My cousin’s baby died but i don’t feel bad

Having slightly lower empathy doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, it can sometimes be an advantage as you mentioned with your emotionally intense former job.

Grief affects people differently and you are allowed not to be devastated by a death, especially if the deceased was not a large part of your life.

You recognise that your friend needs support right now and that’s what’s important.

It sounds like you compartmentalize a little too well. It is useful when dealing with trauma patients as you don't carry their baggage with you and can offer the support they need. Good in dealing with stranger's problems. But you should be able to turn that off so you can connect with loved ones. It's hard for me to understand as I am incredibly empathetic at times. And I can't say what is wrong with you. You know you should have empathy. Don't pretend that you do as it's dishonest and won't help in the long run. I can't imagine what it's like to not care when someone is in pain. But I also know that sometimes I don't care when someone is suffering if I have judged them undeserving of my energy. I think that's pretty normal too. I wonder if maybe you are feeling more than you are aware of but repressing it in an effort to stay strong. Or numb.

Was it before you were a CNA? That job would be depressing for alot of people maybe it was a cope.

“ Am I just a bad cold-blooded self-centered fake person? “

Yes

“My friend is depressed and I love her but I don’t feel bad”

Hate to say it but if you don’t have enough affective empathy to feel bad for your own friend then you don’t love them.

I dont think its 'coz u lack empathy or are a psychopath. What i think is that u feel like u just have had it worse than everybody else and just dont have room for anybody elses sad stories.
Are u suicidal? Just to let u know, if u commit suicide somebody out there is gonna laugh about it so dont ever do it

If you are not close to someone then it is kind of hard to feel bad if they pass on. It doesn't mean you're a bad person or anything

Psychopaths don’t have emotions, or empathy at all. Zero. And if you read my very long post, you’d know that I do have emotions and empathy but just in certain situations - felt bad for my mom not taking care of herself but not when she was crying/grieving for my grandma’s death for example

Psychopaths may even hurt ppl and feel no remorse - while I have cried after having a physical fight with a sibling after seeing a bruise on his arm, psychopaths would have felt good about it. And I’m telling you I have feelings of remorse, regrets, conscience and pain like any other normal people. All other emotions are completely intact except this little word called “empathy” so don’t read too much into it.

Also, I didn’t want to be “seen” as a psychopath which why I sometimes fake my empathy. I also wrote that in my post. And if I wanted that I would’ve posted this on twitter instead of here where no one knows me

I think it's good you have enough empathy to at least act like you care more than you do. I went through emotional exhaustion at the end of last year. My sister's roommate died on my mom's birthday a week before Christmas and they didn't realize until blood had settled and he was purple. Then, on Christmas Eve, her best friend was shot and murdered.

I was so busy helping my sister grieve these people and grieving them myself, I felt nothing when I was told my grandfather died. I still haven't cried for him, really. And I want to. But by the time he died, I just couldn't do it anymore. So maybe, in a weird way, I understand.

Meh, normal.