My favourite teacher suddenly hates me or suddenly dislikes me?

I’m an 18 year old girl who has just finished her first year at college in art and design. I found out that I couldn’t stop on to do level 2 art and design this year as I have depression and too many personal issues. Well , during the year I made a positive relationship with my tutor , friendship nothing more , and I’m not expecting anything romantic or sexual as she’s married and well I’m a student and she’s a tutor. We would talk about personal issues and some pretty deep stuff and I told her about my past and she understood and she had a lot of empathy as she also went through depression she would also calm me down and let me cry in front of her without judging me or telling me stop. She helped me through a lot of stuff. I admired her a lot. She helped me with my work and she would let me stay behind after class and we would sit and talk and joke around. We joked every lesson and she always made me laugh and she found me amusing. She would also talk to me if she seen me around in the art block and smile and wave to me every time she seen me and she always made an effort to talk or communicate in some way with me every time she saw me. I liked her and I told her I was a lesbian as she was on about me having kids or a husband and she was totally cool about it and said there’s students who are bisexual. She would always compliment me on my outfits and shoes and would sometimes sit with me after college in the art block just talking to me without me starting the conversation first. I brought her some presents as I was leaving and she loved them I brought her a pen with her name on it , a crystal healing pen , some Bruno bars as that was her favourite chocolate bar and a fairy wishing jar and I even brought her a thank you card and wrote a message in it for her. On the last day when we were saying good bye she agreed to add me on Facebook so I tried adding her and inboxed her explaing who I was. And I tried to follow her on instagram but she blocked me on Instagram then changed her privacy settings so I can’t look at it on any other account and she blocked my freind request on Facebook only literally two days after saying goodbye. I thought ok maybe she had personal issues and reasons for this but she wouldn’t even answer my emails of me asking to send her the story I wrote that she didn’t get chance to read when she was busy with marking so I couldn’t publish it as it won’t let me so I asked if I could email it her but she ignored me and I apologied for adding her on Facebook and I apologised if she took it the wrong way and also i applied for a health and social course and needed her to sign and fill in some papers about me otherwise I couldn’t get on the course or get offered a place and I explained that to her and she just completely ignored me. Now I think she hates me or dislikes me and I feel like she’s pushed me away and I feel like I should have never trusted her or opened up to her and I keep getting depressed and crying as I feel so low for what she had gone an or telling me stop. She helped me through a lot of stuff. I admired her a lot. She helped me with my work and she would let me stay behind after class and we would sit and talk and joke around. We joked every lesson and she always made me laugh and she found me amusing. She would also talk to me if she seen me around in the art blockalk or communicate in someas she was it and said there’s students who are biseShe would always compliment me on my outfits and shoes and would sometimes sit with me after college in the ajust talking to me without me starting the conversation first. I brought her some presents as I was leaving and shethem I brought her a chance to read when she was busy with marking so I couldn’t publish it as it won’t let me so I asked if I could email it her but she ignored me and I apologied for adding her on Facebook and I apologised if she took it the wrong way and also i applied for a health and social course and needed her to sign and fill in some papers about me otherwise I couldn’t get on the course or get offered a place and I explained that to her and she just completely ignored me. Now I think she hates me or dislikes me and has completely pushed me away

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Comments ( 13 )
  • RoseIsabella

    Where are you going to school that you have to have a tutor, and that your tutor has to sign off on stuff for you? I'm sorry that this chick got all weird with you, and I can't say why she did, but if you're having a problem try talking to a counselor on campus or maybe seek out your department head, tell him or her about the trouble with this person not helping you with the paperwork you need.

    Yeah, sometimes it is better not to open up too much to people. I'm sorry you're having this problem.

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  • leggs91200

    Typical female millennial. The paperwork part is not common but the blocking and ignoring is very common.

    As I am in the gen X age range, I do not now why millennials (especially females) act that way.
    For some reason, younger women get this rush out of just ignoring and blocking others on their social media.
    My 26 year old room mate has gone through this several times with people who seem cool but then one day for no apparent reason, they just block her on every social media that exists. My room mate is just a normal lady, not like some ax murderer or anything.
    Maybe they have a lot of hatred and this is their way of indirectly getting even for some wrong-doing that someone did to them.
    All I can say is these bitches will be sorry in a few short years when no one is paying attention to them, when no one is begging or even asking for their friendship. At that point when they go through and block others on every social page, no one will even notice or care.

    I know these days when I notice someone is not on my very short FB friend list, I always ask, "Hmm, I wonder when that one vanished?" I use FB about as much as a fat person uses their gym membership.

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  • sissycakes

    I think your teacher should sign the papers and still be friendly with you. I also think that maybe what another person said about the teacher being afraid of being fired could be the problem. Maybe her boss said something about it. I hope all will be well with you.

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  • SwickDinging

    She probably felt a bit overwhelmed by it all. It sounds like you were really intense with her. And that's completely fine because you were going through a tough time and you needed extra support, but it must have been hard for her to deal with all of that for so long, plus all the presents and then adding her on social media. The teachers I know all completely avoid students on social media regardless of the situation because they're trying to protect their jobs. To cut you off though is just wrong. She's the teacher, she's the adult, she should have spoken to you about her concerns but instead she chose the childish route of ignoring you. In regards to the essay stuff you could complain about it to her supervisor, but as for the emotional/Facebook stuff there's not much you can do.

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  • lordofopinions

    Very rambling and repetitive but I think the gifts might have given her the idea you wanted to go to the next level in your relationship but she is married and straight. Now she avoids all contact with you.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Are you aware that you have repeated your story on your post? I would fix that so people won't just not read it, because it looks über long. Also, paragraphs would be a really nice touch.

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    • raisinbran

      I'm surprised you have the patience to read through a huge block of text like that. It shows complete disregard toward readers.

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      • RoseIsabella

        I guess I was really bored, I'm a bit of an insomniac. I probably should not have read it, because she still hasn't fixed it.

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        • Amytorr

          If you don’t like it you don’t have to keep coming back to look at it

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          • RoseIsabella

            I just think if you fixed it, and maybe used a couple of paragraphs more people would read and respond to your post. The more people who read and respond to your post the more different perspectives on solving your problem you will get. I assume you want people to actually read and respond, right?

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            • Amytorr

              Yeah

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      • Amytorr

        Oh well

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    • Amytorr

      I didn’t realise I did

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