My friend grinds my gears - i now don't like her as much

Hi there;

I've met this really nice girl in a trade school in 2012 and we got along great and ended up being friends and we still are today.

My friend is great, she's outgoing, looks great and has a heap of confidence in herself.

In the past, couple of years, she's been studying abroad in Israel and I was so supportive of her. She had this boyfriend in Israel and he dumped her on NYE of this year and she just changed dramatically...
She gave up all her ambitions and career plans in Israel, and came home back to Australia because her boyfriend dumped her.

I was really upset, mainly because this guy hurt her feeling but also because, I knew she had a lot of potential to just do what she does best which is studying.
Before she came home to Australia, she had a guy move into her university flat and they "did it" and he became the best thing in her life. I was super happy for her. She slowly started resenting the fact that she had no choice but to move back to Australia and never see this guy again.

When she landed in Australia she was upset and depressed. She had a good thing going in Israel - I totally understand the who break up situation. It would be hard on anyone - but no one told her to come home. That was her choice.

Anyway, since November of last year up until today - she's been talking non-stop about her boy stories/issues. She had only just landed in Australia at the beginning of February, she met some random guy a week later through a dating site, this guy took total advantage of her and she still wants to see this guy.

She then goes on and on about this boy and that boy. She's now currently talking to an ex of her - 3 different guys and she's always asking me for advice about them.

I had a fight with her the other day, because a fourth guy who she was really good friends, is madly in love with my friend. He seems like a nice guy but she's only interested in being friends with him. A couple of weekends ago, they had a fight and my friend was asking me for advice on this guy.

I blew up and basically told her to stop being such a dickus tease. Because with this friend - they were close and hugging and lovey - I seriously thought they were going to date.

Anyway, I don't care about her love life, I think it's amazing she can attract so many guys but I just don't want to talk to her about men anymore. I have my own partner and I love him to bits. She goes on about 4 different guys - she's searching for this one true guy which is normal but that's all we ever talk about.

When I talk to her about some thing else, she almost never has any kind of input in the subjects I want to talk about. It's always just about her and boys and sometimes she makes fun of her other friends which I don't like.

We're not very compatible in a sense, that she's more out going than I am and we got along fine but still - she's kind of gotten on my nerves. I'm not sure if I'm in the wrong.

I'm not sure if how I'm feeling about my friend is the right feelings to have.

Sorry about my long message!!

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Comments ( 11 )
  • RoseIsabella

    Yeah, she sounds annoying.

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  • EmoGoddes666

    Tell her everything straight up.

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  • 53739

    She sounds obsessed with herself.

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    • sour_cherries86

      She is a little bit obsessed - she even admitted that she has so many guys as options and she's never been in a position of being rejected hahaha she's a catch sometimes.

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  • GrayHulk99

    israel doesn't exist anymore f.y.i.

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    • Ellenna

      What are you talking about?

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  • green_boogers

    Send her back to Israel. Good riddance.

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  • snarkygirl

    She sounds like a drama queen. Give her some sympathy but tell her enough isvenough after a while and just change the subject or don't talk to her too frequently. Hopefully she gets the message.

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  • thegypsysailor

    Going to Israel would fuck up anybody. It is the worst place I've ever visited. Absolutely the WORST!

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    • sour_cherries86

      She really loves it there - she's obsessed :) She very culturally out there. Loves Persians, Israeli's etc...which is what I like about her.

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      • thegypsysailor

        Too each his/her own. I wouldn't go back for anything and it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if the Palestinians got their country back and the damned jews had to figure out how to build a country without stealing someone else's.

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