My experiences proving shy men never try

Yeah, it's a two way street for sure.

Not all shy people are like that though, and some do try.

You would need to experience at least 25 and perhaps as many as 50 randomly selected shy men to come to any viable conclusion.

If you are picking them its not random as you may be filtering out the guys who would really work out due to something you sense about them.

I think young guys today are way too reserved. I used to host Christmas parties for our company and there would be lots of nice girls just waiting for boys to ask them to dance and the boys would sit all together looking at their phones. I even tried giving out gift card to any of them who danced, an none of them moved. I don’t understand it.

Pretty sure this isn't about being shy since you said yourself that you're shy as well, so blaming "shy"ness for it seems like a contradiction, no ?

Also, if those shy guys aren't normal, then how are you ?

Just because they're not acting the way you want them to, doesn't mean that there's something wrong with them... rather how about you act like a normal human and accept the fact that people are different and actually get to know them properly ?

Have you actually spoken with any of those guys for weeks or months to see if they open up and get more talkative or did you just stop meeting them as soon as you had a "bad" experience ?

That's just being a jerk. Some people don't know how to talk to others, and they don't know what other people want to talk about, so they don't talk until other people talk. For example, most of the things that I have a lot of fun talking about are things that you don't just bring up randomly, and, if you were to bring it up randomly, you'd look stupid.

I never really liked starting conversations because I don't like small talk, and, as I said before, just randomly bringing up things like heresies is really stupid. Those things only make sense to talk about if they come naturally through the discussion. Since they have to come into the discussion, rather than just being brought up out of nowhere, that results in having to participate in small talk, which bores me.

It seems to me that you're just kind of being a jerk to people who don't know how to talk, or aren't interesting in regular conversation. Like I said, some people can't just go and talk about whatever they find interesting, because what they find interesting is very likely not interesting to the other person, and, besides that type of thing, they don't know what will be interesting to discuss until someone else mentions it.

Of course they thought it was amazing, they didn’t have to do anything. You’re right though, some people need to learn to make some effort if they want friends or a partner, especially for awkward straight men seeking a girlfriend the Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope has fed into the ridiculous idea that a bubbly woman will “save him”.