hope you never do find out, I was raped when I was 15 and I am now 18. Since then no man has been worthy of my trust, a stranger raped me and I've come to terms with that but your boyfriend was betrayed in trust by a friend. I can't imagine the pain he is going through. I suggest you break up with him if you are going to carry on being as naive and selfish as you are because to be honest he doesn't need any more pressure or upset in his life. He doesn't deserve it.

I echo most of the points here already made: rape has serious psychological consequences on the person (male or female) and many people never fully recover from it.

If you love him that much, you have to persuade him to see a shrink or else he will remain damaged for the rest of his life. Sex is the least of all his problems here. If he feels small or that he is nothing more than a sex object, he will always have low self-esteem for the rest of his life. He will be refusing you sex for a very very long time until he can get this sorted out.

So... you say you really love him? Well... now is a fantastic time to prove it. Let's see if you if you will stick with him right until the very end. May I recommend you don't use the word 'love' lightly? You know, there are obligations attached to that very word.

If it annoys you now then ask yourself will it annoy you in 10 years. Rape can scar a person for life and you need to be sure you can life with that.

He probably needs professional help.

Do not pressure him. He needs time to heal. It may be years before he is able to have sex. You have to decide if it is worth it for you to wait.

My gawd woman, he was raped by a dude, hes probably scared crapless of any form of intimacy... I would be if i were raped by a woman D:

I wouldnt say theres anything to lose in sticking with him though, its not like hes using you for your body...

This post disgusts me. I was raped when I was about 9. I am now 20... and trust me, there is no "cure". Show him as much love and support as you can. But give him his space.

you really shouldnt be mad at him, hes been through a tramatic thing in the past and needs time to get over it. he probably wants to have sex with you but just can do it because it probably leads his thoughts back to when he was raped you need to wait and wait as long as he needs tbh. he probably just needs you to respect that.

In my experience as a rape victim, you can never truly get over rape. But eventually you can have sex and enjoy it. Sorry to say, a year is not nearly enough time to get over that. If you really think about it, three months isnt that long and sex doesnt make the whole relationship. i do feel bad for you though these people sound really judgmental.

He needs something special therapy.
Like councelling or meet doctor.
And be patient.

He was raped around a year ago and you been dating for just three months WTF do yo expect? Seriously! He has SO much courage to being with you despite of his HUGE trauma and aparently your selfisness! When I was 5 I was almost raped, thank god I wasn't but just that was really traumatizing. The feeling that I still can remmenber was the strongest one: FEAR. I was terrified. No wonder he is.
I agree with most of the coments but especially this ones: yeathatgirl Ashyy sarah11111 tani.
Buy toys and as Mag!ck said: love waits.

Love waits

He's insecure, as a girlfriend you need to help him get over his problem, talk to him about it, tell him how you feel. But most importantly, dont push him, its just provoking more aggressive behavior and eventually he'll lash out.

wow don't push him so much. I have the same issue and I am very sensitive now because of what happened.

Be patient, he went through something very traumatic! Buy some sex toys and be understanding! Imagine if it was you and he started getting mad, it would make u feel so much worse!

Can't you just have sex with someone else if you need your hole filled that badly? Three months is nothing, leave the dude alone.

Stop being horny and respect him... What would u feel like if u were raped?

everyone is going crazy over this rape cure thing. i honestly just think she picked the wrong word to describe it. maybe heal would be a better one.
you've never not been able to think of the right word to describe something before? jesus, people, take a chill pill.

woww. thats something serious. i mean, im sure it fucked him up pretty bad in the head. i wouldnt get mad at him for it. i would pleasure myself in the mean time and be patient with him. he may need professional help.

Your boyfriend suffered something horrible, he needs time to heal. He probably needs your love and support to recover from the experience, be patient and stay by his side (unless your relationship is bad of course, don't stay with someone out of pity)

You sound like a bitch. Fuck off a leave the guy's balls alone. You've survived how many years without sex? A few more aren't going to kill you. Jam a fucking zucchini up your ass if you're that desperate.

That is horrible that your bf got raped. He should go to counseling and if you love him you'll wait until he is ready and if you don't love him just move on.

THAT IS NOT RIGHT

he was raped! leave him alone, how would you feel in his shoes

It takes as long as it takes. If you love him, let him get over it in his own time.

oh n get a dictionary lol u never get "cured" of nythin. u only re-"cover" it n (subconsciously) adjust n accept with the new circumstances n think that nothin happened cuz tht experience is virtually over but trust me its not... u dont change the past... u create another present on its foundation making it "look" like (only to ur society, not even urself) that past was never there...

You don't fucking cure from rape. That's bullshit.

But aside from that, I think you should just wait, he needs time to get over what happened. He'll be ready in time.

Rape is a serious thing but show to him that you are there for him every step of the way and help him through any problems a he will feel more secure around you this might take time and slowly make progress hope it helps

I think you should do him a favour and just leave him if getting laid is such a big deal to you!What makes you think having sex with him is gonna help someone whose been sexually abused?!?

aww im sure you will come round to it when hes ready, soon he will realise what he is missing out on. He obviously respects you, your time will come :)

You need to be more open minded. Good God...

(This is the girl of the story speaking) - well, some of your comments are pretty harsh. First of all, right after my boyfriend got raped, he told the police and his parents took him to a psychologist. So he's receiving professional help. I proposed relationship therapy, but he doesn't want me near his psychologist. I have urges plus he's really hot, so I am getting sexually frustrated, but of course I won't force him. Besides as I do love him, I will stick with him.

He need's a psychologist.

your a FUCKING bitch back off he was raped and your a whore. how could you be mean to him he doesnt wanna sleep with you its only been three months let him fucking get to no u and why dont you stop tryig to rape him

WHORE.....

you are going to end raping him too control yourself

Don't be so selfish, you fking retard

Well if you need a release I'm here for you ;)

I'm amazed at the criticism of the word "cured", the ' either side of the word is there for a reason, are some people to stupid to see that?

You sure he's not gay? Hey, it happens.

2words. HAVE PATIENTS

Three months isnt that long. You should talk with him, and try to move him past his fear of the past. You need to be more sympathetic to his situation

It’s not an easy situation. If you really love your boyfriend you should be patient and loving. Try to seduce him. He is a male after all.
Have a shower and don't use any perfume, leave the scent of soap only. Make him breathe your skin by going closer and closer. Don’t touch him. Make him touch you. When you feel you are close just stop and play again next day, week or so.
It would take time, don’t push him, don’t hurry.
Wish you both a good luck!

i m still surprised ...this girl trying to get some help but u people just laugh and joke ...be serious for a little bit ...we are here to share our problems and look how we figure out solutions by giving serious advices ...at least just by supporting her ...i don't know why u people so rude and cruel ....

if he was raped then u need to give him time. he dsnt have a cold, theres no maximum amount of time for him to get over this. If loving him means u need to have sex with him
then maybe u shuldnt date him. just sayin.

1st of all you seem to be a teenager....coz u care much about sex....! a relationship is not only about sex..but understanding and patience...by a time like that a guy fills down and even ashamed to look at u...thats if u have an idea of psychology.....! let him be...dont mention anything about sex or the incident....just speak with ur actions....do evrything to make him have a hardon and u will get the fuck of ur life

It's very normal for both him to fear sex and you to feel the long for it.ultimately, being raped or taken advantage of is the most violating thing. And having sex is a very vulnerable and emotional act.

i don't know if someone asked this already, but just making sure. you're a girl, right? i just don't want to be thinking strange thoughts..

Don't force him. Vote here: http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-make-people-believe-i-am-rich-77960/

Do NOT force him not matter what

Leave him alone! Its only been a year and if you cant be more sensitve maybe you shouldnt be with him.Imagine if you werre raped

Your gonna have to wait a long time before you get any maybe he should see someone about it

if he can't f*** you? go f*** yourself! :)thats the best thing to do..

he needs councelling. this happened too my sister.

Absolutely normal; just think how you would feel if you had been raped and he made a move on you - the memory will always be there, but he should see a therapist and work on it.

Ask him why he didn't cut the guys dic off . I would have chopped his pecker off and shoved it up his ass. Lol

Put a bag over your head

'It hurts' it hurts you because he refuses you. He was raped by his friend, and yet you are the one complaining YOUR the hurt one? get a grip, all most guys that age want to do is have sex, you should count yourself lucky that he isn't pushing you. How would you feel if you were raped and he was posting questions online saying it hurts when he refuses you?
Either break up or be a bit more considerate.

They never heal. It will be like this for the for the rest of your life. deal with it.

I'll bang you for now.

Lollolololol.

Strap him to the fkin wall

why is everyone being harsh to the author?, i agree that she should wait and just be there for himbut calling her a "Bimbo" isn't going to solve anything.

Point 1: Imagine you've been raped and then a guy, forget sex, even coming to touch you.
Though you're in a relation, you'll have to consider and understand his situation. The guy's been raped by a....'guy' for god's sake!!
I believe, you should be more of a girlfriend and wait.
Point 2: Why is it that nothing satisfies girls? Ask for sex a bit regularly and we're being perverts...don't want sex, the girl freaks out.

Solution: If you really know what a 'girlfriend' is, you should take the lead and put in your effort to get your so called 'boyfriend' out of his trauma slow and steady.
Fuck....you aren't even a 'girlfriend' if you care more about sex than your boyfriend's life-changing incident!!

You are so mean! If I were him I'd break up with u!!!! When u are raped, u are scarred for fricken life!! How can u expect him to have sex with u when u have only been going out for three fricken months?! Especially when he was recently raped? Think about how he must feel! Have u ever been raped? U don't know how it feels. It feels horrible! Be his support! Don't just push him like that! Your A PSYCHO!!!!!

Meanwhile he's not fucking you, I'd say... USE A CUCUMBER!! Or goto a Chinese super market and buy a PALSAM APPLE if you're really that desperate for a good fuck!!

In Fact, HOW do you KNOW he has been raped?? He could be in conflict crisis trying to deal with VERY Homosexual reactive behavior when You as a Normal Female try to intiate a sexual event with him. He could be 100% Homosexual and has NOT come to grips with that very stressful conflict. It is very damaging to both Him and YOU not to get to the TRUTH of his "rape" event if, in fact, there really was one. INVESTIGATE With CARING Tact and you will get to the bottom of this VERY CLASSIC scenario.

well this is hard to say but i was raped when i was 4......... im 16 now and i recovered when i reached puberty and now i REALLY REALLY want to have sex so dont worry too much just give him time and he should be back to normal

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!

Your a flaming idiot, and that's the mice shut I have to say. How dare you!!!

Your friend need professional help!

I know its mean but try therapy

Probably Gay...

hm interesting...however he shouldn't be calling you disgusting etc thats just wrong...and I guess it's hard to understand, he need therapy but it's not like you will be penetrating him, he will be penetrating you!!

He is secretly gay and using you, no questions about it.

maybe ur really ugly, or face reminds him of the rapist

you must suck at sex... simple

looks like hes been scared pretty badly.

try takeing of your clothes and letting him touch u

believe me, it's far too soon. me and my boyfriend had sex after dating for two months and the relationship got too serious too quick and we are no longer together because of it. you don't need sex to show him that you love him, just enjoy getting to kow him and learn about his likes and dislikes. that way, when it comes round to having sex you'll both enjoy it more.

Hmm well i would sit down and talk to him and tell him how much he means 2 to you, but if he isn't ready why rush it, i would give him awhile, but he might not recover, i have friends who were raped n one is always horny and the other is scard, (there both males)

ask him if he told the police about it. if he did and still feels bad then hes in so much trauma

you are a thick piece of shit

IDK, I was sexually assaulted a few times and am bisexual and sometimes I don't have sex just to be a cunt.

I use to have a bf that raped, he had a heart attack after he was raped. And no, I didn't rape him. Why would I do that to my boyfriend.

Try to understand him yaar. Give him time. The first comment is the perfect.

First of all, learn to wait and stop being a rapist. He does it when he's ready because the more you pressure him, your going to push him away. And I'm telling you that he doesn't
have to have sex with you unless he's ready to.

look your boyfriend got RAPED of coures he would be scared he got RAPED by a MALE FRIEND i would be scared to and feel dirty even though i am not a guy atleast he tells you that you need to stop me and my boyfriend we tryed to but i felt dirty too just dont rush it we have been dateing for 5 years and i just cant. just take it slow have in see someone or just wait or ask him to talk about it just wait he will come around

Tell him he can rape u if he wants it may help just a thought

Absolutely Interrorgate him with questions and he might be Gay .... maybe say I'm sure you'll be great in bed common i want you inside of me making love ..i love u ..u love me let's get it on ...then give him the option of just oral sex first then ask him if he could slide in you with a condom ..if he loves u then he would make love to you!

rape him

i think youre just ugly and he doesnt want to let you know

My boyfriend was raped as a teenager, by a classmate. He has told me that he hasn't been the same sense. Emotionally, he is not the same. Sexually, he is distant. "Cured" of rape? Are you that ignorant? All I can say is you clearly cannot empathize him, nor know the nature of what he is going through. And truthfully, I can only hope it happens to you, you ignorant, self-entitled bitch.

Maybe you should go talk to him about it instead of polling the internet heh

Viagra in a sandwich.

Well..it depends on how the person handles it. His fear of it may last for a while. I was harrassed when i was 10 and it bothered me for 3 years but who knows how long it will take for your bf. Its a huge emotional challenge that will always need patience and care. For now, you can kiss and hug and let him go further when he's ready

Look he is just going through something and he is scared and FYI don't have sex until you are married

well if i were raped *wich ill never be because im black*i will have sex with a women to feel like a man again

as a real boy i say he is gay
i would of f***ed you first date cause your proble hot

I was molested a couple times when I was about 9 and until about age 14 I couldn't even bring my self to kiss a girl, so it could take a while depending on his age and the level of emotional/mental scarring he has.

He's been through something traumatic. Getting raped is terrible, but getting raped by a "good friend" must be even worse. He needs time to heal and he needs you to be understanding and there for him. Maybe, he should see a therapist to talk about it and help with the recovery process.

You know this whole situation makes me think of a song. His mistakes by Usher. You should listen to it and you'll get what I mean. The song says he loves her and wants to do anything for her, but is sick of being accused for things he hasn't done. I think you shouldn't leave him because he trusts you and if you leave him now, while he needs you the most it's going to be really hard for him to trust anyone ever again. I get that you want sex but just do what everyone else commented, masturbate.

I can't believe you people!!! Wanting to rush into sex and all....no offense this is my belief js!! Wait till your married that's probably what he is waiting for... If your so horny all the time quit it..,, smh

I'm shocked, usually it's the other way around! I might be worried in your position.

Hard to say without knowing anything more about the situation. You should at least mention your age too. I was molested when I was five years old, but this doesn't apply to me because no one's willing to sleep with me anyway (that I know of, and not including hookers).

There is the possibility that he's not attracted to you, but since he shivers and gets scared, he might actually be attracted to you after all. There is a fear that can come over an inexperienced person if they're about to have sex with someone they are attracted to. But it's hard to tell if the fear is all due to the rape incident or if some of it's for the attraction scenario I just described, or maybe a combination of both.

once you go black you never go back

Don't mess around with his back door no matter what!

Just wait till you ge raped up the butt by someone you trust!! You sick loser!!

Well for what its worth, not ALL rape victims take forever to heal. I was raped repeatedly as a kid and you know what? first girl i nailed was an amazing experience. Not that everyone shares the same story i do, but not everyone deals with trauma the same. That said, I agree with many others that you are way too immature to handle this. Sex has to be an "us" thing...you are making it a "you" thing...no bueno. Never gonna work out.

unfortunately that is normal. Rape is a very serious thing and it causes serious issues. your bf should really seek some sort of help.

In some cases rape victims will never want to have a sexual experience again.

You may have to choose if he is worth giving up sex all together.

a possibility is to remain only friends while he gets psychological help.

You have to let him chose when hes ready because
Ive also been raped beforeby a former friend and i wasent ready with my girlfriend for about 2 years. Tell him that when hes ready you guys can have sex

Masturbate in front of him. And rub 'it' so fucking hard that it must get him to take off his cloths. You know what I mean.

what a funny guy.

Give him time... Trust me... It takes a very long time to get over rape. I was molested when I was younger, and till about age 8 I would cry and run if any older man spoke to me. Even my own father. Give it time... A lot of time. It's hard to know what it feels like to have your body violated.

It is normal for you to want to be intimate with your boyfriend, but this man needs therapy because he obviously needs time to deal with with the trauma of what happened. He is not ready to be a part of a relationship right now. YOU need to move on. This is not the man for you right now. Let him seek out (if he's ready) the help he needs so he can one day move on with a healthy relationship, and you need to move on so that you may also find a healthy relationship.

Possibility he'll never get over it.

I don't know if you'll see this, but I am a man with experience on how long it takes to get over being sexually assaulted by someone you knew and trusted. However, before I tell you I must say you have two choices and your decision has everything to do with the answer to the following question. Do you love him enough that you want to be with him for the rest of your life? If yes then keep reading.

If you want the short answer? He may never get over this completely and have episodes where he's strange and can't handle physical intimacy. Realistically, two years should be enough to get him back to something like normal. However, if you are patient and let him be in control physically all the time he is more likely to be able to trust you and have sex some of the time. But it always has to be about what he wants, not even what he's willing to do, just what he wants. This is something incredibly selfless for you to willing accept. You can't do anything without him asking for it. Until he begins to want sex on a semi-regular basis you won't even be able to bring up the subject. I know that's a big deal, and lot to tell someone, but that's the problem with not being able to trust even the woman you love. It doesn't matter that he was raped by a man, you're still someone he knows and should be able to trust, and it was someone he trusted that did this to him. That he can't trust you all the time isn't your fault or his. I have one final piece of advice on contingency. When he has a flash back, does he freeze up? Freezing up causes a memory to stick in the short term memory preventing the brain from processing trauma and getting over it. If you back off physically when he's having an episode of PTSD and tell him to shake it will help him process the trauma. Scientist aren't sure why, but freezing physically causes the trauma to stick in the memory. Any movement at all during a flash back may help, though this advice is noted to have a greater effect when the trauma is more recently received.

im wondering how old u r ? just cuz ur question seems pretty immature ur bf has had a devastating experiance he may never get over especially if his own gf cant b understanding about it ... he def needs professional help.... just urm " take care of yourself ;)" if u catch my drift and try b patient n 3 months isnt long he wud have major trust issues.

i myself was molested and raped. it took me forever to finally have the confidence to have sex. i still do have issues with having sex to this day. i was molested and raped when i was 6 years old. i still do cry during sex, i get those flashbacks. and so i can relate to the boyfriend, he just need time and patience from you. he needs much of support you can give him. just remember love overcomes all.

He should seek therapy if he hasn't already. I have no experience being in a relationship with a man who has been sexually molested while in the relationship so I couldn't say what is going on with him. I can imagine that his sense of self; his masculinity is threatened. However, what IS puzzling about what you have mentioned is that he finds sexual intercourse with a woman to be dirty. Had he expressed any disdain for you or for other women as sexual partners prior to his being sodomized?

I was only molested and I don't line two be close to guys, even ones the I had a close relationship with, I can't stand it

He will never get over being raped he is scared for life maybe talk about it and just say you want to have sex with him and not rape him. What if you were raped by your best friend? Masturbate could help maybe in front of him.

*alone

force it upon him....cuff him.

is he gay give him my number and i'll share some aids.

If my friend was hot, I would loved to get raped by them. :)

Wew... So many comments. Guess your question's been answered... I'm not much of help here. NEXT!!

he's got to forgive himself and the person before he moves on well. I had to..but not for rape, but molestation cases..of my father. but i am at the point now of forgiveness fully and consentually within myself. now i can move on well and go good beyond what i ever thought and considered i could imagine. forgive first. teach him this and help him through it if you love him or care about him..but be sensitive. have him talk it out for you and say you'll be right there. don't be a princess, tell him your faults and failures too. you're a human after all. good luck!

let him lead you into it, if it wasnt for the part about rape i'd say this is completely not normal. maybe start with a serious makeout session and try to make it go that extra mile
good luck :D

sumthin tells me this is a "little" bit too serious to be a troll...
hmmmm.... u kno wut u r bich :D
if u cant understand n feel his pain despite havin the 40 sq metres of skin god has given u then u r no better than n earthwurm cuz neither does it has a brain nor organs, but it can feel so its better than u o.o

go fk urself :D

he needs to get help (u can help him get it) but u need to get a phyciatrisr for him,as for u its not healthy to be in a relationship like this,u need to break up sadly

Three months still new in relationship, if you love him, then you need some mutual understanding here with him, don't push to hard..he's in trauma? instead what the hell happening here why men raping him?
must be some story here..

he might gay previously before he know you...otherwise how come this happend? it's really weird to me..